MSE Parents Club Part 3

Mazcabs

I know this is kinda irrelevant to here but thought that I would share it anyway as I am soo pleased....... We have just dug up our first lot of potatoes from the garden and are having them for Sunday dinner !

3onitsway

Sami - I've just used the sniper tool for ebay you posted ages ago - and won! :j:j Thanks!

Becles - We're well past going into town for a night out! I'm turning into my mum moaning about the booming music and saying stuff like 'thats not music, thats noise'. :rotfl:Nights out now are much more likely to be a quiet drink round the local or a civilised meal!

Elle - Welcome home! Think about how quick these past few weeks have gone! It'll be no time before Rhys is home with you.

We need some of Rhys's spare 'big strong boy' vibes sending up North. OH's best friend phoned late friday with the news that his wife had been taken in that afternoon, and baby had been born by emergency section, at 28 weeks! Apparently all had been fine at midwife visit earlier in the week, but she'd noticed less movement on Friday morning and went into hospital for monitoring. The placenta had started to come away and baby had to be delivered asap.
OH is feeling carp that theres nothing we can do to help - but seeing how far Elle/Rhys have come gives us hope!

elle_gee

scruffy96uk wrote: »

Elle I'm sure OH will have left allthe housework and everything else to do once you got home so you'll have plenty to keep you occupied:rotfl::rotfl:Well he might have tried his best while you were in hospital:eek: Hopefully Rhys will follow you home soon.

OH has been staying in hospital with me To be honest, I would have made the move home about a week ago (had it not have been for the milk supply situation) but it's taken a lot to drag him away.

Our house is fairly close to the hospital but we hadn't lived in it for four weeks before I had Rhys as we were having it renovated (as in ripping the kitchen, bathroom, all the wallpaper, door frames and carpets out and starting again!). We were staying with my parents instead who live further from the hospital so OH didn't want to be that far away whilst Rhys was so poorly (and we were in danger of getting a midnight phone call).

Work has continued on the house whilst we've been staying at the hospital and is about two weeks from being finished - I should be 36wks pregnant today so it would have been finished by the time Rhys arrived had he have done the polite thing and waited to arrive on time!

Can't wait to get back to the house and spend my time unpacking the twenty odd boxes our whole house is packed into.. Have given myself until Christmas to get the whole place straight and sorted, factoring in having a baby around too!

elle_gee

3onitsway wrote: »

Elle - Welcome home! Think about how quick these past few weeks have gone! It'll be no time before Rhys is home with you.

We need some of Rhys's spare 'big strong boy' vibes sending up North. OH's best friend phoned late friday with the news that his wife had been taken in that afternoon, and baby had been born by emergency section, at 28 weeks! Apparently all had been fine at midwife visit earlier in the week, but she'd noticed less movement on Friday morning and went into hospital for monitoring. The placenta had started to come away and baby had to be delivered asap.
OH is feeling carp that theres nothing we can do to help - but seeing how far Elle/Rhys have come gives us hope!

*sending 'big strong boy' vibes up North*

Honestly, you can help by just being there. I found myself so stressed I sometimes couldn't string a sentence together so got wound up when I was asked lots of questions, I preferred just to tell people what I wanted them to know in my own time. Just be patient and there and they'll ask for whatever help they need in their own time

I got myself very wound up by one particular "friend" who wrote to my mum (who she's never met), saying she felt "so helpless" - I believe my words were "How does she think I f'ing feel?! I'm his mum and I can't do anything to help him!". Might just be me and that friend, but I didn't take too kindly to her selfpity!

elle_gee

We had another bash at breastfeeding this morning.. Rhys seemed to get it some of the time He did like to spend time just staring around the room and not quite concentrating on matters in hand, but when he tried he did get it right

Just before we tried the nurse was talking about seeing specialists and coming up with a plan for how to get him onto breastfeeding - like it wouldn't be as easy as with some babies on the unit - so maybe he was bullied into it! They want me to try every time I'm in (three times a day) if he's awake and looking keen. It may be that I'm back in the hospital sooner than I think if he suddenly takes to it as at 36wks he apparently should be mastering it sooner rather than later.

Need to have talks with the consultants soon to find out what they do with his medications in the build up to going home - do they slowly take him off them then see how he is before coming home, or do they leave him on them and we have to administer them (just have to tell myself it's "just like Calpol" )? Also need to find out what we do about his tube feeds.. Because of his poor kidney function, they have to measure everything that goes in and comes out so I'm not sure how they work it with breastfeeds which they obviously can't measure.. Oh, so many questions!

