Cross with OH ..

monochromic

Dormouse wrote: »

I think it's a bit harsh calling the OP and posters agreeing with her petty. Nobody said anything about grand gestures, or that he was supposed to give her anything amazing. Based on what the OP said, he did not acknowledge her birthday at all, which I think is not acceptable.

Totally agreed - especially as the OP said:

I think Errata hit the nail on the head really, I'm so dissapointed that my daughter missed out on the change to spend some time with her Daddy, making something for me.

I don't think this is petty in the slightest.

bellrooster

Hi folks,

wow, lots of replies!

and thanks to Dormouse and monochromic! I was quite surprised to read about the comments regarding my reaction as 'petty' I truly don't think I was/am being so thanks for fighting my corner!

Well no updates really, just that yesterday my OH told me that one of his family members who was having a birthday get together at the weekend has changed days from Saturday to Sunday. I pointed out that I had plans for the Sunday, I was hoping to have a trip somewhere for a picnic and rock pooling with my daughter. He was quite flippant in saying it would need to be canceled as the birthday 'bash' was more important. :mad:

bunty109

Tell him that some of your friends have organised a late birthday bash for you that day......;)

bellrooster

bunty109 wrote: »

Tell him that some of your friends have organised a late birthday bash for you that day......;)

I LOVE that idea!! x

bunty109

bellrooster wrote: »

I LOVE that idea!! x

Go on!!! Do it!! LOL

richardw

bellrooster wrote: »

yesterday my OH told me that one of his family members who was having a birthday get together at the weekend has changed days from Saturday to Sunday. I pointed out that I had plans for the Sunday, I was hoping to have a trip somewhere for a picnic and rock pooling with my daughter. He was quite flippant in saying it would need to be canceled as the birthday 'bash' was more important. :mad:

er the time with your daughter is most important, she would enjoy that.

Steel_2

bellrooster wrote: »

Hi folks,

wow, lots of replies!

and thanks to Dormouse and monochromic! I was quite surprised to read about the comments regarding my reaction as 'petty' I truly don't think I was/am being so thanks for fighting my corner!

Well no updates really, just that yesterday my OH told me that one of his family members who was having a birthday get together at the weekend has changed days from Saturday to Sunday. I pointed out that I had plans for the Sunday, I was hoping to have a trip somewhere for a picnic and rock pooling with my daughter. He was quite flippant in saying it would need to be canceled as the birthday 'bash' was more important. :mad:

Oh no. He can't have it both ways. He's already demonstrated more than adequately that adult birthdays are not important to him so why should this one be?

Go spend time with your daughter. Chances are her company is much more preferable and enjoyable to her father's right now anyway....

stardoman

I really hope its because he has done something special for you on Sunday.

You have reminded me of an ex - he didn't do anything for my birthday, telling me he had no money. For the next 2 months he kept promising to do something - get me a card or something as soon as he got some money. Two months later it was his best friend's birthday and the fuss he made was unreal. I had kept quiet all along, but really blew my top. I think he had a shock!

The next time I saw him he had a card and present for me. Not that thoughtful though when I realised that the present was a Max Factor free gift his mum had received when she bought herself some makeup.

Although this is not the reason we split, I think its all part of being made to feel special and wanted. Certainly by the end of this relationship I felt like rubbish and the furtherest from special that I could be.

Mandy.

Zazen999

bellrooster wrote: »

Hi folks,

wow, lots of replies!

and thanks to Dormouse and monochromic! I was quite surprised to read about the comments regarding my reaction as 'petty' I truly don't think I was/am being so thanks for fighting my corner!

Well no updates really, just that yesterday my OH told me that one of his family members who was having a birthday get together at the weekend has changed days from Saturday to Sunday. I pointed out that I had plans for the Sunday, I was hoping to have a trip somewhere for a picnic and rock pooling with my daughter. He was quite flippant in saying it would need to be canceled as the birthday 'bash' was more important. :mad:

Empty out your purse, give him a few loose coins and tell him to get them something 'special' on your behalf, you will be having fun with DD in the sun.

jellyhead

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

If he says Happy Birthday, gves me a kiss and cooks me a nice meal, I'm quite happy.

I'm like that too, but my husband initially thought he should buy gifts and book a meal, the theatre etc. but now he's realised what I prefer.

Penny-Pincher!! wrote: »

Who cares about cards and presents? If he is a decent person otherwise, whats the problem?

Sorry, dont mean to sound funny, but I think its all quite petty.

It's not the lack of money spent etc, it's a lack of thought. I am sure that if he had bought a cheap card from tesco and let his little girl scribble in it, and perhaps stuck a candle into a mr kiplings cherry bakewell then the OP would be happy and wouldn't have started this thread.

Some people like to be thoroughly spoiled and treated like a princess on their birthday, some don't. We're all different but I think that whatever the OP prefers she is understandably upset about her birthday being ignored.