MSE Parents Club Part 3

feelinggood_2

angelfairy wrote: »

i'd never be able to get my boob out in public... i am a bit of a shy one where that is concerned.

i know i shouldn't get upset about it, it's not like i positioned her properly or anything but it still really causes me so many ill feelings because i thought it would be so natural.

I think between weeks 3 and 6, I didn't try DS at the boob much - perhaps once or twice out of 'duty'. Reason being I just couldn't cope with the screaming, kicking, shouting and upset it caused. He'd fight so much and get so upset, and I felt so useless. I started just holding him near me, skin-to-skin, without any positioning or trying to feed him. Slowly he got more comfortable being next to me, and eventually he started showing interest. Perhaps just spend some time when you are both happy and relaxed in bed, snuggling up?

I think our first Midwife was a bit rough with him, and it made him associated boobies with negative things. It took a lot to convince him it was a nice thing, but it did happen.

I felt (feel) awful that breastfeeding didn't come naturally. My Mum was a breastfeeding counsellor, so I was raised in a very pro-breastfeeding enviroment. There were often women sat in the livingroom feeding. It was something I really wanted to do, so I tried to make sure I was prepared. I read several books on breastfeeding, a couple of La Leche League books. I did lots of research. I tried to do everything right - immediate skin-to-skin, avoiding dopey drugs in labour and afterwards etc. I couldn't understand why it was so difficult for me when I wanted it so mmuch and I tried so hard.

Krystaltips

Isn't that the stoopidest rule ever though AM... We get WTC because hubby's income is low... But because we get WTC it cancels out other help like healthy start and free school meals...

Am hoping Caitlyn's in a better mood today... Don't fancy another day of screaming! We had an odd night... She settled at about 11:30 and at 2:17 was really fidgetting around... I think she filled her nappy because she went all quiet again and then slept till 4... I kind of dozed just waiting for her to wake up... Then when she was in our bed, I just dozed again, couldn't quite drop off properly this morning so I'm really tired today... Got the health visitor coming sometime between 11 and 1 too... Plus I have to wait for tesco... Don't think I'll make it to my other booby group this afternoon unless they turn up early...

Krystaltips

Feelie, it doesn't always come naturally... Even though I've done it before and had looooooooooads of training, and get paid to help women do it, I still had trouble this time round... It doesn't matter how prepared you are, the baby hasn't read the books or done the training... The important thing is that you persevered when so many other women would have given in, you too AF... The fact you are still trying and still expressing shows great determination... Like Feelie suggested, just keep it low key, make it more about having naked cuddles than feeding... Do it when she's not starving hundgry and she'll start to enjoy being there

searching_me

no weelz i dont get them as i get WTC i get paid as in smp on saturday and i have to go in to town to get nice fruit (the co-op stuff is crap round here) .. AM thats what happened with zoe so OH said stop whinging and do it or shut up .. he wasnt being mean just tough love it worked though just need to do the same again x

MrsTinks

We need a tired/cross eyes emoticon... if I had 2 1/2 hours of sleep last night I'll be amazed! We seem to go from one extreem to the other!
I went up at 12 after my evening expression - daddy stayed up till 2 with Roo and then the fun started! First she seemed fine with snoozing but it lasted about 5 minutes - daddy got up and changed her and put her back down, 5 minutes later we got the "i'm staaaaaaaarving" cry... so I fed her about 40 ml and then the rest of the night consisted of grumping, complaining, sneezing, sniffling, farting, changing 3 of the fullest nappies you have EVER seen (where did she hide it!!???!!!!) and being very grumpy - at 7 I gave up and got her up to let daddy have 2 hours before he had to go to work - thank goodness he didn't have any early meetings today!
I look like death warmed up and don't feel much better to be honest - thank goodness the dog walker is back from holiday - I think the dog was trying to work out how to operate the phone to call the RSPCA for neglect! :eek:
The cats have been giving me filthy looks all morning (and every time I got up to change madam during the night for that matter...)
My house is a pigsty and I desperately want to clean it but IF she nods off for 5 minutes I know I'll be heading back to bed with her and NOT to the kitchen or anywhere that need cleaning/tidying...