One last thing.. I've got an appointment with my consultant tomorrow morning. It's five weeks after the birth. Anyone have any idea what he's going to do/say? I'm not sure if he just wants to poke my scar (but I thought that was at six weeks, not five) or if this is supposed to be the big discussion on WHY I had to have an emergency section (which I already know)..

My_Fathers_Daughter

Krystaltips wrote: »

Hubby asked why I was limping yesterday when I got up (It's been happening for months now!) I shouted 'cos of my broken ar5e' across the room in frustration...


Most booby groups are informal peer supporter led... Some of them have midwives or health visitor input too... Occaisionally there are ones in hospitals (like where I work) that are less like a group and more like medical assistance...

:rotfl::rotfl: do you mind if I laugh at your broken ar5e :rotfl::rotfl:


Benjamin and I have been Booby Club tarts over the last week and tried another 2 out as well as our regular one...all of them are around Wolverhampton, no further than 10 miles apart (if that!) and they are all completely different. My normal one is run by Surestart workers who are trained in BF support, I went to one that was run by peer supporters and the third was very much a drop-in clinic run by a BF professional (didn't I feel silly that we weren't having any problems but I did meet a lovely new mummy with a teeny tiny 6 day old!!)
So my advice is shop around for your Booby Club - there may be one that suits you better. Or be a tart and go to them all like we will be doing again this week!

3onitsway wrote: »

We've had no problems with Violet, she'll take anything offered to her! But Liv wouldn't take a bottle, until we wrapped her in the t-shirt i'd been wearing all day - so she got the smell of me while she drank the bottle!

At the posh Booby Club I said something along the lines of Benjamin would happily be passed around and feed from everyone he is so greedy - got some REALLY funny looks!! :rotfl:They will get used to my quirky sense of humour - I hope!


Benjamin had been sleeping with a pillowcase of mine since he went into his own room and I took it out yesterday after 10 days...I was convinced that he would 'miss' me but he slept for 9 1/2 hours without a murmur :rolleyes:

angelfairy wrote: »

hi all

a tough few days but i wont go into it or i'll upset myself.

does anyone have exerience of cranial osteapathy and if so yours reasons for goind and if it worked

ta
xxx

Fritha took Celia for some I think...and possibly lwcus (or she may have been asking about it) and possibly Bruno?
I'm being as helpful as always then :rolleyes:


Baby massage is free here too - although I am going to skive the class tomorrow because I am going to see one of my bestest friends and her baby girl! She is going to sign Benjamin's passport photos for me.



I hope everyone has been suitably spoiling their OHs today and that all the daddies are having a fab time

Lu_T

Hi Elle - I had an emergency section but not in circumstances like yours. I just had the regular 6wk check at the docs, so can't shed any light I'm afraid. Perhaps the nurses will know?

Good to hear Rhys is making attempts at BF. Hang on in there and I'm sure you'll soon both be as confident as Feelie & Toby!

3 - sending big strong boy vibes across the country for your friend. Hope everything turns out okay.

Maz - yey! That's v exciting and so rewarding. Well done you!

Having a steady day here. Dad came over last night having been to see grandad in hospital (nothing serious and he should be discharged next week). Imogen has enjoyed seeing him.

She planted sunflower seeds with Daddy so hopefully they will sprout.

She's just handed Daddy her wand and said, "Make a spell for me to make me a clown," after he told her he's scared of clowns! PMSL!

elle_gee

Sorry, another question.. Is there any difference in car blinds (the stick up ones to go on the rear passenger windows when little ones are in the car), or are they all "much of a muchness"?

Rhys flinches any time bright lights are on him or even if he's just facing the window so really need to get car blinds sorted for the first journey home! Either that or do they make baby sunglasses for 4lb babies?

emlou2009

elle i got my sun shades 2 for 99p in the range
stuck them up 12 weeks ago, they're still up and they do stop seth squinting so i guess they're ok.

Lu_T

Hi Elle

Don't think there's much difference really, apart from some will only cover part of the window and older babies get obsessed with pulling them off!

A friend of mine had these when her girl was small and she swore by them http://www.windowsox.co.uk/?gclid=CNLG88qCnJsCFaYA4wodeU3IpA