A new start for Mooloo

minimoneysaver

Gizmo, fab advice as always!

Mooloo, we're all here behind you. Fancy even mentioning adopting out DGD. Are they crazy? Why would they remove a child from a loving 'family' home and put her in with strangers..... oh of course that's right, too save money. Don't forget to get DGD registered with Dr, dentist & school. Make sure she's up to date on everything, so they can't catch you out. You are doing a fantastic job!

Savvy_sewing

icelandic_queen wrote: »

Can't give any advice Mooloo except to say be kind to yourself in the next few days. Let things sink in and take it from there. Perhaps you could concentrate on your sewing, have you thought of making some aprons for little people for your stall?

Funnily enough I cut one out this evening, along with a hotwater bottle cover, but it took me so long as I was so tired, and it was to keep me going as DGD was up. Just got her to bed, and she is still not asleep, but I hope she wont be long.

ifonlyitwaseasier

mooloo, all i can say is Hugs to you all

and Gizmo i am so glad you are here to help

Savvy_sewing

Errata wrote: »

Some info on what LA money should be made to available to you if you settle for Guardianship here http://www.fostering.net/news/2010/landmark-ruling-special-guardianship-allowances

Perhaps I should email that link to the Fostering team and see what they say to that one.! Thnks:T

Savvy_sewing

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Gizmo, fab advice as always!

Mooloo, we're all here behind you. Fancy even mentioning adopting out DGD. Are they crazy? Why would they remove a child from a loving 'family' home and put her in with strangers..... oh of course that's right, too save money. Don't forget to get DGD registered with Dr, dentist & school. Make sure she's up to date on everything, so they can't catch you out. You are doing a fantastic job!

She is registered with the doctor. We are seeing the dentist tomorrow. their own health check is being done at the hospital on Friday.
She is not going to be eligeable for school until she is neary 5 due to her birthday being in the October. Which is a dying shame as she i so bright.
I think I will be doing some homeschool teaching then, or she wll die of boredom if she is not stimulated enough. !
I cannot get her on to a list as yet. However I can ask the local authority which schools we are in the catchment for, and get the ofsted reports, so that I can study them and make sure we put her down for the right school.

Gizmo, thanks for the advice.
I shall get my proof of ESA, and get back on to the solicitor/lawyer who ever he was, and get another appointment sorted out.
Then I will take what ever paperwork I have to him, and all my points.
I dont want to hurry anything.
I will also get Twin1 to speak to her solicitor about things. She really sat there and just said that she didnt mind. She was very quite through out it all, and complied really with what ever they were saying.
I personally thought that it was unnecessary to say that they would put her up for adoption if I didnt have longterm care of her under eiter the residency or the guardianship.

Tomorrow its visit the boys, and thats the last I get to see of them till the end of the month as my next visit falls on the times that they are on holiday. Then we have the dentist at 12.
DS will have to get a bus to college for his interview.
Twin2 will haveto get a bus from the family centre to town, and out o where ever they have thier next core meeting or what ever it is she has at 1pm or its far too much of a rush for me.
So hopefully I will be home in the afternoon, and can enjoy some plasticine and drawing time with DGD.
DS is staying at his mates tomorrow night, so I will not have to be taxidrver, and he is out at a party in town> mmm now thats going to be interesting how is he funding that one. SEP
He can ask his Dad.

Rght I am exhausted, beyond belief. The tablets are taken, the aromatherapy spray at the ready.

If only I could get BF out of my dam mind, I might get some sleep.!

crutches

((((((((((((((((((((9hugs))))))))))))))))))0

minimoneysaver

I wonder if he is coming back on this thread? He must know that you are hurting and could really do with his support.

gizmo111

Gizmo, thanks for the advice.
I shall get my proof of ESA, and get back on to the solicitor/lawyer who ever he was, and get another appointment sorted out

You need no proof of income - in this case you could be earning £110K and still be enititled to public funds as the carer of a child in '' local authority care''.

I will help you all the way to keep DGD - I have lost your phone no - fel free to call me if you still have mine or use the PM.

Savvy_sewing

gizmo111 wrote: »

You need no proof of income - in this case you could be earning £110K and still be enititled to public funds as the carer of a child in '' local authority care''.

I will help you all the way to keep DGD - I have lost your phone no - fel free to call me if you still have mine or use the PM.

Thanks Gizmo.
I really feel I am being Pushed at the moment.

Its the midde of the ngiht, and i cannot sleep. My head is a whirling mess.
I miss my BF more than anything and i really need him now.
More then ever. But I don know what to do about it anymore.
Why did we never talk properly? I want to pick up the phone, wake him up and tell him how much I love him, and miss him.
Then the other part of me wants to say, that he knows all that, and he is still there and I am still here, so its pointless.

Another fretful night, with so much on my mind, and so many things to sort out and arrange. Too fast. Oneminute I am left to dangle by SS, the next its rush, rush, rush.

:eek::(:cry:

Savvy_sewing

Well I am up again. Having a cup of tea before the rest of the household wake up. DGD didnt go off till after 10pm last night. So I shall probably have to wake her so that we can get DS to the busstop ready to get to college for his interview. Then we have a little time to kill before we pick up twin2 for our fortnightly visit to see the boys, and the last for a month as of thier holidays.
I am worried for twin2 now, as I see that if something cannot be done soon, her boys too, will end up for adoption. I feel so guilty that I didnt keep them as well. But I know that I would not be able to cope with three of them, for a start my car isnt big enough, and neither is my house. My arm wouldnt lift the baby, etc. But I suppose deep down, I had hoped that when he was bigger, in a few years time, if they were not returned to Mum maybe they could have come to us. But that doesnt look like it will be the case. No doubt Twin2 will hear more about these options in her court proceedings tomorrow. I am worried for her, and fear that we will loose the boys out of the family.

I feel like the waking dead today. With a dull start outside, possibly raining, or has just rained, it is not making for a bright and cheery morning.
Not looking forward to the dentist either. But will have to be brave etc for I have DGD with me, and its a joint appointment.
I know I need work, have needed it for a while, when I lost a filling just after it had been put in, but i was so busy moving that I didnt go back, and now we are two years down the line!. mmmm Not a good example. But I had trouble finding a dentist. I think we only got this one as I said that I was a foster carer, and needed a dentist for her, then they asked if I was with them, and said that they werent seeing new patients until October. But by the end of the conversation she had a slot for the two of us today. !
Right this is not getting anything done, I have drunk my tea, quite fast this morning. Have put the washing on, DGD spilt stuff down her new Pj's yesterday, so a pinky colour wash on. Her new apron is blues/greens, and hopefully that will stop so much going down her front! But she is much better at eating then she was. However fingers are often still the order of the day when granny isnt looking.!

I need to wash up the dishes from last night.
Wake up DS and make him look smart for college
Wake up DGD and give her brreakfast, and get my toast.
Dress us both
And leave the house by 8 oclock at the latest. So he gets a bus.
I better get going.