When to start dating again?

mumofjusttwo

Well Taye it would certainly appear that Dave believes in love at first sight and just because you want to take things slowly (understandably) doesn't mean he is wrong. Maybe you were made for each other. A cliche I know but not necessarily wrong.

I guess that you just have to keep telling him and make things clear. Have to say fair play to him for knowing his own mind. Just a shame that he sounds like he is a little eager sometimes.

jenhug

Awww, he sounds lovely! Or mental! Or maybe a little of both, not neccesarily a bad thing!

Cissi

Taye wrote: »

Arh talk about ganged up on!!!

Just had a "visit" from Dave's mate... *sigh* dave has apparently been having a Tizz since last night having got off the phone with me, understandably made worse by the fact that didn't reply to his text's i eventually resorted to begging his poor friend to call in on me to check i was "ok" and that he hadn't upset me too much.

*sigh* ... Despite the poor guy feeling like a total lemon calling on me.

Well i decided to use the oppertunity to quiz the poor bloke on Daves usual girlfriends and exactly what he ment by dave rushing things. I dunno i guess i was concerned that Dave falling in and out of love was a "usual" thing, i didn't really fancy being daves 35,000th love this year haha.

the poor bloke didn't know what hit him, but i managed to find out some useful info... not quite sure how i feel about it all yet, still leting it all sink in but hey here we go.

Since his marriage split up Dave has "dated" but nothing serious.. usual stuff go's out with a girl a few times end of story.

Hmmm ok .. daves friend has known all about me for months, litterally months....or so im told. I was the girl Dave spotted in the gym proceeded to tell his friend about without even getting up the guts to say hello, if daves friend is to be belived, he was pretty much ready to kill Dave if he didn't say hello soon as where a few others of daves mates.

I was the one who eventually broke the ice (i asked him to help me with a barbell ... (i can't even remeber?! is that bad??!)) Dave was over the moon and proceeded to drive his friends mental with the "now on speaking term's girl" he liked in the gym, but who he still didn't have the guts to ask out.

Fast forward to about 1 month ago, dave declares to said mates that "im the one" .. baring in mind he STILL hadn't even asked me out. daves mates beging weeks of riducule and taunting about this mystry girl dave had decided he was marrying even if he hadn't even asked her out.

Fast forward... eventually he ask's me out.. we go out have nice time.. blah blah you know the story. On the next meeting wth his friends now "armed with a date" he is even more convinced that i am the one, and no amount of reason from his friends will convince him otherwise.

Daves mates try and convince him that even though he's 100% sure, that really telling me might not quite be the best plan and that he should slow things down?

Dave however isn't much one for listening to advice apparently.... hence our current situation.

Hmmmmm.....

This just gets better and better! And here I was, worried after reading the whole thread in one go last night that it would get boring waiting for updates from now on :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Taye, you've got to marry this guy!!! No, just kidding, but I think he sounds really, really sweet and like a potential keeper at least.

This reminds me of our best friends who met through DH and I: they met at a few social gatherings over about a year, he was clearly smitten from afar but she was in a relationship so he never made a move. Fast forward to my birthday party some time after her splitting from useless BF - her now DH finally dared make a move and very soon they were a couple (now married with two children). The funny thing is that she later admitted that she doesn't even remember meeting him before the time when he got her number - even though we have evidence in the form of photos from at least 3 parties where the two of them are deep in conversation and even dancing together :rotfl:So no, not bad at all, and I think you should be very flattered!

k2tog

I'm getting wonderful images of Dave's sheepish mate calling on you! And Dave endlessly going on about you through the stages - worshipped from afar, spoke to etc etc. they must really like him to put up with that for months before he even spoke to you :rolleyes:. Note though, it's the lack of communication (which I know was sort of an accident) that sent him into a tizz - at the risk of sounding like Bob Hoskins (blimey, showing my age) it's good to talk.
Perhaps you need to do or say something every time Dave gets a bit ahead of himself - say something silly (maybe the same thing each time) so that he gets the picture and you can laugh together. Think you definitely need to arrange that overnight. Talking with no distractions will be much easier in person than over the phone - and you'll probably have a great time. Good luck and well done for ambushing the mate - shows initiative but more importantly, interest . Don't forget, Dave is a lucky man.

Taye

Well i have texted dave, told him to stop stressing and to call me after 9pm when kids are in bed and we can chat....

stupid stupid stupid man.

Still can't quite decide if it's sweet or abit stalkerish though, maybe it's just my paranoid side.

duchy

It's sweet !

whitewing

It's a 'sweet' from me too!

Hmm. Can you type and be on the phone at the same time?

k2tog

He's caring and tenacious and possibly a bit of a panicker.
I find tenacious very attractive - it's the romantic in me. And good on his mate for not minding being a lemon.
No naughties on the phone

Oh, go on then :cool:

themaccas

Hi Taye
I think your feelings will answer that one. Sometimes you say how much you like him but you are very guarded. If it doesn't feel right though you need to tell him and let him go.

I do hope whatever happens you move on from this with or without Dave, you deserve it after all you've been through.

Taye

themaccas wrote: »

Hi Taye
I think your feelings will answer that one. Sometimes you say how much you like him but you are very guarded. If it doesn't feel right though you need to tell him and let him go.

I do hope whatever happens you move on from this with or without Dave, you deserve it after all you've been through.

hehe quick ninja post while waiting by the phone.

I really do like him, but i guess i am guarded i guess i worry that my guy rating meter is screwwed up, let's face it the last guy i was totally infactuated with, totally in love with and totally sure was going to be THE ONE..

Ended up being ... well ever so slightly less than perfect. (tad sarcastic)

I've spent alot of time protecting myself, re-building what the last guy left behind im terrified of letting dave in and having the rug pulled from under my feet again.