MSE Pregnancy Club VIII

MrsTinks

Krystaltips wrote: »

I know when I had Aimee I didn't bond with her at all before she was born, I couldn't even picture myself with a baby when I was pregnant and I definitely felt like the whole world was more excited about my pregnancy than I was (I also didn't get that 'rush of love' the first time I saw her like everyone says you should)... But we definitely have a bond now... I couldn't imagine my life without her, I worship her!

Interesting because this is something that has been worrying me... "what if I don't think she's the most wonderful beautiful baby in the world when she is given to me???"... I'm not a super emotional person at the best of times and I am always very practical and possibly even slightly removed from situations where I should be jumping with joy etc - When I got all my pets I was excited but also very practical - don't get me wrong I love them to bits, but even my love for them is always tinged with a bit of practicality - like I've removed myself a little because I don't want to get hurt when they pass away eventually...
*sigh*
It's so hard to explain!
I just worry that I won't feel that surge of love because I don't know that if I don't immediately then I might not later either... just because I know how I am...
I know it's daft and I shouldn't worry about it so much because she'll come out and I'll be cooing over her like your average nutter thinking she's just about the most beautiful thing on earth and everyone else are daft if they can't see MY baby is the prettiest and cutest...
I WILL get over this

elle_gee

Ow Ow Ow.. Not only is my hip getting worse, but I've now hurt my stomach whilst lifting a too-heavy box and racing around to tidy up before OH's mate and tribe get here. Feel sick and dizzy now I've done that

Aside from that, in good news, my midwife app went well earlier. Got my MatB1 and HiPG forms - filled in and sent off already No mention of healthy eating chat though! I'm measuring 24cm (am 25+3) which apparently perfect and right on the average line - got my first cross on the chart! 28wk app booked for iron tests and AntiD Jab. Wee and blood pressure fine and only realised when I got back to work that I forgot to use her scales to see how much weight I've put on. Home scales say I'm 9st so that's 1st 4lbs on since booking app. Told to watch out for ten movements a day, if not then eat something, drink something, poke him then phone hospital. My midwife is changing her hours so next time I go I'll have a new one.

ETA: Remembered something else she said.. apparently they only worry about baby being breech and feeling around at 37wks. Asked about inductions - booklet says 40+10, my friend who's DIL went into labour this morning had been told it's 40+14 now and my midwife says 40+12 :cool:

Got to go, visitor's due any minute.. TTFN xx

Krystaltips

Tine, I can completely relate... When Aimee was born I can honestly say all I could think was 'well that's that then...' I didn't get a rush of love, I was quite happy to feed her then let my sister dress her and hold her for a couple of hours while I waited to be sewn up... I felt ridiculous talking to her in the first few weeks, especially if there were other people in the room... And I certainly couldn't of stood there with my hand on my heart and said I loved her... Which feels awful... But she grew on me, I developed love for her slowly over the next couple of weeks/months until I really feel like I could burst with love for her... And I wouldn't be worried if I feel the same about this baby... Because that's just the kind of person I am... I take my time but I get there in the end!

tinkerbelluk

Krystaltips wrote: »

My midwife got my name wrong when I walked into the room and I corrected her... But she still called me by the wrong name about 6 times! Anyhoo... Probably have a stand in mw next time anyway...

Hope your 4d scan goes well... And I wouldn't worry about 'bonding' too much before baby arrives... I know when I had Aimee I didn't bond with her at all before she was born, I couldn't even picture myself with a baby when I was pregnant and I definitely felt like the whole world was more excited about my pregnancy than I was (I also didn't get that 'rush of love' the first time I saw her like everyone says you should)... But we definitely have a bond now... I couldn't imagine my life without her, I worship her!

I can't believe she got your name wrong, I would have called her something :mad:

Thanks for the reassurance about bonding, I must admit I feel exactly like you've said (I thought it was just me) Hopefully the scan will help, if not I'm going to try not to let it worry me so much. It just seems like everyone I speak to is so excited and people on here are really excited and I just can't help but feel like I should be feeling like that.

MrsTinks

Thanks Krystal (and Tinkerbell) - it's nice knowing it's not just me
everyone else always describes this "amazing surge of love"... and I keep thinking "well what if I don't get that?" it's like I would be a bad mum or something... I know it's silly and I'm sure I WILL love her to bits but that tiny little voice that says "but what if" just won't shut up!
It's strange because I know I want her and I want her here now and not in 5 weeks time or whenever - these emotions and hormones are just weird

Sami_Bee

searching_me wrote: »

sami you getting round to selling your xbox dont forget your id x

Did it today ur help re ID was a bit late but luckily I keep my driving license in my purse :cool: I got 10p more than I thought :j £35.10 to add to my ebay fund woo
My Mummy did buy Chris some new shoes :T he'd gone up a full size so gotta get his sz6 trainers out and put his sz 5's away (poor little unborn baby WILL be wearing his big bro's hand me downs LOL)
Krystal - I think Charlotte Church has the dazzle, so best not copy her boys name too
Bear Family - Chris has a cot bed which is in 'toddler bed' mode at the mo but will be swapped for a pure toddler bed ASAP and then will find its way into babies room with side back on I think its just preference really we don't have the space for a single bed in Chris's room but I think Krystal said her Aimee was in toddler bed until very recently so we decided that was the way to go for us as was cheaper to get a new bed for Chris than leave him in his cotbed and get a new cot/cotbed for bubba (well if I'd got the cheapest poss cot that would be cheaper but I didn't want to new cot would have been about £80 with mattress but new bed is £70ish)

searching_me

better late then never sami glad you got abit more even if it is only 10P but as they say ever little counts x

kathy72

MrsTine wrote: »

Interesting because this is something that has been worrying me... "what if I don't think she's the most wonderful beautiful baby in the world when she is given to me???"... I'm not a super emotional person at the best of times and I am always very practical and possibly even slightly removed from situations where I should be jumping with joy etc - When I got all my pets I was excited but also very practical - don't get me wrong I love them to bits, but even my love for them is always tinged with a bit of practicality - like I've removed myself a little because I don't want to get hurt when they pass away eventually...
*sigh*
It's so hard to explain!
I just worry that I won't feel that surge of love because I don't know that if I don't immediately then I might not later either... just because I know how I am...
I know it's daft and I shouldn't worry about it so much because she'll come out and I'll be cooing over her like your average nutter thinking she's just about the most beautiful thing on earth and everyone else are daft if they can't see MY baby is the prettiest and cutest...
I WILL get over this

I REALLY appreciate you posting the MrsT as this is very much how I feel too...I could have written the post in fact :rolleyes:

Like you I am hoping that things are different once he/she is in my arms...I'm sure they will be but there is just a fear at the back of my mind that I won't know what to do once he/she arrives. Hubbie is a much more emotional person than I am, I tend to keep things bottled up whilst he is 'free flowing' with his feelings and sometimes I just feel like he will be the one who bonds more with the baby because of this...

I guess only time will tell for us won't it????

I CAN get over this too :o

Kathy x

slscarborough

Evening ladies. Midwife appointment went well and everything is fine. Apparently policy here is stretch and sweep at term + 7 days then again at term + 9 days and if all else fails induction at term + 12 days. I have decided to opt out of the stretch and sweep all together so have an antenatal appointment on 17th April to arrange induction for 20th April. It hopefully will not get to that though.

elle_gee

OMFG! Doing my head in already.. :wall:

Someone tell me why your 13mths old child being able to say "cow" before "mum" or "dad" is something to be proud of?! :eek: