A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

gizmo111 wrote: »

The social worker ( and I realise they change at an alarming rate) for DGD should have had sufficeient evidence before she was removed and placed. I struggleto understand their thinking and theat they haven't started legal proceedings as it is now mum has all Parental Responsibility and can remove child, refuse to let her go to nursery etc - I hope she doesn't but all the arrangements are on a voluntary basis. She can refuse to reduce contact , although obviously she cannot make you have her to stay. If they haven't already they will ask for CRB checks on all adults who come into contact with DGD including BF - don't be alarmed it is normal.
I have reservations that your health will allow you to get through the panel but there are other options that will still allow you to be paid and keep DGD.


The assessment you are having is not as in depth as a mainstream foster carer and don't even think about what prospective adopters have to go through. I hope seeing how throrough it is will put your mind at rest that the boys are in a safe place.

All the information will be put into a report known as a Form F and you will be allowed to read it and agree that it is accurate before it is put in front of the panel. Your history is to build up a picture of you, I personally never bother with addresses over 5 years old unless there has been a violent past marriage or something similar. Same as schools, jobs etc - I want to know how the carer became the person they are if that makes sense rather than getting anal about dates, but I guess I have been doing it for so long now my assessment skills are instinctive as well as based on small facts.

Take Care and let me know if you need any other help.

Morning,
Was up early as DS came home for the night last night. He has some work at the racecourse, so I needed to get him there,(no buses in the village). Twin1 is here, as DS persuaded her to come so we could get up early without having to wake DGD.).
I shall take her back later this morning.
They are still asleep.
Its strange to have got up, showered, gone out, come back, had my breakfast, and its still peaceful!
Mind you DGD did go to bed late last night. As we went to the supermarket after collecting everyone, after her nursery.
So I have got GMTV on the TV, starting to catch up with whats been going on in the real world and not just my little world!

Hoping to see Molly later today. Looking forward to our natters. Hopefully this week, i will not blubber all over everyone!.

Re the Social Services, BF has been warned that they are to do a CPR Check, and if DS does come back home he will also have to have one.

Yes it does make me feel safer about the boys, but if they have even more intrusion then this I hate to think what that can be.
They are police checking me, my bf, biggest of Mooloo has been done, and so has her BF.
My best friend, my ex husband, my estranged husband, are all being asked about me. So god knows what else anyone would want to know about anyone is amazing me!.

I am not looking foreward to meeting a panel and explaining why I want to foster my granddaughter, although I have already told the SW what I feel, and she will put it all into her report etc.

My health is of course the issue that worries me, rather then the rest, the rest is just brain racking, and tedious. (As I have had a different life to alot of people, its probably quite interesting to her. Although she didnt ask me about the life I had in all those different places. now that could probably be a good book!) Life in Africa, with our staff. Life in Cyprus just after the Invasion. Life in a convent.
Life as a publican. A dressmaker. A single mother? Gosh put like that I have had a varied life!

Right I better get on, and use my time a bit more wisely.

Thanks Gizmo. x

Savvy_sewing

Been to Mr T, and used some of my Coupons/clubcard vouchers as well as an instore voucher, for £5 off when you buy £25 of womens clothing. And I went around twice to make use of the vouchers offers.
Several of the things were already at half price, and with that I saved £22.50 on half price, another £10 of vouchers, and £7 in multi buy. I used £55 worth of coupons, and only spent in cash, £3.40.
Purchases, were Coat, Trousers, 2 t shirts, 2 black blouses, Pair of Gold pumps, pair of pink plimsolls, pair of white plimsolls, a swimsuit, a dress, 4 pairs of knickers, 2 bras. Cant go wrong with that really can I? (No double up or 45 x deals I wanted to take).

I also had my 5p off petrol voucher to use so saved on my fuel at the same time.

About as extravagant a money saving episode I have ever had!.

oystercatcher

I had a lovely suprise when the postman came today. My very own 'Made by Mooloo ' gift.

Thank you so much.......has cheered me up no end.

The bird is called Polly Parrot by the way

Savvy_sewing

oystercatcher wrote: »

I had a lovely suprise when the postman came today. My very own 'Made by Mooloo ' gift.

Thank you so much.......has cheered me up no end.

The bird is called Polly Parrot by the way

Thought that it might have been!

Your welcome. Only something little. Hand sewed them while watching TV. Not big enough to stick a mooloo label on them!.
If I ever get famous I will have special ribbon made with mooloo running through it!

