MSE Parents Club Part 3

3onitsway

Lu_T wrote: »

Age is a bit of a sore subject over here. I went 30 last week, although TBH it doesn't feel as bad as I thought it would. I'd still consider myself 'young' though as DH is nearly 38!!

Stop now! I'll be 38 before the end of this year.
But OH is a baby at 29!

Sami_Bee

Thanks peeps
After much searching I found an old bill so got my account no. and then about 10 attempts to remember the password I gave them 3yrs ago (how do they expect you to remember that!!??) just waiting for an email with a sign in thingy (don't want to just send it to the details on old bill as I know its a diff finance company now so may have changed!)

Well I reckon I can still call myself a young mum until Ed starts school and I'm 30, then I'll be 'just' a mum

em - everyone thinks I'm older than I am I always say its because I'm just so mature and sensible (but I think its just because most people my age aren't married with 2 kids)

Mazcabs

3onitsway wrote: »

Stop now! I'll be 38 before the end of this year.
But OH is a baby at 29!

Dont worry 3onitsway I'll be 38 in November and OH is 32....Sorry to hear about your friends baby.

Thanks Sami re Sun lotion, I'll have to search back a few pages.

Lu T- going to see consultant in July so guess we will talk about this as well seeing as LO was born by em c section....

Lu_T

3onitsway wrote: »

We got bad news from up north last night. Friends baby who was born at 28 weeks on Friday, passed away yesterday. Baby's dad/OH's best friend called last night - sounded very matter of fact, but obviously shocked. How on earth can people recover from something so tragic?

3 - that's horrendous. Friends of ours had a baby at 26 weeks while I was pg with Imogen. She managed 28 days - apparently 30 is a magic number in terms of premie babies. It was absolutely heart-breaking for them, but they know she battled as hard as she could and would have had a whole world of difficulties if she'd made it. Due to the complications they can't/had best not have any more kids, which makes it all the more tragic.

The only blessing was that they hadn't told their 3-yr old about the pregnancy (were due to the weekend she arrived) so he was spared the pain. He knows about her now, but didn't have to go through the grief.

3 years on and they are fine, getting on with life with their boy. I know at least they already had a child, which is a different situation. My thoughts are with you and your friends.

emlou2009

money_maker wrote: »

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he is SO adorable!

3onitsway wrote: »

We got bad news from up north last night. Friends baby who was born at 28 weeks on Friday, passed away yesterday. Baby's dad/OH's best friend called last night - sounded very matter of fact, but obviously shocked. How on earth can people recover from something so tragic?

so sorry to hear that 3, he probably feels he needs to be strong for his OH for the time being... i hope he can open up soon

3onitsway

Mazcabs wrote: »

Dont worry 3onitsway I'll be 38 in November and OH is 32....Sorry to hear about your friends baby.

:jYey, someone is older than me - mines December! :j

Lu_T wrote: »

3 years on and they are fine, getting on with life with their boy. I know at least they already had a child, which is a different situation. My thoughts are with you and your friends.

Thanks Lu - this is their first, and much wanted and planned for baby.
They had a beautiful wedding last year, and ended the year finding out they were expecting on new years eve! They're wonderful with our children, and will make perfect parents - its just so unfair! Mum is feeling guilty and blaming herself - although she's the healthiest person I know and will have done everything by the book. Its one of those horrible things life throws at you!
They had already been told he'd be moderately to severely disabled so who knows how his/their lives would have turned out.

Its making me think how lucky we are to be given the gift of children.

Millie's_Mum

3 Thats awful, how sad, I don't know how people carry on after something like that. Aren't we all very lucky? Extra hugs and kisses for the babies (even if they are being horrid) today!

Has anyone done baby led weaning? Do you know any websites where I can get more info about it?

