When to start dating again?

NAR

Mutter wrote: »

So you know him do you?

No, do you? You are the one making insinuations! :mad:

littlemissmoney

Mutter wrote: »

I would not, under any circumstances allow my children anywhere near someone whom'd I'd met 2 weeks ago. No, not at all.

She isn't leaving them with him unsupervised! Surely you would let your children meet someone you only met 2 weeks ago if they were with you? (and she has known him at the gym for months...)

NAR

Don't be silly Mutter can spot a pedo at a Forum's length! :rolleyes:

k2tog

Mutter wrote: »

I would not, under any circumstances allow my children anywhere near someone whom'd I'd met 2 weeks ago. No, not at all.

Be reasonable.
He has been with them in the company of their mother. The responsible adult who cares for them.

NAR

Mutter wrote: »

Yeah, you are wanting Mills And Boon, but what if we are willing Taye on to make a life with somone she hardly knows?

No-one has asked her to make a life with him. They have advised her to be firm with Dave regarding his runaway enthusiasm. Have you only selective reading?

AnW'sMum

Please don't feed the troll, this is Taye's thread. She is asking for our opinions which are being given, can we please keep the thread on topic.

Horace

Taye - whatever happens with Dave you do need to increase your circle of friends because its not healthy staying within your comfort zone. I can tell that you like the guy but he is going too fast for you and you need to put him straight but I can also see that you are becoming attached to him rather quickly too which could end up leaving you in a mess should you decide that the relationship isnt for you. Not wanting to sound harsh or anything - he does seem to be racing along especially with talk of marriage (if someone did that to me I would run away in the opposite direction very fast:eek:).

You should give him another chance and really you need to see him and speak to him face to face (if you can't do that - then send him an email). Maybe if he reads something he will get it into his head that he has to take baby steps.

Good luck with whatever you decide but promise us this that you go and increase your social life and find more friends - as others have said Gingerbread is great for this as there is no pressure on you at all and everybody is in the same boat.

Mutter - you need to stop being so paranoid, yes !!!!!philes do exist but there are not that many of them about. Kids need space to grow if not then they end up as people who don't trust others, who view everyone with suspicion and that's not a nice way to live. You have made a lot of assumptions about this guy and I am assuming that you have had experience of this which is why you are being quite vocal about it. You need to stop judging people by your own standards.

Mutter_2

littlemissmoney wrote: »

She isn't leaving them with him unsupervised! Surely you would let your children meet someone you only met 2 weeks ago if they were with you? (and she has known him at the gym for months...)

No. I wouldn't want my children to meet someone from 2 weeks standing.
Not at all. End of.

Mutter_2

AnW'sMum wrote: »

Please don't feed the troll, this is Taye's thread. She is asking for our opinions which are being given, can we please keep the thread on topic.

Perhaps for the rest of us you might share who this troll is.
Actually, I feel MSE to be troll free zone. If you wish to go that route, I shall ask Abuse to assist you.

MissMitch

Mutter wrote: »

No. I wouldn't want my children to meet someone from 2 weeks standing.
Not at all. End of.

Sorry to be pedantic but earlier in this thread you've suggested that Taye invites one of the boy's friends round to stay the night so she could get to know the parents...also that she joins a babysitting circle. Both of these suggestions would involve leaving children with someone relatively 'unknown' to them...so is the problem just with a single man?