MSE Pregnancy Club VI

tarajayne

Where did you all go?

Glamazon

Jillie my labour buddy - when you see your MW she will give you the most up to date one! You should see the old leaflets and things I find in my doctors rooms!

One more sleep til MW appt!! I have already been screened for Hep B, Rubella and Varicella (chickenpox) last year and have received appropraite vaccinations (can you believe it oldest of 7 and never had chickenpox!!!). If I take a letter from my Occupational Health nurse will they screen again - also I used to give blood so know my blood group and Rhesus status.

I feel like sh1te today - came in to work yesterday and today to loads of emails from top bosses complaining that things haven't been done. They haven't got a clue, they refer to you as 'her' and 'she' and don't give me enough staff to do the work. Have sent my manager a long email about demotivated I feel and hope she will pass it on.

cazscoob

im here tara should be doing something but cant be bothered lol! bidding on a bag on ebay lol!

Nicki

Hi HypnoNu

I'm sorry you're having a tough time at work. I can kind of relate to your boss (though I hope I was never horrible to pregnant ladies and made them cry!) as I can recall what it was like when I miscarried my first child when I was working, then took 6 long years and much fertility treatment to conceive my second. I used to find it really really difficult when other women made their pregnancies really obvious. I don't mean having a bump or the odd conversation with their mates about it, but rather the not being able to talk about anything else, constantly rubbing their bumps, or talking about their symptoms and requiring special treatment from day 1 when it wasn't really necessary (like not coming in at the start time of work because they were pregnant and didn't like travelling at rush hour for the whole of their pregnancy, not just when morning sickness was bad, or in the much later stages). It also used to reduce me to almost complete nervous breakdown level when new mums would bring their babies in to the office and stay for the best part of the day (an hour or so I could cope with, but not being able to go anywhere without seeing a newborn was tough)

I guess what I'm trying to say is that if she has just found out she can't have children she's going to be in a really bad place for a long time, and however upset you are feeling about her being shirty with you is likely to be a drop in the ocean compared to how she is feeling. Maybe as others have suggested, it would be better to ask now for a transfer to somewhere else in the company for the sake of both of your mental health. If that isn't possible, unfair as it might be, could you make a huge effort to make life easier for her, so that she doesn't feel the need to have a go at you. Could you for example agree with a colleague that they will do your filing if you do some of their typing in return, so you don't have to tell your boss that you can't file because you are pregnant?

If she is grieving her own loss at the moment, you unfortunately are probably not going to be able to change how she relates to you, so the only options are to get out of the situation, to minimise the opportunities for her to get upset with you, or to stick things out to the bitter end feeling upset every day. I'd go for option 1 or 2 personally!

tarajayne

cazscoob wrote: »

im here tara should be doing something but cant be bothered lol! bidding on a bag on ebay lol!

I haven't even got dressed yet. Need a day off after a few days of running around. How are you feeling this morning?

efrieze

Nicki - really well said. I struggled in dealing with hearing about everyone elses pregnancies when it wasn't happening for me when I wanted it to. It's tough and I guess we need to be sensitive to it.

MrsTinks

tarajayne wrote: »

Where did you all go?

sorry been playing on Bingo Port and doing some work lol

feelinggood_2

I've got a property inspection at 2:30pm, and I've got lots of tidying to do, but between the tiredness and the sickness, its bloomin' hard. Plus the rabbit doesn't like being in his cage, and every time I walk past him, he looks at me with big, sad eyes

cazscoob

i think if the pelvis and back ache went away i would be jogging up the street to get her out lol! but sadly it takes me all my time to go to the loo lol!

i wish i could have stayed in my PJs but had this lot to drop at school, luckily abi away to friends after nursery so i dont have to pick her up!!! charlie will go to bed soon and i think i might stick a dvd on:D a day off sounds good think i might just do the same:D

Sami_Bee

I feel sick My own fault tho I still have the horrible phlegmy throat but wanted coco pops for brekkie and the milk has just made it worse.
Chris is currently stacking his pots of plasticine into a tower and knocking them over I love watching him play like that

Caz are you gonna tell us more about this bag your bidding on?

and I've forgotten who's got the poorly doggie but you've just re-enforced my view that dogs belong outside :rotfl: Hosing down a pen/lawn is much preferable to scrubbing carpets and a stinky house!!