When to start dating again?

skintmumof3

Taye wrote: »

tbh maybe i'm neive but im not really sure what people could possibly do with the information? it's not like i gave people the pin number to my credit card or the location of my spare front door key??

Everyone who is important from a legal/medical and welfair point of veiw already knows the situation so there is nothing to "report me for".

Anyone else who would judge me on something i can't possibly have known about before the issue probabally isn't the sort of person i want/need to be in contact with anyway.

this wasn`t about you being reported for anything hun, so please don`t think that.
but please remember these forums are totally anonymous and anyone can read them.
we don`t know anyone at all on here and you are telling the world some very personal and emotional things.
i think you are very brave to do so and i think you are an exceptional person to have dealt with such issues and i wish you all the luck in the world.

skint
x

Taye

The whole anonymous this is why i talk about these things stuff i don't really have people to talk to about back home.

jenhug

I hope you find happiness Taye, whichever way your life goes, I wish you much happiness.

xxlaurissaxx

Taye, I really hope you sort this out. Just do whatever you think will make you happy. xx

ellie14

Taye I am sending you a Mum hug we mums on here are thinking about you as if you were our daughter ,If I was your mum I would be happy for you and would be saying ,give it a little time ,dont make hasty decisions,you will do the right thing ,you are sensible,caring, certain times of the month make us emotional and thinking all sorts.
Good men are hard to find so slow him down rein him in ,and if hes still running ahead ,re think the situation in a week or two.

Taye

ellie14 wrote: »

Taye I am sending you a Mum hug we mums on here are thinking about you as if you were our daughter ,If I was your mum I would be happy for you and would be saying ,give it a little time ,dont make hasty decisions,you will do the right thing ,you are sensible,caring, certain times of the month make us emotional and thinking all sorts.
Good men are hard to find so slow him down rein him in ,and if hes still running ahead ,re think the situation in a week or two.

ha my mum would be saying "what the hell are you thinking dating again, you had a perfectly good man and you let him go (talking about my Ex of course)"

Argh i dunno i just feel scared i have no clue what to do......

whitewing

Why don't you write it all down, everything. Then either post it, or just give it to him if you see him and let him read it with you there.

I agree with others that you also need to be doing some nice, easy stuff too.

Have a hug from me as well.

ellie14

Hi Taye - Your mum didnt know what was going on with your ex,she would have been horrified had she known .we tend to keep things from our mums so not to hurt them and I understand what you are saying,I wouldnt have told my mum and I love her to bits.Taye I would say let the dust settle,have another look at it ,IF you have nothing to lose give it another shot ,(thing is its been a long long time since anything like this has happened in your life and it takes time to adjust )if on the other hand your gut feeling says no not for me no way then let him down gently and get on with things with the boys. Anyway another mum hug on its way (my mum never hugged me but I sure as hell hug my D/D).

marksandsparksgal

Hi Taye,

Have just read through the latest chapters of the 'saga'!

I have no advice really, apart from do what you think is right. But whatever you do decide to do, you need to let him know why you've come to that decision. He'll only keep mulling it over otherwise.

Like someone else said, it's good to talk.

I wish you the best of luck however it all turns out.

xxx

Lunar_Eclipse

sarymclary wrote: »

last week my 15 y/o son said to my BF 'I wish you'd been my original dad, like my real one, and that I'd had you here all my life'. My 15 y/o is a very challenging child, to say the least, so to get that kind of remark from him is like a miracle.


Stay safe, or take a chance?

Brilliant post.:)

The first bit brought tears to my eyes; the second an excellent point to consider.

This is not the first post I've read of yours which has blown me away and made me wish I knew you in real life. What a thoughtful, considerate, articulate and intelligent person you are. xxx