Daughter caught us having sex....

Savvy_Sue

BTW, I do think you need to warn your mother that call is coming. You don't have to discuss exactly what was going on, just say your daughter realised you were having 'relations' and was upset by it and wants to leave home.

Even if your mother gave up sex after having you and doesn't want to talk about it, she must know it happens!

Penny_Watcher

ChIpStIcK wrote: »

When she burst in we were unclothed obviously and as it was hot on top of the bed with various "Toys" I think that is what her shock and outrage is stemming from,
Partner has said we will never have sex till kids leave home now!!!

Even the dog slept through it and he was on the floor next to our bed, Should have put telly on but it was just a spontaneous bit of passion.
At least Partner gets to hide at work, I've got to face Daughter when i pick her up fom school.

Are you sure you're not me? That could so easily happen in our house. Fortunately our DD2(12) is a bit deaf so it hasn't happened ........yet. But thanks for the forewarning.

woody01

withabix wrote: »

Such a delightful word! When did that take over from blowjob? :rolleyes:

Haha...sorry.
I thought it was a little more subdued.

Bronnie

I have 2 daughters , now in their 20's, I think my views are probably considered old-fashioned but....!

I don't think you have to discuss/ explain/ counsel / feel guilty/ or anything else with her now, unless she brings up the subject directly and then it's just a matter-of-fact response.

That happened, it's normal, you're not doing anything wrong, you're the adults, she's the 'child', its happened a million times before to kids. Just carry on as normal now, no need for pandering / embarrassment / further explanation etc . Don't get me wrong, I'm most definitely NOT of the kids should be seen and not heard school of thought, but sometimes I do think there's a bit too much 'talking' these days, that makes small stuff seem more enormous than it actually is.

duchy

She may come home and just not mention it -especially if her friends have told her their parents are shockingly having sex too. She might be wishing she hadn't had her outburst and wants it to all just disappear -so take your lead from her but if she does want to move in with her Gran then let her......she'll be home within 24 hours anyway Hormones are rotten things -it's no fun being fourteen.

I do agree with Bronnie-if she's old enough to watch TV with sexual content on TV she's old enough to have respect for other people's privacy and to know what is her business and what most definitely isn't.

ChIpStIcK

Tell my Mum??? Oh no!
My Mum will flip at me, and say how useless I am, she suspects me at best of being a god fearing heathen,
In my mothers world sex stops after children are produced, It is a duty not a necessity.

I know this as she explained this to me when i was pregnant, she said at least I had the sex part over and done with and wouldn't have to bother with the nonsense again!!!
We aint swingers we are just a loving couple, and yes partner is a Plank, but as a man he presumes as its daughter with issue it's my job to deal with her, and if son has issues he does the caveman bit.
I wish i could ignore it but don't want an atmosphere all week, We have a healthy sex life and i don't want that changing.

Zazen999

ChIpStIcK wrote: »

I wish i could ignore it but don't want an atmosphere all week, We have a healthy sex life and i don't want that changing.

That's all you have to tell her, apart from asking her not to come into your room unless it is an emergency.

I wouldn't go trying to explain yourself, you're adults and entitled to have relations in your own bed.

I would recommend getting a lock though - just in case it happens again.

Bronnie

Penny_Watcher wrote: »

Are you sure you're not me? That could so easily happen in our house. Fortunately our DD2(12) is a bit deaf so it hasn't happened ........yet. But thanks for the forewarning.

:rotfl:Pennywatcher, I'm sure you don't mean that in the way it has come across!

ChIpStIcK

Bronnie wrote: »

I have 2 daughters , now in their 20's, I think my views are probably considered old-fashioned but....!

I don't think you have to discuss/ explain/ counsel / feel guilty/ or anything else with her now, unless she brings up the subject directly and then it's just a matter-of-fact response.

That happened, it's normal, you're not doing anything wrong, you're the adults, she's the 'child', its happened a million times before to kids. Just carry on as normal now, no need for pandering / embarrassment / further explanation etc . Don't get me wrong, I'm most definitely NOT of the kids should be seen and not heard school of thought, but sometimes I do think there's a bit too much 'talking' these days, that makes small stuff seem more enormous than it actually is.

I might go with this as it will save me having any more embarrassment . Just hope she doesn't start or ring her Nan. Jeez im 34 not 15 but thats how old i feel at the moment.
Thank you.

duchy

I'd ignore it-honestly. At fourteen they can turn any upset into a full stage production but if you turn around and say "Adults have sex-surely you realise that " and leave it there then apart from slamming a few doors and a couple of "I hate you's" what can she do ? Takes two to make an arguement-and a very brave 14 year old to discuss sex with their grandmother !