Wedding list - no obligation, however ...

bandraoi

Have a guide, just give it to the people who ask for it.
People who think it's rude won't ask for it.
People who think it's not rude will.

This is why you wait and don't put it in the invitations.

niknaknoo1982

bandraoi wrote: »

Have a guide, just give it to the people who ask for it.
People who think it's rude won't ask for it.
People who think it's not rude will.

This is why you wait and don't put it in the invitations.

I never asked for anything in my invites or asked anyone for anything!! - Wedding is tomorrow... So far i have received 2 cards, both each containing £20 notes (from people who cannot make it tomorrow).

My nan has paid for me and hubby to go to a local posh hotel for the night (no honeymoon for us as we have 3 young kids and i'm 28 weeks pregnant!)
My aunty has paid £30 odd for cake decorations, and a garter for me,
My dad has paid for the evening entertainment and all the food :j
My mum bought the helium for the balloons.
I have no idea if other guests have bought us gifts. But as i said, I'm not fussed i just want people to be there!

Violetta_2

niknaknoo1982 wrote: »

I never asked for anything in my invites or asked anyone for anything!! - Wedding is tomorrow... So far i have received 2 cards, both each containing £20 notes (from people who cannot make it tomorrow).

My nan has paid for me and hubby to go to a local posh hotel for the night (no honeymoon for us as we have 3 young kids and i'm 28 weeks pregnant!)
My aunty has paid £30 odd for cake decorations, and a garter for me,
My dad has paid for the evening entertainment and all the food :j
My mum bought the helium for the balloons.
I have no idea if other guests have bought us gifts. But as i said, I'm not fussed i just want people to be there!

All the best for tomorrow niknaknoo, hope you have a lovely day.

ps_live

niknaknoo1982 wrote: »

I never asked for anything in my invites or asked anyone for anything!! - Wedding is tomorrow...

Good luck for today ))))

I'm sure you'll have a fabulous time :beer:

cookiedough38

I am not offended by gift lists at all. But we arent having one nor are we saying anything about gifts.

How about something along the lines of them using their talents to help make your day special.

sexki11en

ps_live wrote: »

Its terrible isn't it, its such a dilemma. As you know, we decided not to include anything in the invites in the end and we'll wait for people to ask. I have a feeling we may get a few duplicates; but thats fine, we want THEM there not their gifts :j

You can't please everyone, do what you think is right :beer:

Clearer head this morning - We're not going to include them either. Most people know us well enough to ask.....

niknaknoo1982 - have a fab day, hope the sun is shining where you are.

SK x

James_W_4

Sounds like you've decided what to do so maybe this is too late...

Just my 2 cents, but I def think it would be rude to mention gifts by printing it on the back of the invitations. How are you doing the RSVPs? Maybe you could ask for peoples email addresses and then send them a Word document all about the wedding later by email? You could put directions etc. and then a section about gifts. Might still be worth looking at gift lists though - like I said, I'm going with this one (http://www.eternitygiftlist.com) because you can ask for toasters etc. as well as cash gifts so you can keep all the relatives happy - in the end you can choose what to do with your gift list fund anyway. We've just put a welcome message like 'We set this up so that we could ask for a gift list fund to give our married life the best possible start!'.

Just a thought. Have fun doing the invitations over the bank holiday

weeclick

bandraoi wrote: »

It's an invitation to a party. You shouldn't mention gifts or presents at all.

If people ask you or close family members you should have a prepared response, but you wait to be asked.

I must agree with this post, Im not one to ask for anything - its my birthday on Monday and even when my parents ask what I want I say nothing because its embarrasing to ask for anything. My policy is just be glad with whatever you get, whether its needed or not (probably why I end up with so many books hehehe)

Most people may just put money in a card, and if people are stuck for what to get you they may just ask you out right - in that case just say "we arent expecting anything and would just be good if you could attend" that way people wont feel pressured into feeling that HAVE to give you something.

....and anything you do get that you dont need can always be sold on ebay! (jk) ive seen it a hundred times though "toaster brand new, unwanted present" hehehe

But I think to put a line in about presents would be just as bad as attaching a donation envelope to the invite lol I hope though that everything works out and you dont get too many toasters!

Valli

But weeclick - you're not asking for anything ... you are giving someone else, who would like to buy you a gift.. ideas of what you would like...
it's not like you've gone up to them out of the blue and said 'I want...'
I would far rather buy someone a gift I know they would appreciate. Rather than lumber them with something they didn't want then sold on or gave away.

jumpingjackd

My daughter is getting married on 28th of this month and she decided against a list, which I was glad about as I personally dont like them. As other posters have said, guests generally ask the parents what they need or want.
However, her h2b family have said she has to get a list made up.