Right this is difficult.

Kimberley

I just think some people are going over the top here.

aliasojo

He just needs to accept his family's concerns as a start. If he wont accept being told each time and he isn't able to deal with this inhouse then they need to get some outside help imo.

Errata

Kimberley wrote: »

Thats because he doesn't realise. How can he stop if he doesn't know he does it?

He's been told he's doing it, several times. He could take steps to ensure he doesn't do it by mistake / through habit / subconcsiously by deliberately looking at their faces or over their shoulder.
Loving dads would do anything to avoid deliberately embarrassing their young daughters. Clearly this dad doesn't hold his daughters in esteem if he's prepared to walk out on them over something he can fix and won't.

Smashing

Kimberley wrote: »

I just think some people are going over the top here.

If I were the daughter I'd be wanting my mother to be 'over the top' about something like this.

aliasojo

Kimberley wrote: »

I just think some people are going over the top here.

When it comes down to it, it doesn't matter what any of us think. If the girls are upset by it, then it's a problem for them, and that's what counts.

Kimberley

Smashing wrote: »

If I were the daughter I'd be wanting my mother to be 'over the top' about something like this.

I meant people on here.

anguk

Kimberley wrote: »

Your being unfair on him to show him the door just because of this. Your probably making him feel like a !!!!!!. Some fathers feel they cannot bathe their kids or sit them on their laps anymore in case they are accused of abuse. He's not doing anything wrong except for making his daughters feel uncomfortable. Maybe the girls need to have a chat with him themselves.

I'm sorry but I disagree, he is doing something that is very wrong, he's ogling his own daughter's breasts! The OP has said that the girls have told him several times that they want him to stop and it's making them feel uncomfortable.

Even if, as you say, he doesn't realise he's doing anything wrong surely if his daughters have told him that he's making them feel uncomfortable and asked him to stop he should respect their wishes. What parent would continue to make their own child feel uncomfortable and uneasy?

I'd also wonder about the angry reaction too, if he was doing it accidently you'd think he'd apologise and feel bad for making his daughters uneasy but instead he gets defensive. Anyway it doesn't really matter what anyone thinks other than those 2 girls, if it's upsetting them it has to stop.

Kimberley

aliasojo wrote: »

When it comes down to it, it doesn't matter what any of us think. If the girls are upset by it, then it's a problem for them, and that's what counts.

It's frightening asking for advice on this forum because it then creates threads like this and then it becomes everyone elses business. I bet her hubby would be horrified if he saw this thread

Kimberley

anguk wrote: »

I'm sorry but I disagree, he is doing something that is very wrong, he's ogling his own daughter's breasts!

I look at my daughter's breasts, does that mean i'm ogling them? :eek:

VfM4meplse

Kimberley wrote: »

It's frightening asking for advice on this forum because it then creates threads like this and then it becomes everyone elses business. I bet her hubby would be horrified if he saw this thread

Great, maybe his will inspire him into action. PM me and I'll be happy to e-mail the thread to him.

I don't understand the symathy for the father here. If he claims not to understand what he is doing then what comes next exactly?? OP stick to your guns otherwise he'll have you believing that his behaviour is normal and you are the only nutter in a sane world. You have a duty of care to your daughters.