MSE Pregnancy Club V

MrsTinks

Mmmmmmmmmmm toasted ham and cheese sandwiches... I think we even have a toasted sandwich maker thingy somewhere... must dig it out me thinks

My_Fathers_Daughter

feelinggood wrote: »

OH keeps trying to buy a deep fat fryer. I keep telling him that if he does, he'll end up with one of those wives who cannot get out of bed. Sometimes it just easier to avoid these things compeletly isn't it!

Definitely!! There is a sandwich toaster in the kitchen at work and I just keep thinking - it is a fried bread sandwich, would you eat a sandwich made with fried bread?? But they are too tasty, especially when you are at home and are already the size of a house!!

We don't have a deep fat fryer either - partly to avoid frying stuff all the time (we eat enough take away as it is) and partly because of the smell...

Now I just need to work on avoiding chocolate! I hardly ever touched the stuff before I got pregnant!

tiamai_d

Good stuff AM!!

I think we will get it also, wtc is only about £7, but ctc is £130 as we get the diability element for DS2. Will just wait and see though.

feelinggood_2

Just spoke to the Pyschiatrict Nurse. I was hoping for perhaps a few session of CBT or counselling, but you know what her suggestion was? I could ask for an elective c-section! Think I'd rather tackle the issue instead of having unessercary surgery.

redmel1621

I'm not sure about leaving baby too long inside as it is scientifically proven that the placenta deteriorates after 40wks(isn't it)...however, I wasn't born until 43wks so there mustn't have been the pressure back then to induce, as there is now?

I do agree that pregnancy does contain elements of risk the whole way through, my friend lost her baby at 39wks. After taking 10yrs to conceive.

I'm not entirely sure I would wait that long, because I am too impatient:)

Mel x

tiamai_d

feelinggood wrote: »

Just spoke to the Pyschiatrict Nurse. I was hoping for perhaps a few session of CBT or counselling, but you know what her suggestion was? I could ask for an elective c-section! Think I'd rather tackle the issue instead of having unessercary surgery.

What a load of tosh! Tackle your problem or bury your head and they tell you to bury your head? A section is not what you need. Try your GP or MW?

mollythewestie

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I just keep thinking - it is a fried bread sandwich, would you eat a sandwich made with fried bread?? !

Yep!! I probably would!! I was just deciding what to do for my dinner, toasted ham and cheese sandwich it is!

As for Deep fat fryers, we gave in and bought one last year, but bought one of those small ones that just does one portion of chips at a time (Enough for 2 chip butties!). It is really handy for doing a small portion of battered cod or onion rings too.

Edit: The fryer is this one: http://www.comet.co.uk/shopcomet/product/410772/TEAM-FT167M

My_Fathers_Daughter

feelinggood wrote: »

Just spoke to the Pyschiatrict Nurse. I was hoping for perhaps a few session of CBT or counselling, but you know what her suggestion was? I could ask for an elective c-section! Think I'd rather tackle the issue instead of having unessercary surgery.

Good on you feelie.

This may be a bit left field but have you thought about a doula?

When I first heard about them I wondered why anybody would but it might be the answer to your prayers...especially of there was such a thing as a doula who specialises in ladies with PTSD (you can't be the only one in the world surely )

Just a thought...

http://www.doula.org.uk/

Glamazon

Just had my first pregnancy cry - just read about Jade Goody and her wedding plans, Mohammed Ali Fayed has given her a Harrods dress and the pictures are so heart wrenching.

Just eaten sausage and chips so feel sick now - always regret chippy afterwards.

On the subject of 'getting jiggy' my OH is even worse now I'm pg - thinks I look so sexy with my little bump. I keep telling him it's probably water retention and bloating but he plans to ask the MW on Thursday if it could be twins - as if she'll know just be looking at me!!

mel - I agree with you I probably couldn't wait because I am so impatient, guess it will depend on what happens when the time comes.

hugs to those that need it

FG and MFD you both look fab - make my little bump seem non-existent!!

Nicki

skintchick wrote: »

They can;t force you, they just scare you into agreeing, but if you refuse there is NOTHNG they can do (as I said in my original post with allthe info).

Why wait? Because I want my baby to be born to its own and my body's schedule, not that of medical staff who just want to fit it into their ideas of when a baby should come.

I realise I'm quite radical for this forum (although I'm not radical enough on the other forum I frequent!) but I feel the opposite way to you and am pretty horrified at people who DO induce because I feel it is so unnatural.

Risk is about figures, and if you won't (not you MFD this is general) read past the doubel risk but to see the actual figures then that frusrates me. A doubling of, say a one per cent chance, is still only a two per cent chance, which is low.

Just looking at 'double' is bad maths/statistics and the kind of thing newspapers do to get good headlines

I'm sorry Skintchick but I think you are wrong here. The doctors would not need to have you sectioned under the mental health act to induce you/do a c section if either were medically necessary, though they would need a court order, but that could be obtained in a matter of hours.

It's never been done for an induction in the UK, but it was done for a c-section a few years ago. The legal authority is Re S. The mother wasn't mentally incompetent but she really didn't want a c-section but it was needed because her baby was 5 days over and medical opinion was that it was at risk. The Court of Appeal ordered her to submit to a c-section, and sadly the baby died anyway.

There is a reasonably accessible for a layman legal opinion column here

http://www.healthmatters.org.uk/issue16/whosepregnancy

which deals with the whole area.

Personally, given that there is very little risk to delivering a baby slightly early (ie by a few weeks) I cannot understand why any mother would ignore medical advice to induce a child who was significantly overdue if there was any risk at all of harm to the child as a result of waiting.