Good news... The blocked duct hasn't gotten worse like the last 2 - still tiny bit sore but the persistent massaging seems to have caught it in time - phew!

BTW I'm a horrible mum - I'm sat typing with a wailing baby in her basket next to me... hoping she'll tire herself a bit and that might help get her off to sleep... *sigh*

I'm vaguely hoping the HV DOESN'T turn up - we didn't make any definite plans for her to as I went to the BF cafe yesterday and frankly I just want to be left alone today...

MrsTinks

Oh and keep fingers crossed for DH today - he's gone for a meeting about pay He's the lowest paid in his job, has people in his team that get paid more than him and the copany is on a pay freeze so his bosses are trying to get round it by giving him a sideways promotion... I'm hoping he gets an extra £1000 a month as that would mean I could afford to stay at home with Roo without having to do any extra work till the end of my maternity leave :j :j :j but we're probably more likely to get round £500 a month - any less and he'll be starting to look for a new job out of sheer disgust with the company...

MrsTinks

Oh oh oh forgot - brain is mush! - does anyone know what the Which? tests recommend as the best baby monitors? We're thinking of buying one so Madam can go in her cot for lunch snoozes...

Curious_George_2

i think searching_me might have meant 'when i get paid i can buy loads of fruit'

right, answers to questions

the bread - well, i cant see it anymore, after his baths i had a good look and could only see a little bit, and now i cant see anything... so it may have dried up and dropped out,
will keep an eye on him for any ear infection or anything but i think its gone, it was only crumbs really, not an ear blocking wodge

the house - the landlord is a nightmare! its a gorgeous FOUR bedroom town house, but hes storing loads of his crap in one of the bedrooms and the rest of his stuff in the massive shed and locked them both up,
so they are offering the house as a three bedroom, he alos wants his car on the (one car) drive for the whole tenancy...

so it really put us off, i dont rooms in my house im not allowed to go in, i dont want the landlord popping round every five minutes for something in the bedroom/shed and not having your own parking space round here is a nightmare...
plus it sounded like he wasnt sure how long he would be out of the house... it sounds to me like hes away for six months and will kick us out come christmas because he wants his place back... so sadly its a no go, i was really upset yesterday as there is literally NOTHING to rent round here at the moment.

dmbw

Hi, Room for a newbie?

I have a little girl 8 months old 8)

Lu_T

Re Luna - we have one and I love it. I only bought the P&T because I plan on doing a lot of walking this summer and Imogen won't be able to walk the 25 mins to the park, play and then walk back again. Imogen is tall for a 2.5yr old (she's in 3-4yr trousers) but I don't think she looks too small in it.

Re sun cream - we use P20 for Imogen as other things have irritated her eczema. It's a once-a-day oil, which is good for her skin and, although not cheap (£10 ish for a small bottle at Asda) lasts for ages cos you only put it on once in 10 hours.

AF - we still call Imogen 'baby girl' and she's 2.5!

MFD - at least if he sucks his thumb he'll have to take it out to do anything. With dummies they can play and suck at the same time. Although I do agree that you can't remove thumbs!!

Bay - so nice to hear from you again. Glad your pills are kicking in. You sound very happy.

Caz - you okay? You sound alright if you can concentrate on prams! Did the time at your dad's help?

My first 'proper' day of mat leave today. That is, I'm home alone and with nothing really to be doing. Except having my lashes dyed later. Just got back from the consultant and didn't win all of the battles (well, none I don't think!) but am happy with his explanations of why things will be necessary, esp the constant monitoring which apparently won't confine me to the bed. I've agreed to it on the caveat that I will just take it off and tell them to listen with a handheld intermittently if it's getting in my way. I reserved the right to be stroppy in labour!

Think I'll have a quick nap now - yawn! Hope you're all enjoying the sunshine while it lasts...