MSE Parents Club Part 3

weezl74

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Are you sure? Advertising the remaining hours costs money, I'd be surprised if an employer HAD to do this every time someone asked for reduced hours.

Their factsheet actually gives increased costs as a reason an employer can give for NOT allowing reduced hours, if I read it right.

just going on various things from maternity action, yes:

wrote:

Indirect Sex Discrimination
Indirect sex discrimination rights are part of the Sex Discrimination Act 1975 which says it is indirect sex
discrimination if
there is a working practice (such as requiring full-time work or giving better benefits to full-time workers) and,
far fewer women than men are able to work in that way and
it is to the woman’s detriment or puts her at a disadvantage, and
the employer cannot show that the working practice is justifiable.

and also:

wrote:

“We can’t find a jobshare partner”
Your employer would need to show that they had
made reasonable efforts to recruit inside and
outside the organisation. They would also need to
show that there would be particular difficulty in
finding a jobshare partner, for example, the job
was highly skilled and it would be particularly
difficult to get someone else to do the work parttime
or jobshare. Otherwise, there may not be a
good reason why you could not go part-time while
your employer looks for a jobshare partner.

I have also read that refusal to recruit widely for a job-share partner for the other part of your job has been ruled out as good business sense, since your company will lose you anyway if they aren't family friendly and re-recruitment for your whole post will be costly as well.


Is that different to what you've read sue?

weezl74

feelinggood wrote: »

Thanks Weezl, thats a great link and very helpful. I think they can technically refuse to every consider his request, because of his 7 weeks of paternity leave. It was technically a break in employment, so he doesn't have 26 weeks continuous service. The only reason I can see them refusing is because they want to keep him fulltime, but as he has already resigned when they suggested this, hopefully they know he is serious!

Feelie the request for flexible working is completely seperate from your maternity/paternity leave entitlements. One is in part to do with continuous service, the other is extended, I believe to all parents irrespective of length of service.

cazscoob

ok i think i know what was wrong with Erin:o she was hungry just made her up a little bit of food and when she saw it she tried to throw herself from her seat to get the spoon! she ate the whole lot in seconds and is looking for more? not sure if i should try her again later or just make another bowl up the now! charlie was BLW as he was a bit older so am worried i overfeed her etc lol!

MrsTinks

weezl - they could easily argue that a programmer can't be job share... you'll hardely ever find two programmers that would write exactly the same program EXACTLY the same way... If you have 2 guys working on the same piece of work there is an increased chance of errors and it would take longer as they try to work out what the other has done. If they can't work on the same piece of work you start missing deadlines and that costs the company money - trust me - if a company does not want someone working parttime it is NOT hard to really find a good reason to deny it...

3onitsway

MadDogWoman wrote: »

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Have a look at this site for adult sized sleep suits:

http://www.the-all-in-one-company.co.uk/index.php

I've just bought DD 2 for our caravan break in Northumberland in October.

MDW

Thanks MDW - they're brilliant! I've now got visions of Me, OH and the children all in matching sleepsuits - looking like the teletubbies! :rotfl:

cazscoob wrote: »

ok i think i know what was wrong with Erin:o she was hungry just made her up a little bit of food and when she saw it she tried to throw herself from her seat to get the spoon! she ate the whole lot in seconds and is looking for more? not sure if i should try her again later or just make another bowl up the now! charlie was BLW as he was a bit older so am worried i overfeed her etc lol!

I'm sure she won't keep eating til she pops! :eek:
Our matching babies - she gets so excited when she sees the spoon coming and almost bounces herself out of the chair! Should probably start feeding her in the bumbo instead!

emlou2009

MrsTine wrote: »

Feelie apparently the tests are half price in Tesco at the moment It's on the grabbit board
I think if you're not pregnant then you need to think about precautions. You have been on an emotional roller coaster recently and I think risking another pregnancy is just putting a lot of pressure on you that you don't need right now. If that means condoms then so be it!
You have to put yourself and Toby first right now

i agree i'm afraid... i think i have borderline PND as my up and down days seem to be half and half and i wouldnt even slightly consider having another baby til i knew for definite i was 100% in fact, i dont think i do ever want to have another. i hate the down days so much i dont want to ever experience them again once they do eventually go!

MadDogWoman wrote: »

3

Have a look at this site for adult sized sleep suits:

http://www.the-all-in-one-company.co.uk/index.php

I've just bought DD 2 for our caravan break in Northumberland in October.

MDW

:rotfl: they look so comfy but so silly! JD in scrubs has one and OH thinks it looks amazingly comfy so has decided he needs one but i'm not paying that for one, especially cos it would probably only be a joke in the end!!


for some reason seth is refusing his "food" he screams everytime the spoon goes near his mouth, but has been a proper gannet with it for the last week, chowing down a full 3 tablespoons of the powder stuff each time?
apart from that we've had a reasonable day until about 3pm when he decided he was going to scream instead of sleep cos that was much more fun :rolleyes: he screamed himself hoarse in the end and is now gooing in a bit of a croaky style

Becles

Oooh I'm loving those all in ones! I've got Raynauds and I'm now thinking of spending the whole winter in one

feelinggood_2

emlou2009 wrote: »

i agree i'm afraid... i think i have borderline PND as my up and down days seem to be half and half and i wouldnt even slightly consider having another baby til i knew for definite i was 100% in fact, i dont think i do ever want to have another. i hate the down days so much i dont want to ever experience them again once they do eventually go!

I wonder if I leave it too long, if I'll ever do it. Perhaps if I get it over and done with now, I can get back on medication, start therapy and perhaps make a long-term recovery. Physically pregnancy was tough, but it was also my happiest time.

Can you get 'double' PND I wonder?

I'm unlikely to be 100% for quite a while, and as I can't take medication while breastfeeding, it might not actually be that bad, especially with OH working part time.

astonsmummy

feelinggood wrote: »

I wonder if I leave it too long, if I'll ever do it. Perhaps if I get it over and done with now, I can get back on medication, start therapy and perhaps make a long-term recovery. Physically pregnancy was tough, but it was also my happiest time.

Can you get 'double' PND I wonder?

I'm unlikely to be 100% for quite a while, and as I can't take medication while breastfeeding, it might not actually be that bad, especially with OH working part time.

Well if you are already suffering and then go on to have another child straight away it wouldnt surprise me if you got 'double' pnd.
Of course it;s your life but I would really think about jumping in and having another baby so soon, especially because of the problems you have encountered, and your OH, sounds like you are both under enough stress already.
My cousin had her children 11 months apart and found it really hard, I find it hard having them 5 blooming years apart even!

Millie's_Mum

Krystaltips wrote: »

.. But there's this little part of me that thinks I'm getting rewarded for putting up with Aimee as a baby... I'm sure she didn't do 7 hours straight until she was about 3 and a half... Surely this time I deserve one that sleeps?!

Nononononononono! I have to dispute this theory on the basis that millie sleeps like a dream and if your theory is right it means I'll have a little horror this time and i can't bear the thought of that!

Just a note to say I've got my annabel karmel book back from the [STRIKE]ungrateful c[/STRIKE] friend who borrowed it so if anyone wants me to stick any recipes or anything up just let me know, I think someone the other day was asking about snacks I can put her list up if you want? just shout