Hope you liked the scent. Bit different. Only put a teaspoon or so in those ones, so subtle rather then really pongy! But maybe not good idea to let the dogs eat them!

Savvy_sewing

DS is home again at the moment.! He has realised, at the cost of all his money, that the people he was stopping with were/are users. That the family is out for what it can get etc etc. On tuesday he came back with me, after they badgered him for even more money. He had asked me for a couple of pound for Milk, bread and loo rolls. So I bought Mr T,s basics and dropped them off. Then yesterday when they went back for Lunch, they were insisting he gave them more money. He said he hadnt got anymore, until he gets paid on Friday. But they insisted he called his Dad, his sister and then Me for money. He drew a blank, and felt awkward. I told him NO. The others told him NO.
I said that perhaps he better come home again, as I have food in the house. But I was not prepared to give "them" any more. Its time they all budgeted.
So he is home? Temporarily? Permanantly? who knows.
He has some work for a couple of weeks, so it has meant that we are up at 6am to get him to work. Its the other side of Towcester so about 10miles from home, with no buses of course.
He is learning life the hard way, and is now talking about getting back to college more. I have noticed he has a few job application forms here filled in/started to be filled in. Lets hope that he will do more then just fill them in!

Molly and I were not able to meet yesterday. So I am hoping that we can manage it sometime tomorrow.
DGD has her party to go to tomorrow evening. I still have to do the bunting I wanted to make. The bag is finished. at least.
Perhaps I can clear a space at the dining room table and bring the cutting out down to do. (I sew in my bedroom to keep the stuff away from DGD normally, which is why I dont sew much). But perhaps if she gets one of her Videos on I might get the time!

Twin2 has run out of money. She says that the SS have not refunded her the bus fares, as promised, and so she is not going to see the boys today.!
I am upset and have sent an Email to the SW who deals with her, telling her that I find it unfair. and that I have not enough funds to help, or the time/energy to do it. Then I found out that Twin2 is "talking/with" that family that caused her trouble the other week, so I have told her that I am not going to do anything for her anymore, as she lied to me when i asked her about it. DS told me where she was/what she was upto).

Twin1 hopes to get her money today. We will see how long that lasts, which Debt she sorts out first.! Bet it won't be me!.

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo, I hate to say this, but there's a few 'Nos' missing in that last account. You are forgetting about the SEP fields ...

oystercatcher

I can understand why you are running DS to work but do tot up petrol costs and make sure he pays you from his first pay packet. Don't let him take you for granted!
He was a bit cheeky accepting a job he can't get to !

Hug DGD from me !........and Molly !

Savvy_sewing

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Mooloo, I hate to say this, but there's a few 'Nos' missing in that last account. You are forgetting about the SEP fields ...

Yes I think your right. Old habits are surfacing arent they!
I suppose I will fall at the odd hurdle! Oops
however I do not want DS with that Family, they are bad news. (Or the twins either), and he is still only 17 1/2.
If there was any transport from our village I would have not helped that way.
I am trying to support the fact that he has found work, be it temporary work.

I MUST TRY HARDER TO SAY NO.
I am finding it easier to say NO to twin2 after all the problems she has thrown at me.
DS is still young. So I still feel responsible for him.
Twin1 is here for her daughters benifits at the moment. But we are working on her not being here, and her having DGD in other locations, doing things together, so she doesnt have the access to her computer etc and is giving DGD 100% of her attention when she is with her, and doesnt have me as a back up to fall back on.

Savvy_sewing

Problem is when he took on the job, he could walk there, from where he was staying.
Where we live there is nowhere he can get to a job, as there are no regular buses. A market bus occasionally, one to Northampton on a Wednesday, and one to Banbury on a Tuesday. Doesnt quite get anyone to work.
with the previous people keeping he moped, and all his stuff, he doesnt really have much other choice. But rest assured I will be getting money out of him.
Or else!!

DGD is doing her igglepiggle magazine at the moment.

Errata

I guess as it's a 'one off' and only for two weeks and he hadn't intended to leave where he was living perhaps an exception can be made just this once ? He's earning, so he will have money to give you for petrol and for his keep and for a very, very nice present for DGD to make up for her having to be hauled out of bed at 6am for his benefit.
It will be good for you all if he can settle down to something, but if he decides he wants to go back to college I think you'll have to make it very plain to him that he will have to get there and back under his own steam,.