Right this is difficult.

poet123

I think it has been a baptism of fire,but don't let it put you off.

Really, if you think about it,those posts which challenge your own views,are the ones which ultimately lead you to know that even after considering them,you have made the right decision.

Take care,and good luck.

vaio

VfM4meplse wrote: »

…….You can look at your daughter's breasts all day and will not pose the same risk because you are a mother and as such you see breasts as nurturing appendages rather than in a sexual way. Men don't, no matter how many kids they've had. ……...

utter nonsense

Hectors_House

santos39 wrote: »

I dont resent their youth and beauty i am very proud of my girls and jealously doesn't come into it im sorry but i dont understand any mother being jealous of their own daughters , now i have to be careful what i say because some people tend to jump down your throat. I have been married to him for 15 years in that time he has had an affair which i forgave him for and he has always had a thing for the ladies and has always stared at them now this really didn't bother me as thats the way i am , now all was fine until he started to look at the girls now this bothered me , ok he has always looked at chests men do but when it was happening this time i told him he said he wasn't so i left it then the girls started to say they didn't like it he said he wasn't doing anything, we didn't scream at him , it got to the point where he still did it so i decided to shout and he said that he would walk out He didn't say sorry to the girls he didn't even say if he didn't mean to do it. When we discussed this again he said ok i am going and not coming back , he didn't even say goodbye. Why couldn't he have said to me ok i didn't know i was doing it and i am sorry, he didn't say it he just walked out . Some people would say i was nagging him but if i didn't keep on would he have just kept doing it? sorry if i spelt things wrong

From the above further details I think you've done the right thing by your daughters.

They need to know that these perfectly natural changes to their bodies don't give the boys and men in their lives now and in the future the excuse to treat them in a way that they find embarressing or offensive.

There is enough damaging messages given to young girls through the media that can make them hate their bodies, take up smoking etc. because it supposedly helps them stay slim.

Both their parents should be supporting the girls at such a sensitive time in their development into confident young women.

A male role model who has had an affair, openly treats the women around him in a vouyeristic way and does not try to change his behaviour when he is told that it's upsetting his own daughters needs kicking into the gutter IMO.

Thankfully thr OP has found a forum to ask for advise about what must be a very distressing situation.

paddy's_mum

Santos - don't be too quick to cut yourself off from whatever support and wisdom may be available to you here.

Unfortunately, there has been some negative response but I agree with poet123 that by assessing other peoples' 'evidence' and views, you give yourself something valuable, which is the broadest possible span of advice/opinion/experience/wisdom.

I shall be thinking of you.

vaio

santos39 wrote: »

Oh for gods sake i came on here for some support i did go on other support sites but no one answered for gods sake. I just bloody hope this doesn't happen to you guys ok.
I was concerned ok is that alright to be concerned about this? or should have i just sat back and not cared. Nothing in my marriage was bad nothing at all just him ogling my daughters chests ok but i thought that was wrong so now he is gone . NO one and repeat No one looks at my kids that way , i have lost a marriage over this but i am in the wrong, men can do what they want can they?. What a world this is coming to.
My daughters can now walk around without covering up and that makes me feel a whole lot happier.

My vote is tending towards troll too