Advice on maybe cheating other half

Uniscots97

Valli wrote: »

My ex thought I was cheating - I wasn't. I used to leave my mobile out for him after the day I got interrogated as to where my mobile phone had been - that's when I realised he was checking it.
But I could not cope with the constant suspicion - the being timed on every errand (even when the kids were with me) - I wouldn't even answer the house phone when he was in so that he could see who it was. He made life hell with his constant doubts. And now we're divorced.

My ex did similar to me, only to cover the fact HE was cheating!

Uniscots97

CarliJ wrote: »

or gullable.

We have talked about this text at length over the past 2 days, and i believe him. People dont need to start getting personal, i only asked what would you do, and for advice.

Its up to us now to make sure we communicate and nuture our relationship, which got a bit under nurtured (:rolleyes: ) thanks everyone for the comments, i will keep you all updated xx

Good luck Carli and make sure he keeps talking to you and you to him. I'm not saying I don't believe him but if it is the truth (sorry I'm once bitten twice shy), then you need to make him see how keeping things from you lead you to believe there was something going on when there wasn't.

The_Doctor179

Try to put it all behind you and enjoy your life as you only get one.xx

Sunshine12

Im shocked at how many inter office affairs Ive seen in the last 10 years. Ive only worked in 2 offices and there have been so many its unbelievable. Not necessarily full blown affairs but one night stands a-plenty. Im not suggesting they all end up having sex but its cheating in my opinion no matter how far it goes.

I cant understand why your partner wouldnt just tell you to answer his mobile if his grandad rang rather than carrying it to the toilet with him but If you are sure he telling the truth then thats what counts and if you trust him there is no point in pondering over it as it will only end in arguments and distrust. I cant say Im convinced he is telling the truth but its easy to say that without seeing his reaction to your questions. Im sure you would know if he was telling porkies. Hope it all goes well.

k1mmie

I have just read the whole thread - phew!!!!! Glad you talked it out and it has got you communicating.

I am sorry to say though, a woman's intuiton is rarely wrong on these matters. The fact that you say that you have discussed this in great lengths means that between you there is obviously something there that either of you feel uneasy about. Good luck with your relationship and I hope you work things out, but never ignore those gut reactions!

mwa

Cam I just add my two-penneth worth here, having been in a similar situation?

The phone incident aside, are there any other things that make you think he might be cheating? Even things you don't acknowledge but deep down know aren't right?

My OH was cheating and did the whole taking phone everywhere thing, but when it all came out I could see that there were other signs that when added together made a pretty strong case; not wanting to sleep with me, acting very cold and aloof and going to work early being some of the more obvious ones. We sorted it out and are now happily married now but it was a big wake up call.

Like other people here have said - always trust your gut instinct, even if it's not what you want to believe.

xx