OS Daily Tues 20th Jan 09

thriftlady_2

*Maya* wrote: »

I dont post in this thread but I read it every day and I will say sorry in advance if anyone thinks my post is harsh. I just want to give another view.

My mother is still alive so I did not find your post upsetting in that regard but your posts yesterday grated on me. First your daughter was ill and your main concern was missing your French class yes, I was concerned about missing my French class if, as sometimes happens my daughter turns out not to be as ill as she appered to be. I've lost count of the number of times I've been called by school to take her home only to have her miraculously recover once home. She is poorly but not seriously -if she'd been seriously ill I'd have dropped everything. My French class is the only thing I do that is just for me and not to do with my family and home. It is good for my mental health. then you talked about your mother and how she irritates you and you have cut her visits from once a week to once every three weeks Well she does irritate me, I can't change the way she makes me feel. I don't think once every 3 weeks is unreasonable we don't see my dad that often or my inlaws. Today you say that she is a wonderful grandmother to your children and that you love her dearly but you seem to forget her feelings regarding spending time with you and her grandchildren not at all, that's why she comes over. I assume she is elderly I certainly don't regard her as elderly-late 60s. There must be some way that you can make time in your life to accomodate her more often so that she and your children can benefit? Could she babysit and you and oh go out when she's there if she annoys you that much?I wouldn't dream of asking her to drive from B'ham to Worcester in the evening to babysit -what an imposition! She comes to see me as well as the kids, I certainly wouldn't b****r off and leave her with the kids! I do not tell her she annoys me, just as she didn't tell her own mother how irritating she found her Grandparents are wonderful people and memories of the time I spent with my grandmother are still with me. And so do I but I certainly didn't see them every week by any means -partly because my mum found visiting her mum such a strain.

You post superb practical housekeeping cooking and nutritional advice on the os board but is os not about much more than that? Is it not about basic values, some selflessness and valuing family members too? Thank you, but no, I don't think OS is about those things I think it is about old fashioned ways of saving money in the kitchen and home

Thanks for your comments but, you really don't know anything about me or my family.

redruby

Ohhhhhhhhhhh, :T my lakeland order has just arrived 1 x packet of stay fresh bags - free 1 x toastbags reduced to £2.93 and free postage :j :T thanks for posting about this Pink xx

purpleivy

Aaargh! don't you hate it when there's a whole chain of jobs to be done, but the first of the chain is something you can't get done for whatever reason - getting your head round it, short of something etc....I have 2 chains to break...I can't wash my hair because the lasagne dish is in the sink, I want it out of the way and the sink cleaned, as my hair is in the form of wigs that need to be sorted out. I save them up and do them all at once, because the shampoo and conditioner are too expensive to do them one at a time. Then a couple of them need altering as well (the new ones) and some need a bit of a trim (old ones).


Then.... I can't iron the white shirts because the ironing board is grubby. I'm loath to clean that up because I have to finish the grim reaper costume, whose fabric made it grubby in the first place. The sewing machines are both filthy too.


So task No 1 is to get the Grim Reaper complete and task No 2 is to get the lasagne dish sorted and the sink clean. We actually had lasagne the night before last, but I couldn't soak the dish right away, it had the broken dish in that I knocked on the floor. I'm a bit fragile at the moment and couldn't deal with the upset at the time. Are you surprised that noone else did anything about it?

LameWolf

wannabe_sybil wrote: »

I think if my late mother in law had had to live with us, despite both our best intentions, because she did try her best, we would have ended with UN intervention.

I have heard that it is totally impossible for two women to share a kitchen on a permanent basis and not come close to killing each other.

I never knew Mr LW's mother, she departed this life before I met him, but I gather she was a lovely lady. From what he's said, I'd have loved her to bits - and come close to throttling her at times.

*Maya*

floss2 wrote: »

I don't particularly wish to get embroiled, but maybe that is how WS felt if you suggested she was violating her son's human rights by not taking him out?

Sometimes we all type / speak before we put our brains into gear....I know I certainly have done so.

I didn't ever say that she was violating his human rights. :rolleyes: That is not true. She started a thread saying that he wouldn't speak and also said that she doesn't take him out to interact with other children. I suggested groups and societies which could help and aslo enquired how much help she gets from her husband. And I said it was the child's basic right to interact with his peers. Please go and read that thread before you judge me.

Sybil made no mention of the fact that she was upset then but has dragged it up now. I said on the thread that I was worried about her and I maintain that but perhaps I was reading between the lines as her posts reminded me very much of someone I am close to and this caused me concern.

I am sure I am guilty of jumping in with two left feet and to Thriftlady I apologise again. Something touched a raw nerve.:o

But Sybil... Your reaction to me has been unwarranted, unfair and unkind and clearly borne of a grudge you have held against me since I tried to help you before.
As I said, I am a long time lurker on this thread and really enjoyed it in the past. Clearly I am not the right type of erson to post on it and that's fair enough.

Enjoy the rest of your Tuesday everyone.

purpleivy

LameWolf wrote: »

I have heard that it is totally impossible for two women to share a kitchen on a permanent basis and not come close to killing each other.

I never knew Mr LW's mother, she departed this life before I met him, but I gather she was a lovely lady. From what he's said, I'd have loved her to bits - and come close to throttling her at times.

Your comments about the kitchen made me laugh. I ended up with my ds in mum's kitchen at christmas as my ds had said she would and then didn't. The whole thing went like clockwork, as ds knows his place in the kitchen (sous chef) and is used to working with me, mum and I know each other's ways in the kitchen too.

Now when I have my SIL or MIL there, I do everything to keep them OUT of the kitchen. I always offer my MIL help in her kitchen but am relieved when she says everything is under control. DS is doing something right though, as he's OK with his Gran(MIL).

have been feeling under the weather as some of you know. I rang and asked Mum and Dad if they would come for a few days. I was so pleased when they said they would.

wannabe_sybil

LameWolf wrote: »

I have heard that it is totally impossible for two women to share a kitchen on a permanent basis and not come close to killing each other.

I never knew Mr LW's mother, she departed this life before I met him, but I gather she was a lovely lady. From what he's said, I'd have loved her to bits - and come close to throttling her at times.

You see, I can see how it works. My late mother in law was someone I would never have got on with, you know how sometimes you meet someone and you just can't get on. But she was not a bad person, she did her best and so did I. And we both got on each other's nerves. I was far too 'weird' for her! We had one spectacular falling out, and I did catch her out on some 'exaggerations' she had said about me. But she was dear heart's mother, I had to try. And she did try (with the occasional lapse, same as me). I always thought it was just one of those things and tried to work round it.

And it is hard to bear a huge grudge against someone who adored little bear!

Also, little bear is stirring now so I am going to go and get him his lunch, soup and toast. The soup is still tinned, but I am getting there!

floss2

purpleivy wrote: »

......my hair is in the form of wigs that need to be sorted out. I save them up and do them all at once, because the shampoo and conditioner are too expensive to do them one at a time. Then a couple of them need altering as well (the new ones) and some need a bit of a trim (old ones).........

You'd get on well with the Supremes - they wore wigs, and would on occasion send them ahead to be "sorted" & have new "doo's" whilst travelling to their next venue

I once worked with a lady who wore wigs, and she had several in different stages of the same style, so she could look "new hair-cut", "couple of weeks old hair-cut" and "hair needs cutting"...I never knew until she told me, about 3 1/2 years after I started working with her!

purpleivy

Tinned or home made, soup is a great lunch on a day like today, think I will find some myself, though it might have to be a cuppasoup today, as there are only double portions in the freezer......my gran used to have something called a 'freezer knife', supposed to make cutting up frozen food easy, but it just seemed like an easy way of having a good carve up of yer digits to me!

mudgekin

LameWolf wrote: »

I have heard that it is totally impossible for two women to share a kitchen on a permanent basis and not come close to killing each other.

I never knew Mr LW's mother, she departed this life before I met him, but I gather she was a lovely lady. From what he's said, I'd have loved her to bits - and come close to throttling her at times.

Trust me LW. it's true :rotfl: I tend to shoo mum out of the kitchen when I am cooking. She forgets that I am 50 years old and am quite capable of cooking dinner although I must admit, no one in this world makes york!!!!! puds or a clootie dumpling quite like her.:T my late MiL didn't allow anyone to interfere with her cooking, she was a Cook to a "big family" , all very Upstairs, Downstairs but we did all sit around the kitchen table nattering while she coooked