Wedding list - no obligation, however ...

kr15snw

Ps live, the main peice of advice Ive had from people is that its fine to request cash BUT give them a reason (and not the wedding, lol).

Normally something like:

'Your presence at our wedding is all that is important to us, however if you wish to purchase a gift then a contribution towards our honeymoon / new kitchen / new sofa would be gratefully recieved'

I will warn though you will never please EVERYONE on this. Some HATE the idea of giving money, wheras some prefer it.

IWantToBeFree_2

I agree entirely snugglepants, our invites have just gone out and have nothing at all about gifts in them, and if people ask, then they will be told that we have everything we need and we would rather they just show up!

AllyS

How about asking for Tesco gift vouchers. Very useful for all things that might occur in the future

lindsey_toffee_girl

My friend has asked for money in a poem on the back of the invite its something like we've lived together for a while bla bla. Have a look on ebay for the poems or a wedding site and copy it

ellies_angel

I used to think it was bad manners to have a list, until I was invited to a wedding and had no idea what to buy. I didn't know the brides family to ask and the bride and groom couldn't be specific. For that reason when I got married I had a wedding list, which when asked I directed guests to. It had a variety of things ranging from £5- £100. (you need to have pricey things on the list for work colleagues who club together).
I had a friend who married who asked for Thomas Cook Gift Vouchers and another who asked for B&Q.
As a guest I would rather spend money on something which was wanted that on something which isn't.
My friend at the request from her mother had no present list and ended up with 6 dinner services (all different) 4 irons, 3 canteen of cutlery, 4 double duvets, I lost count of the kettles she received!!
Someone will always be offended, so if you want to play safe, leave the list out, but make sure your folks and his know your wishes so they can share them

Have a fabulous day
x

lindsey_toffee_girl

right I have found the poem....
We.ve been together for a while and have a lovely home. There are not too many things we dont already own.
So please dont be offended and please dont think were brash. But if thoughts were on a present we would much prefer the cash.
But the choice is really up to you, and we would like to say, that the best gift we could recieve is you here on our special day

rinroo

I have no intentions what so ever to send out anything at all with the invite, except directions to the church and venue.

I dont think that you should expect to receive anything just because you are getting married, even if it is the norm/tradition.

My friends have asked me already if I have thought of a wish/gift list and my wedding date isnt even confirmed until Weds!! I have already told them I have no intention of having one.

If you however feel you want to ask for contributions/cash then i suggest you just tell them, dont dilly dally round it. I have had a number of wedding invites for this summer a few poems - which i personally find annoying (sorry if I offend) and others with a ridiculous gift list, which all the items under £25/30 are gone.

fran-o

we were invited to a wedding last summer and the wording was something like this -
'Gary and Linda have been living together for a number of years and have everything they need - if you would like to make a wedding gift, a cheque would be most gratefully received to help towards their future lives together'
we took no offence at all, it makes a lot of sense to me. Most wedding lists are so unromantic anyway (cooking pans, bed sheets, towels!) that it didn't seem much different.
I'm sure the people who know you and know your situation will understand. All the best, Fran

snugglepants

kr15snw wrote: »

I will warn though you will never please EVERYONE on this. Some HATE the idea of giving money, wheras some prefer it.

That is true! I have no problem giving a couple money either, I just don't like to be asked for it. When it comes down to it, most people will do/give whatever they want to anyway!

I also have no problem with people having gift registry lists, they're a good guide for what to get the couple.....as long as that isn't shoved in my face!

I think the whole thing with these situations is that when people request things, it makes the prospective gift-giver/s feel awkward. Which is why I think the traditional approach is best - leave the details with parents/family. If someone wants to get the couple something, they know the obvious people to ask....even if it's the bride/groom themself

Sami301

lindsey_toffee_girl wrote: »

right I have found the poem....
We.ve been together for a while and have a lovely home. There are not too many things we dont already own.
So please dont be offended and please dont think were brash. But if thoughts were on a present we would much prefer the cash.
But the choice is really up to you, and we would like to say, that the best gift we could recieve is you here on our special day

We used this as an insert for our invitations as all of our Family live really far away from each other (word wouldn't spread so easily) and everybody commented on how lovely it was that we had taken the time to word it so perfectly. Everybody loves a poem! I have also been to weddings where the couple have asked for holiday vouchers, argos vouchers etc.

As a guest I prefer to know what the couple want, I would hate to turn up empty handed (although I wouldn't as I would put money in the card anyway)