Wedding list - no obligation, however ...

Sassa

Hi

As a serial wedding guest, I thought I'd add my comments....

Friends of mine recently got married and did the Oxfam Unwrapped scheme as their wedding list. (They both had their own homes and loads of 'stuff') I thought this was a wonderful idea and it felt good to be contributing to people less fortunate. You can spend as little or as much as you'd like. They actually received over £2000 worth of donations towards Oxfam.

*Louise*

Caroline73 wrote: »

Photo frames!

LOL - I've had two already (from our mums) and not even started receiving wedding gifts yet :rotfl::rotfl:

brownbabygirl

May I add that one wedding I went to the couple only stated on their invite: 'Money would be more appreciated', which I found to be very rude indeed. To make matters worse at the reception we had the MC constantly reminding guests to donate cash/cheques for the couple:mad:. I gave nowt.

Gloomy_Past_Bright_Future

the last 3 weddings I went to all asked for cash, no-one was offended, or if they did didn't show it! -Cheeky poems worked a treat!

It happens when people have been living together, or even more so if they have been living together and are now getting a house as one with two of everything!


Read these money poems on this link for some great ideas.
http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/index.php/chatroom/topic/9145

debs2327

aimee21j wrote: »

I wouldn't put anything. Sorry if I offend, but requests for any kind of 'gift' irritate me and I certainly won't be putting it on my invite.

i agree!!!!! im not mentioniing anything about gifts i find the whole thing cheeky and rude , i agree with a lot of the posts as to if i recived a invite with anything about them wanting or not wanting gifts id treat it like they were hinting , and be offended that they invited us and mention gifts at all,
my sil has asked us what we want for gifts and we told them we`d rather them keep there money buy themselfs a drink at the reception with it and just to be there on the day and enjoy themselves ,
would ppl send kids party invites out with a gift list in ? i think not

borokat

As a guest I personally prefer the wedding list option. I think it is nice to buy things that people will want to keep. My parents still have some of their wedding presents in use 35 years down the line!

I'm not offended by the concept of people prefferring to receive money or vouchers but I think it is a real minefield as to how to best express this, and I also don't really like the poems as I find them a bit...cheesy? Kind of like the rhymes in death notices in the local paper, just my personal taste so I hope nobody takes offence!

Even if you live with someone, a lot of the time you have to buy the cheapest possible of version of things...all my cutlery and crockery is from Ikea so I would really like to get a quality dinner service that I could use for years to come.

mookybargirl

If you're having a honeymoon , you should look at this site. http://www.buy-our-honeymoon.com. You can personalise your gift/honeymoon items as you want. Think we're going to be using this.
It would appear on your invites under one of these links.

• https://www.buy-our-honeymoon.com
• https://www.the-gift-of-memories.com
• https://www.honeymoonpromises.com
• https://www.our-dream-honeymoon.co.uk
• https://www.honeymoon-memories.co.uk
• https://www.our-hearts-desire.co.uk
• https://www.our-wedding-list.co.uk

James_W_4

I know my parents won't want to deal with all the guests so I'm just going to send an 'information pack' with each invitation printed on nice paper and include all the details of the day like directions, hotels, schedule for the day etc. and include a section about gifts with the link to our gift list page.

May be worth checking out http://www.eternitygiftlist.com as you can ask for contributions towards your honeymoon and also list some 'proper' gifts as well (e.g. kitchenware). I've just signed up with them as I'm getting married later this year.

Good luck!

sexki11en

I've read this thread over and over and I still don't know what to do.

Looking at the responses, you will never please anyone - half will want a guide, half think it's rude. I've spoken to memebers of the wedding party about this and they said they would want us to do it, my mom has said 'don't you dare' You can't win!

We absolutely have to send out our invites this weekend and I have NO idea what to do.

More sleepless nights lol.

SK x

ps_live

sexki11en wrote: »

I've read this thread over and over and I still don't know what to do.

Looking at the responses, you will never please anyone - half will want a guide, half think it's rude. I've spoken to memebers of the wedding party about this and they said they would want us to do it, my mom has said 'don't you dare' You can't win!

Its terrible isn't it, its such a dilemma. As you know, we decided not to include anything in the invites in the end and we'll wait for people to ask. I have a feeling we may get a few duplicates; but thats fine, we want THEM there not their gifts :j

You can't please everyone, do what you think is right :beer: