Daughter caught us having sex....

Rikki

She is probably covering her embarrassment by using anger.

You did the right thing by going in and talking to her.

If she is going to stand outside your private space she will hear things she doesn't like. I always knock before I going into my teenagers rooms maybe you could do the same and she could afford you the same respect.

withabix

woody01 wrote: »

Couldve been worse.
If you were having a 'nosh' it wouldve been far more embarassing.

Such a delightful word! When did that take over from blowjob? :rolleyes:

Batchy

I assume she knows about the bird and the bee's and the fact if you never ... she wouldn't exist, maybe she thinks that your trying for another baby and she things your too old for more kids, etc, etc...

If you try to explain you was having fun and its a healthy thing to do, maybe it will encourage her to experiment... not a great situation to be in overall! :-(

hope you can sort it out!

My solution...

LOCK the door, and get a quieter bed, and promise you wont do it again!
Put a TV on in the back ground and blame it on the film you was watchin etc.

Savvy_Sue

There is clearly a failure of communication all round.

The idea that a 14 yo will be asleep at 9 pm flabbers my gast ... :rotfl:

In her room, maybe. Asleep, not a hope! :rotfl:

withabix

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

The idea that a 14 yo will be asleep at 9 pm flabbers my gast ... :rotfl:

In her room, maybe. Asleep, not a hope! :rotfl:

Probably doing a strip tease to some lad via her webcam as well!




Sorry, I'll get my coat
[one of my nightmares as my eldest daughter is 14 ]

ChIpStIcK

I don't get her reaction, Me and her dad are in our early 30's so not old as she likes to call us!
We have always been open and listening parents, we have always set boundaries and thought we had two well adjusted kids, We would never walk into her room without knocking, we never cross question her on things, we trust her, She watches shows such as skins , so knows more than the basics i explained to her when she started her monthlies. She reads my copy of heat every week and picks up loads in there as she often asks " Mum do you think he is hot?" so she isn't as naive as she has come across, she hasn't dated yet which is fine with us.

When she burst in we were unclothed obviously and as it was hot on top of the bed with various "Toys" I think that is what her shock and outrage is stemming from,
Partner has said we will never have sex till kids leave home now!!!

Even the dog slept through it and he was on the floor next to our bed, Should have put telly on but it was just a spontaneous bit of passion.
At least Partner gets to hide at work, I've got to face Daughter when i pick her up fom school.

withabix

ROFLMAO!

This story just gets better and better!!

We have to make sure the dogs are shut out of the bedroom when we are 'at it!'.

whitewing

I walked in on my parents once when I was college-age. I can vividly remember that I felt absolutely sick all day. I definitely didn't want to talk about it to my mother, although she tried. That made me feel sicker. I was angry mainly because it was morning and she'd been up and around. I wasn't angry / upset that they had sex, although it definitely wasn't noisy or exciting, just that I was aware of it.

She'll get over it. Eventually.

lostinrates

ChIpStIcK wrote: »

At least Partner gets to hide at work, I've got to face Daughter when i pick her up fom school.

I honestly think you have an opportunity here to help your daughter understand that sex is not shameful or embarrassing. Its a bit silly sometimes, and certainly personal, but mainly, within marriage certainly, its an expression of love and closeness and enjoyment.

Your husband is being a bit silly, frankly, if yhe grown ups are being so squeamish about it how could the kids not be!

Maybe you can just say to her that yu are all abit embarrassed, but you want her to know she should expect this fulfllment from marriage too, and that she might have some questions about sex, more than biological questions, and you will always be there to answer them.

Batchy

well the naked ness is fine toys... well that could be a delicate issue...

just make a joke of it... laf it off and dont make a big issue, she is attention seeking and could be confused.

Just make sure Nan says No... job done!