When to start dating again?

NAR

See, not such a big ordeal after all. He obviously likes you and it sounds like you had quite a relaxed evening. (apart from the big fight at the end! ) Onwards to date no.2. :beer:

marksandsparksgal

Afternoon everyone!

I have just read the whole of this thread and I have to say, WELL DONE! I am so glad OP decided to go out, and that the whole 'bad romantic comedy' kiss thing didn't go too wrong. I'm so happy for you, and echo what other have said. if it doesn't work, then who cares, it's been a nice couple of meals and you have a friend out of it.

OP I applaud you for having the guts to say yes, and it's been a lovely read, and one that I look forward to reading more of.

Horace

Taye - I am pleased that you got back on the horse and went out with this divine sounding man. It sounds as though you had a lovely evening despite the comedic kiss - just laugh it off as the others have said. Also you are not the only girl to not have a makeup bag - I don't have one either (I am a girl despite my username so dont get any funny ideas:rotfl:).

I am glad that you contacted him again too - go off and enjoy yourself, lunch is lunch.

As for the bit about him wanting babies and you not at the moment - its too early to be thinking about them anyway and it sounds as though this chap would be a good dad to your two when the time comes. In the meantime, take it slow and have some fun.

Let us know how you get on...we are all ears and eyes:D

Hotspur

Hi Taye

Love this thread, thanks for sharing it with us.

From a male perspective, the 'fall' wouldn't have put me off at all; if you like someone you like them enough to find out more, full stop. You never know, if all goes very well, you could be saying in years to come 'Remember our first date' and laughing about it together. Could be a fantastic memory.

H

jinky67

Taye wrote: »

i did what you guys suggested and texted him told him sorry and that i'd like to go out again.

He replied saying that the way i ran off he thought i'd never want to see him again he was worried he'd upset me, anyway he's gonna meet me in the gym tommorrow and get some lunch after.

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see what did we tell you?:D

Merry_Gentry

Oh Taye, I wanted to respond to your comment about not being able to afford to go here, there and everywhere. When XHTB and I first got together, I had two children and he had one daughter that he had access to. Initially, I would scrape together the money to go all of the places that he wanted to go, even though it was costing me twice as much with two kids as it was him, and I was earning a LOT less :eek: In the end, I was just honest with him - said that I wanted to be able to do 'free' things with my kids - walk to the library, sit in the park, etc and that I really just couldn't afford it.

He appreciated the honesty, and even though he would still go and do the costly things with his daughter because he wanted to be able to spoil her a bit, only having her once a fortnight, we would get together as a group and do the free, fun stuff too.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you have started this whole thing being yourself - don't change that when/if you involve your kids. Just explain that you don't have a lot of dosh, and these are the things you do to entertain them. It sounds as though he will more than understand.

And please, if every now and then he wants to treat you/them (this is WAY in the future obviously), it's ok every now and then to let him!

kate1976

jinky67 wrote: »

:j:j:j:j:j:j:j:j


see what did we tell you?:D

:rotfl: There's nothing like a good old gloat is there?!

Taye I'm so pleased you went and I'm glad you're going to see him again despite the falling and headbutting (which did make me giggle) Well done girl, just keep it casual and light and don't let thoughts about any future you may have with him spoil things! Enjoy yourself!

Money_maker

Ahhh, sounds as though it went well - if a little comical. Brings to mind Cinderella rushing off and leaving her glass slipper behind (think thats the romantic in me).

You will be more relaxed when you next see him so it will be much easier.

BTW, what DID you wear in the end?

Good luck and keep us posted

Taye

In the end i wore my black pants and one of my work blouses not exactly the most exciting of outfit's but i dressed it up with some of my sister's jewellary etc i think it looked alright.

Bah having a terrible day today, someone Hit the back end of my car on the way into work, stupid rain poor woman skidded and smashed into my car .. grr as if i don't have enough trouble... oh well breath and reboot.

Meeting him at the gym, where gonna work out together (he always totally whoop's my !!!) then go for lunch, i seriously can't see what this guy see's in my only time he see's me is when im hot and sweaty.. ewww.. not looking my most attractive thats for sure.

lilmissmup

Hi Taye,

I have just read this thread, I was praying for you to go on the date, hope second date goes well today too!

Looking forward to hearing more, I have been with my fella for 6 years nice to hear about dating/romance!