MSE Pregnancy Club IV

feelinggood_2

LP - My brother suggested that I get a Nanny! I think I'd rather look after the baby myself. Why stay at home and get a Nanny. I couldn't understand it!

Sami_Bee

feelinggood wrote: »

LP - My brother suggested that I get a Nanny! I think I'd rather look after the baby myself. Why stay at home and get a Nanny. I couldn't understand it!

Have to say the only nanny I would ever employ is my mum!
She is a qualified NNEB, STA, HLTA and would do it for free if she could afford to but if I ever win big on the lottery or something that's one of the first things I'd do - although thinking about it it would prob be cheaper for me to pay off their tiny mortgage and have her do it for free! :rotfl:

Little_Pickle

Thanks ladies... Mr P is wonderful... when he's not working very late hours he takes care of the both of us. tidys, washes up, does the washing, cooking etc.

It's the same with cleaning... he thinks we should get a cleaner, I think we should take care of it ourselves. There are just some things in life he would like taken care of if it only costs a small amount... (not saying that nanny fees are a small amount!!!)

He didn't have a very good home life when he was a kid and is very disconnected from his folks.
Had no relationship with his dad to speak of and his mum was a bit of a control freak - never giving him any space.

Neither of them are very loving TBH - part of the reason that he loves my family so much is because we are all so close. My mum and dad adore him and my brothers too.

But we are all close because we all mucked in together and I don't know how I can make him understand that... oh well, I'm hoping that things will change for him and his point of view when the baby turns up!

kiss, kiss! xox

ETA: I don't want to come across as a control freak! As I said, I'm more than happy for a nanny when bubba is school ages, but not straight away!

Sami_Bee

Little_Pickle wrote: »

Thanks ladies... Mr P is wonderful... when he's not working very late hours he takes care of the both of us. tidys, washes up, does the washing, cooking etc.
It's the same with cleaning... he thinks we should get a cleaner, I think we should take care of it ourselves. There are just some things in life he would like taken care of if it only costs a small amount... (not saying that nanny fees are a small amount!!!)
He didn't have a very good home life when he was a kid and is very disconnected from his folks.
Had no relationship with his dad to speak of and his mum was a bit of a control freak - never giving him any space.
Neither of them are very loving TBH - part of the reason that he loves my family so much is because we are all so close. My mum and dad adore him and my brothers too.
But we are all close because we all mucked in together and I don't know how I can make him understand that... oh well, I'm hoping that things will change for him and his point of view when the baby turns up!
kiss, kiss! xox

Well in that case he's just the product of his upbringing, I find one of the hardest things in my relationship with hubby is that he was brought up differently - my sister's OH is just like "us" and he just slipped right into the family, which I get a bit jealous off sometimes
Hubby's mum didn't teach him or his brother any life skills that I see as important, like I couldn't believe that his little bro didn't even know how to tell if meat was cooked until I taught him at about 13 I found that :eek: but I supose thats the norm in some families I also found it weird that when i used a "big word" in conversation his Lil bro would ask what it ment (perfectly reasonable as he was only 11 when I met hubby) but their mum wouldn't explain what it ment and would say "oh it doesn't matter" I would then make a point of explaining it to him (you can see why she used to hate me :rotfl:) How is he going to learn if she doesn't teach him
Hubby is now much more like "us" after 7yrs, still has differences but that's life!

cazscoob

my god looks like a day of it with men eh! wll he is up and abi is home she got the cutest pic of santa giving her a christmas present! which is suprising as she usually runs a mile:D

LP he is probably only tring to be nice and make this easier for you! but if your anything like me you feel that all he is doing is having a dig, arent these hormones great:D

my OH isnt great around the house and doesnt do dirty nappies unless he has to but is good with the kids and now and again will surprise me. but yes he is a typical man if he doesnt think he has to do it he wont until i nag him. he is in for a shock today think im going to take him shopping:D mainly as i cant push a full heavy trolley and mainly as he woulndt get up!

poppyjoe

Hi everyone

I didn't post very often, but i did read every day! Hope all of you are well and baking your baby bumps nicely.

I no longer have a baby bump, just jelly belly left in its place. My gorgeous baby boy was born on 12/12 at 22:54 by emergency section. My waters broke on the Wednesday morning but no contractions, so after a long drawn out induced labour and no fewer than 4 mutterings of "medical intervention" the section was the last resort and he was born a healthy 7lb 13, we have named him Fraser.

I always knew I loved him when he was inside me but nothing has prepared me for the love I feel for him! So mushy I know but I am still very hormonal and appreciative that he arrived safely after all the ups and downs through labour.

I sincerely hope you all have a lovely Christmas and all the best for all the 2009 babies.

Thank you for giving me something to read every day.

love, poppyjoe
xx

MrsTinks

At least MrT does nappies, cleaning and stuff... he's useless at getting to walk the hound tho... And despite his best efforts his not Jamie Oliver bless him... cleaning the house is where we both fall down a bit and if I wasn't so tight we'd get a cleaner hehehehe

As for age...

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SeptemberBaby_2

I don't think I have been around on MSE long enough as we could never afford a Nanny and/or Cleaner! :rotfl:. DH might send me back to work! :eek: *shudder*.

xx

SeptemberBaby_2

angelfairy wrote: »

i am feeling old at 30 with you youngens on here

I'm an elder at 35!

I'm not sure what kind of a Mummy I would have made 15 years ago as I have changed so much! :eek:.

xx

Sami_Bee

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

I don't think I have been around on MSE long enough as we could never afford a Nanny and/or Cleaner! :rotfl:. DH might send me back to work! :eek: *shudder*.

xx

MIL has a cleaner that is £25 a week I think, we could prob afford this (and deff need one) but I don't think I could as I've spent the last 7yrs saying his mum is lazy for having a cleaner I'm soo not gonna eat any humble pie!

ETA: I am thinking of using one of those Ironing services tho coz I only iron some thing if absolutely necessary I hate it!