MSE Parents Club Part 3

feelinggood_2

cazscoob wrote: »

dont see the point in trying any more when he just acnt be @rsed, supposidly every thing is my fault and i have made him misrable. well we will see how happy he will be on his own!
thanks ladies just dont know who else to turn to?

Aww Caz, I'm so sorry. ((Hugs))

If you ever need a sympathetic ear, I'm around.

cazscoob

thanks feelie am really in a similar boat to you OH will never forgive me and move on. there is only so much you can do and so much you can try and right now im there. i havent cried or anything am strangely calm and doing my ironing?????

erin is only happy at the mo if she is lying on the floor??? she is bit moany today but she can sense me being stressed i think?

emlou2009

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Which reminds me - did you decide whether you were going to go out with hubby for some couples time?

i should practise what i preach shouldnt it?! its not really an option for us, theres nobody to have seth that i would trust him with except for my nan and shes in her 80's and goes to bed early. neither of our parents or in laws live round here and we're the first of our friends to have a baby, most of our friends are scared of him :rolleyes:
the only option we would really have is to drive 45 mins to MIL, leave him there, go out there, pick him up and drive 45 mins back and i'm really not that desperate for "us" time!!

i've got a little brat today, i'm sorry but thats the only word for him! doesnt want to be fed, cuddled, play or sleep, but the crying has now stopped cos he's laid on my lap scratching, kicking and punching me and pulling my down. i'm covered in red marks, i look like a cat has gone off on one at me. lovely!

Mazcabs

Morning all,

Well I had an eventful day yesterday. On the way to work and thought I had wet myself, when I got to London i nipped in the station toilets to find I was bleeding. Got back home and bled quite a bit more so midwife advised me to head for A&E. Ended up having an internal scan after about 2 hours and was told bump was still there, quite happily wriggling around !! Huge relief as you can imagine. :j Turns out I am 12+ 5 though so no 2010 EDD.

I kinda know the answer to this but shall I just rejoin all the clubs to get all the offers and vouchers again? Is this what you did?

ladybirdintheuk

Caz - not sure I have anything useful to add either, but you can have sympathy and dodgy hugs from me too :grouphug:.

We had much better night last night, but I'm still nackered from the last few days - will have to nap this afternoon I think - busy weekend and next week, so won't get any naps till after next weekend unless I'm really lucky!

feelinggood_2

cazscoob wrote: »

thanks feelie am really in a similar boat to you OH will never forgive me and move on. there is only so much you can do and so much you can try and right now im there. i havent cried or anything am strangely calm and doing my ironing?????

erin is only happy at the mo if she is lying on the floor??? she is bit moany today but she can sense me being stressed i think?

For the most part, I've spent this time being reasonably calm. I think you get to a point where you can't cry anymore. I find it does build up a little, so make sure you don't hide how you feel too much or you might explode like I did the other day.

DS picks up on the tension too, he is a lot more fussy when we've been arguing or if we are you not comfy with each other.

The thing I find hardest is the uncertainty. He keeps calling it off, then wanting to try again. I don't know if I'm coming or going!

MrsTinks

Caz and feelie - take control boot them out till YOU decide what you want - if it's to try again then fair enough, if you think it'll be easier without them then good for you! Whatever you do though stop letting it be on their terms You're the ones stood holding the babies so you need to make sure YOU are looked after and the babes are cared for - the guys and their hurt feelings and what have you come in at a very low priority to be honest
And come on here and vent any time you feel like it

cazscoob

thanks feelie and mrs t xx

redmel1621

Thanks em

MFD - yep we had a bad time with ds2...he is 6yrs old now, Hmmmm do you think it is just a coincidence that me and hubby nave not been that great for the last 5-6yrs;)

Caz - I do think kids put a great strain on a relationship, especially if there is any, tiny, underlying problem aswell.... I am not sure how to say this without sounding rude/abrupt:o Do you not think the op you had planned would be a good idea? I am honestly not meaning to stick my nose in or sound 'funny' in any way, but 5 kids is a lot and if you are having marital problems I don't htink any little accidents would be very welcomed:rolleyes:

Mel x

My_Fathers_Daughter

Ooo - postie just came and brought me a package from Emma-Jayne....


....I got a feeding top and a feeding dress!!!

I swear I had the top on before the postie had delivered next door - we are a semi :rotfl:

It's red (as is the dress) and fits quite well. It is one of the tops that has a split across the middle, a t-shirt with a gap! So far I likey


Benjamin is biting my nipples again though :mad: