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  • Good morning all,

    I haven't read the thread yet but I will.. I just wanted to post about Tristan first..

    The truth is I don't think I will be speaking to him again. I spoke to him very briefly the other night but he wasn't himself.. I know he doesn't have long left. His friends and family are upset that he won't come to any peace around it - he is still railing against it and insisting as he had from the start - when only he and I knew he was ill that "The cancer won't kill me", but his whole body is just giving up on him and he drifts in and out of 'awareness'.

    Talking to him was so hard - and I know he won't be strong enough to log on to messenger again. He keeps sending me emails but the last two were half finished sentences...

    I know this was inevitable but I don't think one is ever ready for it. I am not so sad that he isn't at peace - he has never been at peace for the three years he has been ill and though I understand why people might wish him to be - to accept what is happening and say goodbye, it wouldn't be Tristan to be so accepting.

    He said goodbye to me about 6 weeks ago so the rest of this time has been a bonus.. but I feel so sad that I will never hear his voice again, or sing to him, or even argue with him again. I love him so much.

    I am sorry - I will post again later and catch up with everyone but I wanted to write this and get it here so you all knew. I don't know how long he has, but I know it isn't long so please pray or send loving thoughts for his family, they really need that support right now.

    Thank you all so much

    Diva.x
    To be frugal, you need to spend money wisely, simply spending less is not enough.
    If you can't handle me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best...
    Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I will try again tomorrow.
  • Mudgekin sorry you feel the need to disappear for a while love,but you know what is best for you......don`t stay away too long and remember people are here to support you....hugs

    JackieO sorry to hear about the bereavement in your family, how sad for you all!

    Well have been busy......24 mini choc chip muffins made....they look a bit odd but I always have probs with muffins, am fine with other cakes, don`t know why:rolleyes: ...taste ok tho;)
    I have a big pan of lasagne meat filling cooking( a la Jamie) and will layer it up shortly.
    I have managed to free up some room in the freezer at last:T so am going to have a look for somewhere to bulk buy meat to stock it up..was thinking lots of good quality mince would be useful to portion out.

    Glad others are enjoying Masterchef and supporting same man as me:T ....of course Matt, thats his name, thank you Ivyleaf....I will miss it too next week as not much else on:rolleyes: ..when does the Celebrity one start?
  • Mudgekin -

    Please do not stay away too long - we may only be your cyber friends but I know we can support you and make the darkness not seem so dark. We will all be thinking of you - come back to us soon.

    Diva.x
    To be frugal, you need to spend money wisely, simply spending less is not enough.
    If you can't handle me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best...
    Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I will try again tomorrow.
  • MSD......sorry to hear there is so much sadness surrounding Tristan at the mo....I guessed as much from what you mentioned yesterday but didn`t want to ask you exactly what it was as you obviously were not ready to share yet.
    The situation of someone dying is always horrible but is made worse for everyone when the individual can`t accept what is happening.
    I hope for all of you that he does accept it during the short time he has left and finds peace.
  • Princesstippytoes - what are you on about? I never left little bear alone with medicine. He nearly managed to get some chewable vitamins. I deliberately don't take painkillers in the same room as him, that's all.

    Anyway, update, little bear is probably not autistic according to the specialist we saw today. I'll post again later when I get some OS done.

    MSD - hugs. I am so sorry - you and Tristan are still in my prayers.
    Ankh Morpork Sunshine Sanctuary for Sick Dragons - don't let my flame go out!
  • Reverbe
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    I was in a Wetherspoons on Tuesday and drank IPA. It's not my fav by any means and I'd have rather had a lager/cider after a few but it was 99p a pint!!!:beer: :j
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  • Mudgekin - little bear sends hugs covered in cracker crumbs to his cyber auntie and hopes you will be able to drop in when you can.
    Ankh Morpork Sunshine Sanctuary for Sick Dragons - don't let my flame go out!
  • WBS....i didn`t realise LB was having tests into autism.
    If you need any advice about any worries or anything please get in touch.....its a worrying time....it is 3 years since DS was diagnosed and I am still learning, its an ongoing process...hugs
  • Princesstippytoes - what are you on about? I never left little bear alone with medicine. He nearly managed to get some chewable vitamins. I deliberately don't take painkillers in the same room as him, that's all.
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    Ooops.. :o Sorry.... When you said you had taken headache tablets and then said you had taken tablets away from little bear I just put 2 and 2 together and came up with something other than 4. ;) I wasn't admonishing you. It's just that the subject of adult medication and children is close to my heart. icon9.gif

    Diva, I will continue to pray for Tristan. xxx
    Life is too short to waste a minute of it complaining about bad luck. Find joy in the simple things, show your love for those around you and be grateful for all that you have. :)
  • Sunnyday
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    Hi everyone,

    JackieO - i`m sending ((((HUGS)))) for your Niece and her two little girls, such sad news

    Diva - sorry to hear the news about Tristran, i shall kep you all in my thoughts.

    I`ve had my shower and i`m now having a coffee to try and perk me up a bit, hope i`m not coming down with something as it`s not like me at all to feel so lethargic, i could actually fall asleep if time permitted but wo*k calls shortly.

    Catch up with everyone later.

    SD
    Planning on starting the GC again soon :p
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