When to start dating again?

NOVASTAR

I also took it to mean that he sulked because he expected you to share his bed which is why I said he had lost his shine a bit for me.

Errata

I wonder if 'Dave' understands boundaries and when to push a bit and when to slack off. I remember a post about him holding on a bit too long in the gym and making Taye feel uncomfortable.

Taye, looks like you're having a bit of a baptism by fire - but it's all good experience and will help you to sort the goodies from the baddies in the future.

rach29

Taye wrote: »

Well i've just been to the gym and he wasn't there nor has he replied to my text. Trying not to get paranoid but he never misses the gym.

Why not send him another text, "missed you at the gym today, hope all is well. Maybe I could call you later for a chat?"

No harm in letting him know you missed him & still care

Taye

i dunno i sent him a text this morning i don't want him to think im some crazy stalker. I kinda figure he'll contact me if he wants to talk.

bluebell13

Taye wrote: »

i dunno i sent him a text this morning i don't want him to think im some crazy stalker. I kinda figure he'll contact me if he wants to talk.

I agree (not that you might be a stalker, I hasten to add!). Maybe he took time away from the gym to have a think and get his head around things. I'm sure he will contact you in his own time.

glossgal

Sorry to hear things haven't gone as well as you'd hoped. To be brutally honest my warning bell was ringing pages and pages back when you said he told your kids he wanted to be your boyfriend but you wouldn't let him-even if he was joking I thought that was a bit innapropriate but didn't post anything as it seemd to be the Dave fanclub round 'ere!

Dont feel bad about taking it easy, I can see how it would annoy a fella to have your kids around on every date but you've only seen him what, three times now? he should not be sulking, sulking might be justified weeks or months later with no 'action' but less than a fortnight is immature at best. I hope you dont take this as insulting or patronsing Taye but you are vulnerable and have admitted this so you are going to be an easy target for men who have a hidden agenda-this golden boy may unfortunately be one of these men so watch your back. I really hope he isn't and this is just a blip but don't ignore your instincts because a bunch of strangers on a forum are gagging for a happy ending!

Errata

Taye wrote: »

i dunno i sent him a text this morning i don't want him to think im some crazy stalker. I kinda figure he'll contact me if he wants to talk.

He'll reply to you if he's a good mannered bloke. The ball's in his court now, so you have to be patient. Perhaps he's doing some work today?

Lunar_Eclipse

k2tog wrote: »

Lunar, am starting to feel like your twin! Well said.

Great; sometimes I wonder if I do actually have one somewhere!

Lunar_Eclipse

Errata wrote: »

Clearly some posters think I've misinterpreted this



I took this to mean share his bed, and any healthy young male who shares a bed with healthy young female often has more than kiss, cuddle and sleep in mind. Sulking about not gettng their own way is not the best way to win the hand of a fair lady.

I see what you mean, but I read it the way Novastar mentioned, ie sex-less.;)

I've been in this situation myself (experienced sulking about not sharing a bed with someone - because there were others present!) and it was definitely just sulking because of a missed opportunity to be physically close to each other. Thus an expression of disappointment, not meaning to apply pressure or guilt into having sex. It was ages before anything physical happened, hence my knowledge that this was the case.

But without being present, who knows who was feeling what in this Mills & Boon episode.

Taye

I feel sick

I've seen him 4 times, twice with the kids and im trying to make arrangements for childcare. Thing is my kids simply ARE a huge part of my life.. any guy who see's me is going to have to understand that.

Maybe it was all just a bad idea?!