MSE Parents Club Part 3

astonsmummy

I couldnt stay in when I first had Ryan, and Aston come to think of it.
The day after I came home I walked to my mums then up the shops and back.
I was driving within 2 weeks with both of them too, 6 weeks on no driving, i doubt it!
He's 7 weeks now and tbh I dont feel any diferent to what I did before I had him, but i healed well and quicjk with boith my CS's.

As for the heat, Ryan just seems to not be bothered, he's mainly in shorts and a T-shirt or just a vest, if it's really hot then just a nappy.

weezl74

feelie, for what it's worth about the going out thing, I think health visitors etc often don't take into account different personality types.

most of the ones I've met seem to be very extravert getting energised by lots of interaction with new people, hence picking the kind of job they did. For them, then, staying in or meeting fewer people may well have been a symptom of something being 'wrong'.

For me, I am a make close friends with fewer people kinda gal, and I very much enjoy my own company. For me meeting up with lots of mates in a day or going to a different group morning and afternoon each day (as some mums manage-impressive!) wouldn't be my cup of tea at all, and may even be a symptom of me not coping, IYSWIM?

So I just wanted to encourage you to maybe not think of it as necessarily a bad thing to not go out and about all the time... It isn't for me

Love from Weezl xxx

weezl74

susanc, quick EC related question:

does the heat affect LOs ability to 'read' their own bodily signals?

Fergie never lets me know about wees, but always just before a poo. But yesterday after giving bottled water in all this heat, wham, an unexpected poo moment! Took us both by surprise! And my nice clean trousers

Hope you are all loving your new house

Weezl x

feelinggood_2

6 week check today. Its with my old doctor, I've not seen her for a few years, but she was the one who orginially refered me to the Mental Health Team, so she knows my history. I'll mention things to her.

Appointment is at 2:30pm, and I'm hoping to walk there alone. Will go to pharmacy afterwards aswell. Fingers crossed I won't panic and phone OH to come and get me.

Feel a little better today, had a better day milk production wise. Feel a bit confused about feeding though - Health Visitor thinks I should give up expressing, as does OH. It does take a lot of time and effort to do it, but its the only thing I feel I've got control over, and the only thing I'm managing to do right. It probably isn't all that good to be so obsessed, but I'd feel worse if I didn't have it I think.

Are HV's supposed to be clued up on PND? I found it strange that she didn't ask any of the usual questions - she didn't ask if I had any suicidal/self-harming thoughts, or if I liked the baby or anything like that.

Fritha_2

Feelie, I found with my hv that although she was very nice she generally didn't have a huge knowledge of pnd. tbh I think they're just sposed to refer you to your doctor and then offer support. Good luck with the docs, do tell her everything particularly suicidal/sh stuff. Also tell you find it hard to ask for help. That prompted my doctor to put a rocket up my hv who contacted me regularly (even if I hid from her!) and got in touch with surestart for me. (I highly recommend them btw!)

Sami_Bee

Feelie, our HVs don't ask any questions relating to PND until a bit later as often mum's display PND symptoms when its not PND just the general stress of new baby still settling. Having sais that though yours should be aware of your history and therefore keeping a closer eye on you IYSWIM

on going out, I only left the house in week 2 because my sister put Chris in the pram and said "get dressed we're going for a walk" and I just did as I was told Glad she did though because I was such a mess I never would have left the house of my own accord, we literally walked for 2 mins and came back home tho (it was jan and very cold!)

I feel like an awful mum, I made Chris's breakfast with off milk and made him eat it :eek: I didn't know it was off until I used it on my cereal afterwards :undecided
do you think I need to do anything or just wait for a nasty poop?

Ps. Feelie - if you don't want to give up expressing then don't! It will only give you something else to be upset over and feel guilty about later on if you stop before you are ready xx

Sami_Bee

Just thought I'd share the breast pad love

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Think I might have to pop out at lunch and see what I can find

My_Fathers_Daughter

feelinggood wrote: »

Feel a little better today, had a better day milk production wise. Feel a bit confused about feeding though - Health Visitor thinks I should give up expressing, as does OH. It does take a lot of time and effort to do it, but its the only thing I feel I've got control over, and the only thing I'm managing to do right. It probably isn't all that good to be so obsessed, but I'd feel worse if I didn't have it I think.

Feelie - I am afraid you are simply wrong!

You have told us how well Toby is sleeping and how he settles himself - YOU did that! I can only manage it very occasionally.

You told us about how Toby loves cuddles and you get all sweaty together - that is fantastic!! I was thinking this morning that I wish Benjamin just wanted a cuddle rather than to kick/punch me or stick his fingers in my eyes.

Motherhood is not all about feeding and if any of us struggle in one, or even two or three areas then it does not make us bad mummies. Sometimes we just need to accept things and move on.


Lecture over

I think you are fab :A

Savvy_Sue

feelinggood wrote: »

Feel a bit confused about feeding though - Health Visitor thinks I should give up expressing, as does OH. It does take a lot of time and effort to do it, but its the only thing I feel I've got control over, and the only thing I'm managing to do right. It probably isn't all that good to be so obsessed, but I'd feel worse if I didn't have it I think.

How would you feel about expressing less and breastfeeding more? LO is getting the hang of it, if you kept doing some it would mean you could still give a bottle (or ask OH to do so), and you'd still have the evidence that you are producing milk (other than a gorgeous healthy baby).

I take my hat off to you. I could express as well as feed, but there is no way I could have kept doing it the way you have.

And I second everything MFD said. You are doing a good job. Now, say it out loud: "I am doing a good job." Several times.

In fact, let's hear it from ALL of you: "I AM DOING A GOOD JOB!"

Savvy_Sue

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I feel like an awful mum, I made Chris's breakfast with off milk and made him eat it :eek: I didn't know it was off until I used it on my cereal afterwards :undecided
do you think I need to do anything or just wait for a nasty poop?

You may not even get a nasty poop.

I remember one day at work the boss said she had made several drinks before I arrived and said they had all tasted funny, she had rinsed the kettle out and didn't know what was wrong, I took one sip of my tea and said "The milk's off!" :rotfl: