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  • Taye
    Taye Posts: 473 Forumite
    The gym is opposite work i go in my lunch hour, i can still see him there but i don't think he's got a "gym only" relationship in mind.

    I know i can see him, i do have the odd person i can use for an hour or so but it's hardly great. I mean how do you date just for an hour here or there?
    This months aim :- Stick to food Budget / find £100 for my car insurance
    May GC :- £250/£234.55 :T:A:T
    June GC :- £150/£127.37:eek:
  • jinky67
    jinky67 Posts: 47,812 Forumite
    Taye wrote: »
    The gym is opposite work i go in my lunch hour, i can still see him there but i don't think he's got a "gym only" relationship in mind.

    I know i can see him, i do have the odd person i can use for an hour or so but it's hardly great. I mean how do you date just for an hour here or there?
    It is better than nothing hun until you get to know him better:cool:
    :heartpulsOnce a Flylady, always a Flylady:heartpuls
  • Quackers
    Quackers Posts: 10,157 Forumite
    Taye wrote: »
    The gym is opposite work i go in my lunch hour, i can still see him there but i don't think he's got a "gym only" relationship in mind.

    I know i can see him, i do have the odd person i can use for an hour or so but it's hardly great. I mean how do you date just for an hour here or there?

    As Jinky says its better than nothing for now :)

    Explain it to him & be honest.

    Its important that he knows where he stands otherwise he'll be kerfuddled & lose interest ;)

    And if he's happy to start on that then thats good news. :)

    I still dont see my boyfriend as much as I'd like - we are both full time parents so its hard work jiggling it all - especially when you are as disorganised as he is :rotfl:(he wouldn't be him any other way though :D) but you take what you can get and make the most of it :)
    Sometimes it's important to work for that pot of gold...But other times it's essential to take time off and to make sure that your most important decision in the day simply consists of choosing which color to slide down on the rainbow...
  • littlemissmoney
    littlemissmoney Posts: 1,219 Forumite
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    Couldn't you occasionally go out for lunch together rather than going to the gym? (or, MSE style, take pack lunches and picnic somewhere?)
    :p Proud to be a MoneySaver! :p
  • Taye
    Taye Posts: 473 Forumite
    Ok i texted,

    I said that i did like him, that i was sorry i acted weird but it's been a long time since i was last dating and the whole thing was making me alittle more mental than usual.

    That i would love to see him again but it was hard with the kids because i didn't really have any baby sitters to rely on but i didn't want him to think i didn't enjoy the other night or that i didn't want to see him again.

    Ok happy now?!
    This months aim :- Stick to food Budget / find £100 for my car insurance
    May GC :- £250/£234.55 :T:A:T
    June GC :- £150/£127.37:eek:
  • littlemissmoney
    littlemissmoney Posts: 1,219 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Combo Breaker
    Well done :D
    :p Proud to be a MoneySaver! :p
  • jinky67
    jinky67 Posts: 47,812 Forumite
    Taye wrote: »
    Ok i texted,

    I said that i did like him, that i was sorry i acted weird but it's been a long time since i was last dating and the whole thing was making me alittle more mental than usual.

    That i would love to see him again but it was hard with the kids because i didn't really have any baby sitters to rely on but i didn't want him to think i didn't enjoy the other night or that i didn't want to see him again.

    Ok happy now?!
    better:D


    now we need to know what he replied:p:p:p:p
    :heartpulsOnce a Flylady, always a Flylady:heartpuls
  • Taye
    Taye Posts: 473 Forumite
    He said it was ok, he didn't mind as long as he knew he i was interested.

    He's offered to take me and the kids to the cinema and for a meal all together on friday, he's suggested one of those places with a play area so the kids could play.

    How do i say no without offending him?
    This months aim :- Stick to food Budget / find £100 for my car insurance
    May GC :- £250/£234.55 :T:A:T
    June GC :- £150/£127.37:eek:
  • Glen0000
    Glen0000 Posts: 446 Forumite
    Sorry, but this guy sounds like a gem. You said you had problems with babysitters and he offers to do something child friendly and you still have issues.

    If he was just interested in sex, he would have been long gone.

    Most single mums would be snapping his hand off.

    If you are not ready please put the poor guy out of his misery.
  • jinky67
    jinky67 Posts: 47,812 Forumite
    Taye wrote: »
    He said it was ok, he didn't mind as long as he knew he i was interested.

    He's offered to take me and the kids to the cinema and for a meal all together on friday, he's suggested one of those places with a play area so the kids could play.

    How do i say no without offending him?
    you dont.....you go:D

    and if you dont quite want him to meet the kids yet just go to the play area, meet him there...the kids can play while you talk:T
    :heartpulsOnce a Flylady, always a Flylady:heartpuls
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