MSE Pregnancy Club V

Sami_Bee

Right I'll be aiming this post mostly at Skinty
I had my MW app about an hour ago and she told me that they like to induce at term +10 now (it was 14 when I was last preg) She said they are very receptive to discussing and "letting" you go to +14 provided that I agree to monitoring which would mean MW coming daily and/or going into hosp to be put on the monitor for about an hour. Obviously if any problems were spotted I would choose to be induced there and then but if not I would be free to go to 14 over plus more if they and I are confident that bubs is doing well
Just what I wanted to hear!
Hopefully I won't need to do any of that but for me daily monitoring is much more preferable to being induced.

SABJ

i was over excited and told all my family and very close friends when i found out i was 6 weeks but i waited to tell everyone else till after my 1st scan 12 weeks do what ever you feel is best for you x enjoy the wedding

Nicki

Personally I wouldn't tell your parents now just because it is only a week before your brother's wedding, and so I think it would inevitably steal his thunder and his bride to be might end up being very upset with you for a very long time.

You are going to be flying a very long distance and that could account both for not wanting to drink, and for feeling a bit below par. I am sure that you can come up with plausible excuses for any changes in your normal behaviour without telling the truth now.

If you still want to tell them before the 12 weeks is up, its going to be fine to do so as soon as the wedding is over, and the happy couple have decamped on honeymoon.

Good luck whatever you decide, and enjoy the wedding!

angelfairy

hi vic

congrats on being six weeks (doesn't feel that long ago for me and i'm 36 weeks now).

OH and I told our parents when i was 7 weeks. We were excited, and knew they would be happy for us, so we wanted to tell them.

i also knew that if i had any trouble during the early weeks and if something wasn't right, then i would need their support anyway.

as for friends/colleagues etc, i waited until after 12 weeks.

enjoy your trip to oz

xxx

Sami_Bee

vicstar - its totally up to you, if you feel happy/confident that it feel right to tell them now then do it
With my first I was 20 and still living at home so felt a bit like a naughty school girl I told my mum about 2 weeks after I found out so 10 or 11weeks, she told my dad n sis for me coz I was scared my dad would go mental (he didn't he was a bit upset for me that it didn't happen the way I wanted but was excited about the baby ) Hubby wasn't my hubby then and also living at home although he did own a house but we we're renovating He told his parents about a week after I'd told mine, his mum didn't speak to either of us for about 3 days :mad: but his dad felt similar to mine. Everyone else we told at my birthday party which was at about 12 weeks but before I'd had my scan.

This time we did it "properly" we we're married and kept it a secret until we surprised everyone with the scan pic the only problem here was that I had some bleeding early on and I didn't tel my mum who is usually my 1st shoulder to cry on, but I had told a couple of friends who knew we were ttc and they helped me through it.

Glamazon

Hi Vic

I am nearly 9 weeks pg - a couple of people know but only because they guessed and OH thinks it's just me and him that know

Anyway, we are defintely waiting for our 12 week scan at least just because it seems about right. We want to tell our family first, then close friends then the world

We are in a bit of a quandry (?sp) - OH wants to tell his parents face to face but we won't see them until Easter when I'll be 16 weeks (don't think I can wait that long) then I'll tell my lot over the phone. Also, I don't want to tell work until after the April payrises have been announced but don't know if I will be able to hid my growing belly for that long!

It's a difficult one but I think you will know when the time is right - we don't see our family much as they are dotted around the UK but I know that if I saw my parents or his anytime soon we would probably tell them.

I'm currently debating whether to go to my sister's wedding in July - I will be 29 weeks so will need a letter from MW and flights are currently only £18 each way (plus flucking taxes:mad: ). OH won't know until a few weeks before whether he can get time off work and by then the flights will have gone up.

Why can't things just be straight forward for our mushy pregnancy brains?

MrsTinks

We told our parents as soon as we found out Partly because we knew they'd be chuffed and also that they would be there if something happened... But I WOULD say wait till after the wedding... If it was me I'd be seriously miffed off if my sister/brother announced the week before my wedding that they were expecting because invariably it's going to detract from the day as everyone congratulates you (and they will find out... when you're not drinking booze and people ask your parents they won't be able to not look knowingly at them... )

Sami_Bee

Nicki wrote: »

We had our posh meal out last night. Restaurant was very nice and made me a lovely fruit cocktail when I said I was alcohol-free for the night. They were a bit phased by pregnancy though! Although most of the starters and mains were fine, they offered a cheese course before dessert, and when I asked whether any of the cheeses on the board were pasteurised, the waiter answered "No, but they've all been kept in the fridge!"

For puddings, I fancied the chocolate/orange creme but asked the waiter to check with the chef whether there were any raw eggs in it, and if there were to change my order to the raspberry gateau, at which point he looked very confused and said there were eggs in cakes too! Not sure, he really understood why I was asking!!

I think you had the dumbest waiter ever :rotfl:
I went to a fancy place in manchester when preg with Chris (and still following the rules) they were really good, even brought the wrapper off the goats cheese to show me it was pasturised :A

ChasingButterflies

Vicstar - My mum was living with us when we found out we were expecting this time - so it was obvious to her that I was... Just after Christmas (very early pg) we took the kids down to my dads and he guessed (I looked a bit more green around the gills 1st thing than normal!) DH's parents will be told this week after our 12 week scan (past experience dictates that it will take them some time to accept the news - but that same past experience doesn't make me feel guilty about not telling them yet ) The kids - don't have a clue when to tell them!

It is entirely possible that people may as why you are not drinking (I didn't get asked - more "omg you are pregnant aren't you!!!" * 19 - friday night crowd and I ordered an OJ) I can see why you are torn - do your parents live in the UK or in oz? I am thinking that if they live out there too you would rather tell them in person? Are you there for long after your brother and sil go on honeymoon?

Sami_Bee

Nicki wrote: »

I'm sorry Skintchick but I think you are wrong here. The doctors would not need to have you sectioned under the mental health act to induce you/do a c section if either were medically necessary, though they would need a court order, but that could be obtained in a matter of hours.

It's never been done for an induction in the UK, but it was done for a c-section a few years ago. The legal authority is Re S. The mother wasn't mentally incompetent but she really didn't want a c-section but it was needed because her baby was 5 days over and medical opinion was that it was at risk. The Court of Appeal ordered her to submit to a c-section, and sadly the baby died anyway.

There is a reasonably accessible for a layman legal opinion column here

http://www.healthmatters.org.uk/issue16/whosepregnancy

which deals with the whole area.

Personally, given that there is very little risk to delivering a baby slightly early (ie by a few weeks) I cannot understand why any mother would ignore medical advice to induce a child who was significantly overdue if there was any risk at all of harm to the child as a result of waiting.

Just thought it necessary to pint out that this case was not purely because she was over due
"The case, known as Re S, concerned a 30-year-old woman admitted to hospital in spontaneous labour. She had ruptured membranes, was six days overdue, and her child probably would have died had she not had a caesarean. The woman, who was unquestionably competent, refused consent on religious grounds. After an emergency hearing, the caesarean was authorised despite the patient’s refusal to consent. The justification given by the judge was that these measures were in the vital interests of the patient and her unborn child."

I think Skinty has previously mentioned(??) that if an emergancy c/s was needed then she would have one, if she hasn't said it I'm confident that she would but she may com and correct me if I'm wrong