Ever feel trapped???

Lalaladybird

Krystaltips wrote: »

How old is your DD?

She is 14 months and with me all day! She has recently dropped her afternoon nap too so I have less time by myself during the day.

Hardup hester....25 years :eek: are you trying to scare me;) :rotfl:

Lalaladybird

bestpud wrote: »

Can't your OH babysit one night a week while you go out and do something for you?

Yes he would, he is very good. I'll try and think of something that doesn't cost too much:o

Do you get out and about with your LO, or are you quite isolated during the day?

I try to get out with her everyday, otherwise I'd go nuts, so we go for a walk, to the library, round the shops etc but it is just the 2 of us as my friends all work and don't have kids, I'm not really a toddler group kind of person...:o

I really appreciate all this support and sympathy...I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling like this

fernliebee

Just an idea but could you do a girly night with one of your friends. You can make your own face packs, and put them on. I'm not that sort of gal usually but me n some friends do it occasionally and have a real laugh. Also I know you say your not the toddler group sort....but have you tried surestart? it's free so no commitments money wise, and there are all sorts of people there, though I spend all my time chatting to the staff as I used to be in childcare BC (b4 children) I have met some lovely ppl. Not people I would see outside of group, but lovely all the same. The kid's love it, and as they are busy you get a cuppa and a bit of a break. If not then it sounds really geeky, but have you looked on gumtree? I saw an ad from someone looking for local mums to walk with as she was new to area, my friend answered it and we met and are great friends!

Shelley3774

I have two little boys aged 6 and 3 and I work jobshare shifts and although I moan each time I go to work once I'm there I really enjoy it. It gives me a chance to escape the housework and socialise.
My husband last year changed from shifts onto 9 -5 (but include travelling and it would often turn into 730 - 1800) and he is also a rugby ref on Saturdays. Some weeks I felt like I was going out of my mind and began to get very resentful with him. Fortunately yesterday he switched back to shifts on a 4 on 4 off rota and that is fantastic cos he will be around a lot more and I can get some me time at last.

peachyprice

I have to agree with the posts above. Right now you think of a P/T job as yet another committment, but if you could see it from a different angle it can be a great release.

You obviously don't need to work, so you could find yourself a nice little job doing something you might enjoy, even if just for a couple of hours a week it would give you that time to be simply you, not mummy, not wife, just Lala. I think you'd be suprised at how much a sense of freedom it would give you, rather than more committment.

It is hard work being a sahm, I did it when my twins were little, and TBH it drove me potty, so I took the easy option and went back to work, job sharing with my mum.

1sue23

I used to feel the same when my children were small ,what I used to do was night classes cooking ,art classes anything really just to get a break ,also about once a month I used to leave the children with their father and have an afternoon off ,I would have what I called my mad money that I could do whatever I wanted with ,be it a coffee in town ,or swimming any thing I fancied doing ,even just a read in the park on a sunny day .
Funny thing is now that my children have their own children I like nothing better than spending an afternoon with the grandchildren ,it really feels like it was only yesterday that my own children were small time passes so quickly and I wonder where the years have gone.

silverbullit

An advert for the single life!

jack*tigger

I know how you feel but you have to reclaim a little of your life.

Getting a part-time job isn't that bad. I had to get a job 6 years ago when DS was 3 and DH got made redundant. I cried at the thought. But we have such a laugh at work. I always say I'm going to work for the break !

Do your local sport centre have a creche?? You can put little 'un in the creche and either do something sporty or just sit int he cafe with a book. Peace for an hour.

When DS was little a friend (who I met at post-natal group) used to have him for 1 morning a week. I would return the favour on a different day.

Getting away from the little 'un on occassion give you your ME time. But it also make you appreciate your mummy time more too.

KellyWelly

My two are both in school now, I remember feeling like this sometimes in the past 7 years. It feels like it's never ending when you're in the middle of it all, never having a minute to yourself and like you have nothing of your self left, all you are is mummy/cleaner/cook/dogs body. It's only now that they're in school I realise how MAD life was the past few years!! I've been saying to other young mums lately - you just have to survive the first few years. And once they're over, (at least for me) you realise how short a time it really is. tbh I feel a bit jealous of people who still have their little kids at home sometimes. Do you get out to play groups or your local family or children's centre? I found them so helpful. I swear I would have gone crazy without mine.

Could your mum have your daughter for a day and overnight occasionally? My mum did that every now and then (when I only had one child) and it was a godsend, bless her.

irish_eyes

A keep fit or evening class is a good idea or a couple of hours voluntary work, just to see how you get on. They won't require the same commitment as a job and will let you see how everyone manages when you are away from home for a while.