Daughter caught us having sex....

ChIpStIcK

And has decided she is leaving home on friday.

Last night me and my partner done what's natural, ok maybe a bit more excitable than usual but no loud moans or groans just a bit of noisy bed.

We heard someone get up to go to the loo, which is strange as son asleep and never wakes and daughter had been asleep we thought since 9pm,( 11.30pm this happened )
Whoever it was slammed the bathroom door closed loudly.

We hid under covers, and waitied till we thought loo user was gone, BUT she wasnt she was outside our bedroom door and as we resumed she burst into our room and screamed she is leaving home as we are sick???

I dressed and went into her room and said at 14 she should know that as we are adults what we do in our bedroom is our business, not hers.
I said i was very upset at her rudness and explained she wasn't the only 14 year old that has heard their parents having sex.

Though she shouldn't be outside our door, our bed isn't against her wall so we are truthfully surprised she heard anything.

She left for school this morning without saying a word and has left me a note saying she will ring her Nan at
lunchtime to ask if she can move in there from Friday???
This is a very much over reaction, but we have no idea how to deal with this.

It might seem like a funny matter but it's not, i'm so embarrassed, i really hope she doesn't tell her Nan about our private life.
Sorry for alias but i'm embarrassed enough without letting the whole of MSE know who I am.

Batchy

this is quite funny... im sure she will come round!

:-)

lostinrates

ChIpStIcK wrote: »

, i really hope she doesn't tell her Nan about our private life.
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Do you think her Nan doesn't suspect you have sex?

Honestly, I'd speak to the Nana concerned in advance and explain the situation: otherwise it will be even more embarrassing and seen through the excited eyes of an emotional teen.

while sex is exctutiatingly embarrassing for teens, particularly parents and sex, and I can see why she'd overreact, this seems an overreaction too far. She needs to know that sex is part of a healthy marriage and though private is perfectly nomal and healthy. In the future that she knows her parents had a normal loving relationship will actually not be a harmful thing for her own married life.
Good luck, it will be a bit awkward but my guess is she'll cringe at her behaviour in a few years, when she remembers it

peachyprice

See how she is by the time she's home from school.

You can bet she'll go in today and tell her friends how 'gross' you are, and they'll more than likely tell her they've heard their parents too. Hopefully she'll realise it's not such a big thing afterall.

Scarlett1

I was around the same age when I caught my mum and dad, I was just horrified :eek: but we never spoke of it as I think we were all embarrassed.

woody01

Couldve been worse.
If you were having a 'nosh' it wouldve been far more embarassing.

SugarSpun

Could've been far worse. I caught my parents in the living room when I was 18 - in the very spot I preferred for sneaky encounters when they weren't home!

She'll probably realise she's overreacting, and if her friends don't tell her then her nan probably will.

ChIpStIcK

My mother is not someone you can speak to about sex, she is 68 a very strict churchgoer, she puts Dot Cotton to shame, She constantly harps on about the decline of morals so hence this subject will have steam coming out of her ears, My daughter wouldn't survive a night with her Nan she must know that.

My Partner wants me to deal with this before he gets home from work so he doesn't have to feel any more awkward, typical!
When she blurted to her brother this morning his words were " Everyone is at it"..........i explained at 11 he shouldn't be at it and better not be, which he isn't but he finds it funny.

It's not like we are at it every night, I wish!!!
Many thanks for help as i'm very concerned at how i should handle any of this.

Bronnie

Hopefully, she will go to school today and at breaktime will confide in her friends, who will all share their similar experiences, which they will all agree are GROSS! DISGUSTING! YEUCH! etc etc etc!

None of us wanted to imagine our parents having sex, although it should be a tad easier for this current generation to assimilate, than those of us who are older, when sex wasn't 'in your face' so much and parents looked and acted middle-aged before their time! Don't worry, she'll be fine! I wouldn't worry about 'dealing' with it now personally. I would just carry on as normal, if she wants to speak about it, that's fine, just a normal sensible discussion, you haven't done anything wrong or abnormal!!

Peachy...you got there before me, I was typing as you were posting!!!!!!!!

dmg24

If my neighbours can hear me when I'm at it, then your daughter can hear you!

Your daughter is at an age where the thought of the parents having sex is about as 'gross' as it gets. I imagine that many people will suggest that you sit down and have a serious, grown up chat but I would say the opposite - admit that you are embarrassed, but try to make it into a fun, jokey conversation (without it coming across that you are making fun of her). It is difficult to be mad at someone when they are laughing with you.

margaretclare

Apparently teenagers think the fact that their parents still have sex is 'gross' and 'minging'.

I would imagine Gran has seen it all and is well aware that parents do have sex - hopefully she can talk some sense into teenager's head.

What would be teenage reaction if they realised that grandparents, not just parents, still have sex????