Cross with OH ..

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BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

The daft beggar forgot and probably feels that now the time has passed it would be even more embarrassing (for him) to make a fuss of you so late in the day. Men are absolutely useless about dates and anniversaries, it's well-known fact.

BUY HIM A CALENDAR and write your birthday in it in big bright red letters. Put reminders in it in the three-week lead-up to it and try and have a laugh about it together. I doubt he's stopped caring and he's probably feeling like a right berk about it. Anyone would

Great post.

My Wife makes sure I know about it with a months notice, then general hints up to the day. We're men, we don't do this naturally, the above solution works and is a good way of not getting angry about something we don't really give 2 hoots about.

Valli

ditto the gadget post - they are FINE if they are WANTED -

I loved the breadmaker I got for xmas - NOT

floss2

AnnieP wrote: »

Oh !!!!!! all that, just go out and buy yourself something very expensive that he can't fail to notice, and when he remarks on it, say 'thank you darling, just what i have always wanted' he'll get the message then! Good luck

Loving this idea!!

seven-day-weekend

Snuggles wrote: »

I must admit, I don't really see the problem either. My OH is a wonderful man who is kind and thoughtful every day. I don't mean that he showers me with gifts, just that he is considerate in our every day life together. This is far more important to me than having someone making grand gestures on my birthday.

If he forgot about it completely and didn't even say Happy Birthday, I wouldn't be annoyed about it. I'd probably tease him about it a bit, we'd both have a giggle and then move on. I can't help thinking that if this was something I would get really upset and annoyed over for a prolonged period, there may be something not quite right with the relationship.

Absolutely, same here.

Penny-Pincher!!

Who cares about cards and presents? If he is a decent person otherwise, whats the problem?

Sorry, dont mean to sound funny, but I think its all quite petty.

PP
xx

seven-day-weekend

Penny-Pincher!! wrote: »

Who cares about cards and presents? If he is a decent person otherwise, whats the problem?

Sorry, dont mean to sound funny, but I think its all quite petty.

PP
xx

Didn't want to use the word, but so do I.

What a load of fuss about something not important.

tesuhoha

I think that maybe as you took it so well he doesn't realise what it big deal it is to you. If I were you I would go into a massive sulk, stop talking to him and let him figure out what's wrong.

DKLS

Valli wrote: »

ditto the gadget post - they are FINE if they are WANTED -

I loved the breadmaker I got for xmas - NOT

The final straw in my mates marriage was the receipt of a set of Le cruset pans for xmas. That not very well thought out gift, ended up costing him over £750,000 in the divorce.

elona

I have been trying to get Le Cresuet pans bit by bit while sales are on - pay for it out of housekeeping and smuggle it in the kitchen when it gets delivered.

I would love a set of le cresuet saucepans (as long as they are the right colour!);)

DH has been reckless enough to promise that once we get our house sold and are moved into a new house I can have whatever I want.

At this rate he has years to go before making good the promise.

Dormouse

I think it's a bit harsh calling the OP and posters agreeing with her petty. Nobody said anything about grand gestures, or that he was supposed to give her anything amazing. Based on what the OP said, he did not acknowledge her birthday at all, which I think is not acceptable.

I do not expect big materialistic things or huge romantic gestures for my birthdays/Christmases (I was very pleased with the breadmaker I got for one of my Christmases - I had asked for it though), but I do want some acknowledgement.