Ever feel trapped???

Lalaladybird

I adore my OH and my daughter but I wish I could just go out by myself at a moments notice like I could when all I had to think about was myself. I'm a sahm and I have a desperate need for time off at the moment. My life is housework, cooking, laundry and looking after my dd. My OH wants me to get a part time job but I just cannot bear the thought of having another commitment. My OH is great and says he'd do more around the house if I was working too (he already does his fair share ). I think it has just dawned on me that until my dd (and any other children we have) grows up my life will not be my own *sigh* I have a headache and would like to just go out for a walk right now but I can't because my OH is working so I have to stay in.....so I feel trapped! On his days off he wants us to have time together as a family during the day and as a couple at night which is lovely but when do I get time for me? I do get to go to Tesco on a monday morning all by myself!

jimexbox

Is that my wife?:rotfl:

What you need is some serious R and R, a dirty weekend away with no kids. Book a nice hotel with a large jacuzzi bath........

Lalaladybird

jimexbox wrote: »

Is that my wife?:rotfl:

What you need is some serious R and R, a dirty weekend away with no kids. Book a nice hotel with a large jacuzzi bath........

Trouble is I'd like that every week

tessie_bear

its hard sometimes...i completely agree and often feel the same...i read a wicked book i think called...organised mums handbook and it really made me feel better.....i think everyone has bad days and i think u need to snatch a break whenever u can ie when someone can look after the kids......with your walk could u load up buggy or go out in the garden to clear your head...a little job might do u good...get u out into the real world...good luck

gone4gold62

Lalaladybird wrote: »

Trouble is I'd like that every week

hi you have my sympathy its hard work been a sahm try to take a few hours each week for yourself then maybe you wont feel so trapped

Maybeanotherday

I know a part time job sounds like another chore...but I felt like this when my little one was erm...even smaller
Going out to a part time job at least means you can get to socialise AND forget about the housework/kids plus a little spend for you too

Paparika

But you choose this life, is it a case of the grass is greener on the other side, people with no commitments etc

Hardup_Hester

I remember what that feels like Lala, but the kids do grow up eventually, it took 25 years, but now I can go out whenever I like, well I could if I could afford to, lol.

Krystaltips

How old is your DD? I know when mine was younger and with me every waking minute I sometimes felt like I didn't get a minute to myself... Now she's in school I feel a lot more liberated, can pop to town alone etc... I know it seems like forever before they start school but it really does pass by in the blink of an eye... (I keep telling myself that... With a new baby on the way!)

pink_princess

:grouphug: Big hugs lalalady bird,
I remember when i was on maternity leave ,i felt so stuck in rut somedays.I wanted to just escape anywhere .Somedays i just used to go for a walk once OH got home.

You ll feel great tomorrow ,it really is something we all feel sometimes.:D

bestpud

I think we've all been there, if only for a brief moment.

I know a part time job seems a commitment but it may actually help. I know it's work, but while you are there, you only have to look after yourself and it's time out of the house.

Plus housework is actually easier when you aren't there all the time, in my experience at least.

Can't your OH babysit one night a week while you go out and do something for you?

Do you get out and about with your LO, or are you quite isolated during the day?