Shocked - Meeting at School

Damzel_In_Distress

Im sorry but i still stand by my opinion-and can i just ask the OP...everyone previously was saying that it was because he was being bullied but what you discribed it not "bullying" its on inncident with one boy..

So he wasnt being bullied by a gang of boys as you previously said-so how can "bullying" be blamed?

I would just like to understand why others think that one other older boy being a slight thug towards your son whilst others watched is classed as "bullying" ...But your son attacking this girl is not?

galvanizersbaby

Damzel_In_Distress wrote: »

Im sorry but i still stand by my opinion-and can i just ask the OP...everyone previously was saying that it was because he was being bullied but what you discribed it not "bullying" its on inncident with one boy..

So he wasnt being bullied by a gang of boys as you previously said-so how can "bullying" be blamed?

I would just like to understand why others think that one other older boy being a slight thug towards your son whilst others watched is classed as "bullying" ...But your son attacking this girl is not?

Surely the incident where the OP's son lashed out at the one girl would be classed as an incident - same as with the boy (slight thug) attacking the OP's son in the first place.
They are both incidents - whether they are both incidents of bullying is debatable in my opinion since the OP's son's act doesn't appear to have been pre-meditated in the same way as the older boys behaviour.

missingink

I just wanted to post 'the other side' of this problem.

My dd(8)has been on the receiving end of a number of attacks, similar to the one carried out by the OP's son.

The majority were carried out by one boy-he punched, kicked, spat at her, etc on many occasions over a period of two years.

The teachers always said they were 'monitoring the situation' & that my dd & this boy had a 'love/hate relationship'.

The boy usually apologised, would often tell her he loved her & give her presents-stickers, a McDonalds toy, etc.

Because of this, my dd seemed to think that his abuse was ok, despite my insistance that it certainly was not!

My dd & I were in an abusive relationship with her father. Since we left, I've tried so hard to show her that this is not the way things are supposed to be. Now because of this boy, I feel that I'm back to square one.

Thankfully, this boy moved a few months ago, so he won't be bothering her anymore, but I constantly worry about what will happen in the future.

allIcouldwishfor

Leiela, now that everything regarding this incident has been clarified, I hope you, your son and the girl can deal with it appropriately and eventually put it behind you.

What's the school doing about the boy who held your son on the floor?

leiela

allIcouldwishfor wrote: »

Leiela, now that everything regarding this incident has been clarified, I hope you, your son and the girl can deal with it appropriately and eventually put it behind you.

What's the school doing about the boy who held your son on the floor?

Not alot most likely, i have complained about this boy before, unfortunatly his parents don't care and are unwilling to punish him for what they concider "boys will be boys" behaviour.

My son stayed after school yesterday for an hour to talk with his teacher and counciler while the other boy's parents refused to allow him to be kept behind and refused to acknowledge a problem.

Naturally this leaves me in a bind, because im punishing my child while his tormentor is getting great joy from the fact that he's being punished, while suffering very little himself.

the school say they are going to watch the situation, and they do seem to realise how serious it's gotten but im not filled with confidence.

tiamai_d

Now I wonder if all those who called your son a 'thug', 'wifebeater' etc will come back with an appology? Or if it makes no difference, he should just lie there as it was a 'girl' (thinks of a recent thread by an abused husband) :rolleyes:

I'm glad you have got the full story and can put it all behind you.

Stephb1986_2

tiamai_d wrote: »

Now I wonder if all those who called your son a 'thug', 'wifebeater' etc will come back with an appology? Or if it makes no difference, he should just lie there as it was a 'girl' (thinks of a recent thread by an abused husband) :rolleyes:

I'm glad you have got the full story and can put it all behind you.

Are you reading my mind or something?

Your baby is due the day after my birthday

Steph xx

allIcouldwishfor

leiela wrote: »

Not alot most likely, i have complained about this boy before, unfortunatly his parents don't care and are unwilling to punish him for what they concider "boys will be boys" behaviour.

My son stayed after school yesterday for an hour to talk with his teacher and counciler while the other boy's parents refused to allow him to be kept behind and refused to acknowledge a problem.

Naturally this leaves me in a bind, because im punishing my child while his tormentor is getting great joy from the fact that he's being punished, while suffering very little himself.

the school say they are going to watch the situation, and they do seem to realise how serious it's gotten but im not filled with confidence.

What a horrible situation Leiela. Have you put anything in writing about this? What exactly are they watching for? How bad does he have to behave in order for them to act?

Reggie_Rebel

Keep at the school with regard to the actions of this other boy, if you are not happy with the teachers response then approach a Governor, if still no joy the go to the LEA.

It may take a while to get them to realise that you expect the same standards for the rest of the school as you have for your child.

tiamai_d

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Are you reading my mind or something?

Your baby is due the day after my birthday

Steph xx

I think it's easy to critisise but not so easy to appologise :rolleyes:

My baby will no doubt arrive long before your birthday unfortunatly! :eek: