When to start dating again?

kimmi_b

I totally agree that your first 'kiss' could be a comedy memory to tell the grandchildren I almost ran over my partner on our first date as I was so nervous!! He's never let me forget it since

jinky67

Taye wrote: »

Meeting him at the gym, where gonna work out together (he always totally whoop's my !!!) then go for lunch, i seriously can't see what this guy see's in my only time he see's me is when im hot and sweaty.. ewww.. not looking my most attractive thats for sure.

well hun he must see something:D

cos hot and sweaty sure aint a good look:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

so STOP putting yourself down and enjoy yourself:beer::beer:

Pee

Oh, I don't know. I think my boyfriend def looks his best hot and sweaty!

This is a lovely thread, and you shouldn't feel that you have nothing to offer. I have never met a man too rich or too poor for me to be friends or go out with.

Taye

It's offical, i've compleatly lost the plot.

Working out was a disaster, i work out with this guy ALL THE TIME, he always spot's me when i'm lifting and sometimes when he's helping spot me or helping with my form it does involve a reasonable amount of closeness.

It's never been a problem... now.. everytime he touch's me i freak out, he put his hands on my waist yesterday to help steady me and i jumped out of my skin almost dropped the weight on his head.

He talks to me and i go bright red, it's just not good and i can sence he's getting nervous.

Ok so im a big girl i know it means i like him but seriously we where fine before i could TALK to him, now im a walking gibbering mess and he's terrifed of going near me incase i freak out cause he touched me.

Not good.

Lunar_Eclipse

Taye wrote: »

Not good.

:rotfl:

You'll be fine. Especially after the first (proper) kiss is over with! I suggest a nice lunch, a couple of drinks and going along with the much wanted snog - it'll all calm down then I think. Alternatively, ask him very nicely to kiss you immediately the next time you see him in an attempt to calm your nerves! You know, along the lines of "could you please do me a favour and kiss me, because I think being in your presence is making me go insane?"

jinky67

Hun, you just need to learn to relax:cool:

Or explain to him how nervous you feel. I promise you he will understand.

Horace

Well said Jinky.

Taye - you're a gibbering wreck because you fancy him, I am still like that with my chap (we first went out 27 years ago:eek:), so it can happen to everyone:D

Anyway, how did lunch go? Or did he run off before you brained him with the weights? Do tell...:D

Oh and just snog the guy and get it over and done with - guaranteed you will feel loads better.

zimm143

Hi Taye,

I've just read this thread for the first time. I just wanted to say you sound exactly like my mum when she was your age (she is now 50, but my Dad left when she was 24 and she had 2 kids under 3). When she went on dates she was terrfied! She worried about what to wear, kissing the whole lot! Also we never had any money, we lived "fresh air and credit" to quote her! She's had several relationships since and is now setteled with her partner of 8 years. I just wanted to say that from a child's prespective all I ever wanted was for my mum to be happy with a nice man. Sure, a few came and went (she probably had about 5 long term boyfriends from 1985 to 2009) and I missed them but have kept in touch with some of them, they are kind of like uncles to me.

My point is kids want their mum to be happy and if you introduce someone to them and it doesn't work out that will be absolutley fine I promise. Kids are hards as nails, it's adults that get hurt!

As for your dating tramaus I agree with everyone else, tell him you are nervous - he will defintly understand and will probably be dead chuffed he is capable of making you feel that way!

The very best of luck,

Zimm

Quackers

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

"could you please do me a favour and kiss me, because I think being in your presence is making me go insane?"

LOVE IT

And if you are not feeling brave enough to say it to him then text it to him instead

Just read the thread from start to finish and am sooooo pleased you went on the date.

As others have said you are a jibbering wreck because you fancy the pants of him....

....now go work at getting his pants off

And then it'll all be fine :cool:

Taye

haha you guys make me laugh.

I don't think 2nd date is really the time for working on his pants.. geeze

i've only ever been with one man in that respect and as much as my friends think the whole thing is highly amusing and joke that my ex could have been doing anything with me and i wouldn't know the difference. I guess in all fairness they really arn't wrong (well i have 2 kids so i know something was right but you get the picture )

i just feel totally out of my depth, this really isn't the sort of guy thats likely to have spent much time single and as much as he seems really nice i can't help but feel he won't hang around for school girl hysteric's for too long, i know that sounds really bad and im not saying that he's "that" sort of guy but seriously we are grown ups i can't keep freaking out like this.