Daughter caught us having sex....

KellyWelly

jha wrote: »

I dont know if this is of any help but from the age of about 5 i was not allowed into my parents bedroom at any time - i was told that this was their private space and that was the end of it. If i was ill or anything i just had to call out or knock and they would help me. This allowed them to have their personal area and space which i am sure they found useful as they were desperatley trying for a baby after me i found out later on. I never felt upset by this.

If i had a daughter or a son who had overheard anything i would explain that that is our personal space and our time and what we do in it is our business and if they were listning at the door i would be upset.

We've started this rule, now my two are over 5 yrs they're not allowed to come into our room without knocking and there's no more visiting me while I get dressed or playing in our room etc. We also put a lock on there to stop them barging in.

I'm with the people who say she was wrong to come in uninvited and have a go at you - who does she think she is, the little madam?!

I walked in on my parents having sex when I was about that age. My dad looked at me and said "OH! you made me jump...all the way onto mum" as though he had been startled and leapt onto my mum, naked. I think I just said something nonsense and turned around and shut the door. I think at the time nothing else was said but I felt a bit upset because I wasn't getting on with my dad very well at the time and I felt my mum was a traitor (haha) as she was my bessie mate. Now all these years later I feel glad about it actually because after so many years together they still loved each other and had a loving relationship when lots of my friends didn't have parents like that.

My husband (45 years old) gets all upset about his parents having sex still. I think it's lovely tbph, his dad is 76 and still cops a feel when he thinks nobody is looking. :T

moneymouth77

I like the rule mentioned above of the bedroom being a private room... that would certainly make sure things like that never happen! But what about moments like Christmas morning, or a birthday? Maybe the ol' tie on the door would do the trick

Ammie

KellyWelly wrote: »

I walked in on my parents having sex when I was about that age. My dad looked at me and said "OH! you made me jump...all the way onto mum" as though he had been startled and leapt onto my mum, naked.

Lol never heard that one before!

nm123_2

ChIpStIcK wrote: »

Hi quick update,
Dd home , didn't say a word to me on journey home and has locked herself in her bedroom???? Her Little brother (11) is constantly making kissing noises at her door, and me , well i'm hiding in kitchen making dinner?( not needed for 2 hrs, its ham salad, i'll cut tomatos for 2hrs), have told Ds to remove himself to shower, have asked dh to hurry home as his darlings have missed him, he asked if i wanted to meet him in the woods later, the world has gone mad, back to my tomatos.

Actually I think now, it's time for her to realise that she is being ridiculous and that you "thought she was far more aware, mature, adult (whatever 14 year olds think they are) to be able to handle something like this". She should feel embarrassed for the big fuss, so I wouldn't give the satisfaction any longer and just move on.

I think she needs to know that she is the ONLY one with the issue and that the rest of you think she's being silly.

Do not apologise................... I think it's important to not let her control this situation.

ChIpStIcK

She aint talking to me, she came down for a drink and biscuit and took it upstairs, it doesn't help with ds asking making kissy noises, he is about to get early bed, I've told oh that he is dealing with this as it's not fair on me and plus i had to face her last night whilst he hid under the duvet, I really hope she doesn't turn out like her Nan.

tattoed_bum

oh this thread is so funny ,my ds is profoundly deaf so not much chance of him hearing us at it ,but he did come down stairs one day when mil was in waving my rabbit toy asking if he could have the batteries out of it lol

ChIpStIcK

tattoed_bum wrote: »

oh this thread is so funny ,my ds is profoundly deaf so not much chance of him hearing us at it ,but he did come down stairs one day when mil was in waving my rabbit toy asking if he could have the batteries out of it lol

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek: !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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peachyprice wrote: »

See how she is by the time she's home from school.

You can bet she'll go in today and tell her friends how 'gross' you are, and they'll more than likely tell her they've heard their parents too. Hopefully she'll realise it's not such a big thing afterall.

Peachy,

Is that avatar pic of you???? :D:D

jinky67

ChIpStIcK wrote: »

She aint talking to me, she came down for a drink and biscuit and took it upstairs, it doesn't help with ds asking making kissy noises, he is about to get early bed, I've told oh that he is dealing with this as it's not fair on me and plus i had to face her last night whilst he hid under the duvet, I really hope she doesn't turn out like her Nan.

Hey your DS sounds far mature than your DD does at the moment:D

maybe you could discuss it round the dinner table so she cant escape:cool:

Any

Not only you shouldn't appologise, you should let he know that you are not happy with her behaviour.
If she is ignoring you, ignore her back. She is still only playing it further because she knows you are feeling guilty and she is milking it.
Behave like nothing happened with the rest of the family - tell your boy once more he does any further noise he is going to the bed immediately - and then she will feel like she is missing out. Don't call her for dinner. Let her be.
Once she comes down see what is happening she will notice you are ignoring her.
Then she will realise she has done something wrong. And if she asks, tell her that she has no right to YOUR privacy.
Really, she is only milking your guilt. YOU HAVE NOTHING TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT!