A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Send me on a cruise to recouperate?????/

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

Send me on a cruise to recouperate?????/

You certainly deserve it, the awful thing is that it should never have become necessary.

Savvy_sewing

I sometimes wonder if i have not already gone a tiny bit mad! got a screw loose, fighting all these corners. I would expect most people only have one problamatical child at a time, rather then two/three and counting. I dont suppose all the moving has helped in the end, although each move was done for a reason.
Perhaps that is why I really want to stay in my rickety old rented cottage. with its draughts, open fires and being regularily snowed in!.
I just want to be in one place and have a quiet and peaceful life. Although I am beginning to wonder if that is also a myth put about by the media, and indeed unobtainable?

Anyway, I really am creamed crackered already.
I have just had a battle with DGD over playing with her, dinner, and walking around the room, etc etc, (no highchiar to pin her down!! joke),. She is very tired as she didnt get a sleep today. So she has just gone down with a bottle.

Me I am going to let the log fire die down, and take a cup of tea and a book up to my bedroom. Take a heatpad for my shoulders, and take my tablets a little early for the night, but I want to be fresh in the morning, to get my action plan sorted out.!
I dont think I have to be anywhere tomorrow. I just think its phone calls. Lets hope I can have a day in the cottage, and I can get DGD playing nicely.
I want to be able to cut out my mum;s handbag tomorrow when she goes down for a sleep in the afternoon. Fingers crossed. There is no point me waiting to sew in the evenings, as its just not going to happen while so much is going on in the days!

Perhaps i will enter a few tv competitions and pray for that holiday to be the prize!

Errata

I sometimes wonder if i have not already gone a tiny bit mad! got a screw loose, fighting all these corners

No, I don't think so. As I've said to you before, when you're up to your !!!!! in alligators it's difficult to remember your prime objective was to drain the swamp.
I do think you're seriously stressed and anxious, worn out and unsupported. x

holliegarson

Mooloo

I can't just read and run - I haven't anything to add to be of any help. I admire you so much - I think what you are living through at the moment is dreadful and I pray it gets better for you soon.

You are in my thoughts.

I x

Keeping_Motivated

How did Biggest of Mooloo cope with DGD for these few days? Are they still wanting/able to take her on full time?

Savvy_sewing

Oh she realised that she is not all sweetness and light, and that they would need two bedrooms. But she was happy and contented enough, and they were still thinking of going ahead. (thank goodness), but if they expect me to move to be able to give them the deposit and the furniture from this place then I am sorry but I have decided against it.
The "system" is going to have to work that one out.! I had to buy everything all over again, and each thing in my home may be second hand, but its mine, bought out and out even if it was from a charity shop or two!., and I want to keep it all!.

Now I really ought to go and get that heat pad in the microwave as my shoulders are so ridgid with stress its rediculous.
I will post again tomorrow, no doubt, especially after I have spoken to the Social Services about Friday's calls.

xx

thorsoak

Mooloo wrote: »

DGD1, has no other grandparents. The father is denying being the father, and as he tried to "murder her in her mothers belly" then I dont think I would want any of them involved!.

DGS1, goes to his other grandparents, fortnightly. Infact he went Friday night until 6pm today. But the father is not allowed access to DGS1 on his own. I am not happy that they have contact either, as they were "abusing" DGS1's father when he was little, and he was on the at risk register himself. I agree they have appeared to have changed 25 years on, age etc, but I am wary and think that they should have been assessed before DGS1 was allowed to go to them.
AS for DGS2, the new baby, there is only a granny, and she doesnt want to know!.
So not a lot of hope. Unfortunately none of them seem to be of any intelligence which really does not help.

Oh dear So you are the only person in these childrens' lives that has a "sensible" head - with the exception of Biggest Mooloo.

I have nothing else to suggest that hasn't been already suggested - but sending you some (very gentle) hugs!

Savvy_Sue

I'm going to be brief this time (honest!)

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

And there's a part of me which is thinking that actually this hardness of heart - as it's going to appear - is badly needed, because let's face it, if they HAD carried out the assessment they were supposed to do when they dumped your DGD on you, would they have found that you were fit enough to take this on? How devastating would THAT be, if you DID say "I'll do this", and they turned round and said "No you can't"?

Just skimming through this again, I'd like to make it clear to anyone reading that what I meant was "would they have found that you were fit, ie in good enough health, to take this on". I am not for one moment suggesting that you would not be a 'fit and proper person' in the sense of suitable. I hope that doesn't need saying, but I've said it anyway.

Mooloo wrote: »

Send me on a cruise to recouperate?????/

Wish we could. At least then you wouldn't have Social Services asking you to check up on anyone! Would have thanked Errata's post on THAT topic several times if I could ...

bertiebots

Sounds to me Mooloo that you are ready to kick some butt!! Despite everything that is going on around you -you sound stronger than in the past few weeks. I just dont know how you do it!
Maybe you have just reached that point where you have no choice but to say Enough!!!!!!!!! I am sending you a ((hug)) as usual and the hope that someone somewhere is going to listen to you and start to do their job. Hang on in there maybe the tide will be turning soon x