SusanC_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

one of the factors in me choosing a home birth was not having to withstand that heat! Chris was born in Jan and I was roasting on the ward and kept getting told off for opening the window :rolleyes:

Ours doesn't even have openable windows. Not sure why - the one ward I was in with HG had openable windows (albeit only about 3") but the maternity ward doesn't.

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Krystal - you mentioned re-useable wipes a while back, have you sorted them?
I spotted these and thought of you, would be pretty easy to just cut up some cheap muslins to make your own

I use cheap flannels from Ikea. They have coloured loops on them for hanging up so I use different colours for different things (food, bathing, bottoms).

Mazcabs wrote: »

LO came home from nursery yesterday with a massive bite mark on his back. This is about the 6th time he has been bitten and its the same child everytime. I kinda took it to begin with as my sister said it was always happening with my nephew but after this one I think I need to write a letter to them.

That's terrible - you should definitely complain.

Mazcabs wrote: »

Which Suncreams do you use, Nursery uses Soltan but there are loads on offer at the moment and so dont know which to get?

I don't - I just make sure Alice is well covered up when we go out in the sun.

Lu_T wrote: »

Yes, I'm going for a VBAC. Wasn't keen on the idea of induction as I'd read it increased the chances of a rupture, but my consultant says they've got a new 'thing' they use (tablet not gel?) and the results have been great for the last 6 months. He's happy for me to wait as long as I want to as long as me and baby are well. After 40+14 he'll want to see me as a day patient every day, but he assures me I'll def be in labour by 40+21 :eek::eek: It's actually nice to have a consultant who's supportive of you going so far past dates. Apparently he has one of the lowest induction/planned section rates in the area.

That is excellent - it makes me want to bang my head against a brick wall when I hear about people being induced at 40+10 just because they are overdue and not because of any other complications.

Lu_T wrote: »

Age is a bit of a sore subject over here. I went 30 last week, although TBH it doesn't feel as bad as I thought it would. I'd still consider myself 'young' though as DH is nearly 38!!

My OH is 6 1/2 years older than me and I used to wind him up that he was really old. Then one day he told my Auntie who is in her 70's that he was old and I realised he was taking me a bit too seriously.

Sami_Bee wrote: »

em - everyone thinks I'm older than I am I always say its because I'm just so mature and sensible (but I think its just because most people my age aren't married with 2 kids)

Do you get people assuming you aren't married? When I did supply teaching (aged 25/26 so older than you) I never knew how to introduce myself when I arrived because of that. If I introduced myself as Mrs C it seemed a bit weird and over formal given that I was younger than everyone else but if I introduced myself as Susan C then they would take me to the classroom and introduce me as Miss C. One person even told me I was too young to be married.

I've just googled and in 2007 the average age for a first marriage was 29.5 for women.

SusanC_2

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

Has anyone done baby led weaning? Do you know any websites where I can get more info about it?

I did - I'll go and have a look in my bookmarks.

Also meant to say for the benefit of those people who have toddlers denying all knowledge of poos that Alice has had phases of doing that - I think it's just a normal phase which some children go through perhaps because they don't want to stop to go to the toilet or they want to be in charge or whatever.

3 - so sorry to hear about your friends I can't imagine how difficult it must be for them.

feelinggood_2

SusanC wrote: »

Do you get people assuming you aren't married? When I did supply teaching (aged 25/26 so older than you) I never knew how to introduce myself when I arrived because of that. If I introduced myself as Mrs C it seemed a bit weird and over formal given that I was younger than everyone else but if I introduced myself as Susan C then they would take me to the classroom and introduce me as Miss C. One person even told me I was too young to be married.

I've just googled and in 2007 the average age for a first marriage was 29.5 for women.

I married at 17 and people still assume I'm a Miss. All my scan pictures say Miss on them!

It'll be my 5th Wedding Anniversary in a few months, and we are going away for a baby free weekend!

Don't suppose I mentioned it, but since DS has started smiling, him and OH are getting on great. He is back at work and things are back on track.