MSE Pregnancy Club IV

feelinggood_2

cazscoob wrote: »

feelie i had to laugh at your comment! OH thought it was funny too!!
i was given diamorphine with my 1st after me saying i didnt want it and i hated the feeling it made me very ill and i was extremly upset that OH and MW had made the decision to give me it without my consent. i have made it clear in my notes and to OH that it has never to happen again and that my decision is the final say. 2nd i had no pain relief and last 2 gas and air..

I'm hoping that seeing the anesthesiologist will help me work out what pain relief options I have. Unfortunately, MW and everyone else I've spoken to hasn't had a clue, but I'm sure the guy who deals with the drugs must know if I'm allowed to take them or not! Glad you mentioned about them giving it to you without you wanting it, I'm going to have to brief OH on standing up for me if I end up with a midwife who can't understand why I can't have certain types of pain relief.

I'm hoping to get discharged pretty quick, mainly for the silly reason of my phobia of hospital beds. Think I'll manage to get through labour without getting in bed, or do I need to figure out some way of overcoming my fear?

cady

Hiya again everyone!!!

i was just wondering is there anything you shouldnt eat whan your pregnant? im very new at this and we dont know many pregant people/people with babies so im not sure on a lot of stuff .... got my Drs appointment tomorrow gonna try and get an early scan and the bleeding is still there and im quite worried!!! i keep feeling my boobs to make sure they hurt lol as when i lost the last one the stopped hurting straight away so people at work think im fondling myself lol and the fact i keep running to the loo is not too good as i keep checking !!! ill let you know how i get on tomorrow

Cady x

feelinggood_2

cady wrote: »

Hiya again everyone!!!

i was just wondering is there anything you shouldnt eat whan your pregnant? im very new at this and we dont know many pregant people/people with babies so im not sure on a lot of stuff .... got my Drs appointment tomorrow gonna try and get an early scan and the bleeding is still there and im quite worried!!! i keep feeling my boobs to make sure they hurt lol as when i lost the last one the stopped hurting straight away so people at work think im fondling myself lol and the fact i keep running to the loo is not too good as i keep checking !!! ill let you know how i get on tomorrow

Cady x

Good luck for tomorrow

I think the NHS 'Which Foods To Avoid' page, it seems clear and sensible:
http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/917.aspx?CategoryID=54&SubCategoryID=131
The only thing I've heard mentioned that isn't on there, is soft-serve icecream, like McFlurries.

I had a private reassurance/dating scan when I found out, it was £50. Hopefully you'll get one through your Doctor though.

Rachel83

Cazcoob you pretty much sum up how i feel about hopspitals Midwifes waking you and all that... Oh and how they feel its necessary to squeeze your nipple to get the baby to latch on without asking or anything... but there again i guess they figure they put there hands everywhere else then they have the right to lol

pretzelnut

Evening ladies,

I feel a bit better today, finally had a day with NO nausea. Had mega cravings for lemonade, i cant get the stuff drunk quick enough and im guessing i shouldnt but im currently troffing my way through a huge bag of peanut M&M's.

Happymoneysaver79 - You can ring your hospital reception and ask to make an appointment with the anesthesiologist as you are having an op and want to discuss options and details. Do this as soon as possible as it can be a few weeks till your appointment.

I had to do this after having a traumatic 1st natural birth and a very traumatic 2nd c-section. I wont go into more details as i will only make you worse, but thanks to talking it through with the anesthetic dude before hand in great detail my 3rd delivery via c-section was a heavenly experience. As he knew all my worries and talked me through what he could do for me should such and such happen and i was better informed rather than just letting my brain run away with myself.

He is there to take care of you, the surgeon will not be put off if your screaming with panic he will get on with what he has to do and deliver your baby as safely as he can. The anesthesiologist is the one with all the good drugs.

I too had a spinal and once i got to theatre i was so busy eyeing up all the equipment and having a good nosey round the room that i didnt even notice that they had already put the spinal in, i was still waiting for them to do it, when they were telling me to lie down as they had already put it in and were telling me to lie down. They are trained to administer it in such a way that you dont notice, it is more the personnal fear that makes it a bigger issue than it is.

The anesthisiologist has many drugs at his disposal for every eventuality, if you feel sick, he will give you something to take that sickness away, if you start shivering he will give you something to stop you shivering. if you get a headache he has drugs to take that away too and boy do they work fast. I found that mine was very good at talking me through everything which took my mind of it all. There is a screen from your boobs down and although the surgeon is only a foot away once that screen is up it feels like he is 200 miles away working on someone else, its a very weird sensation but it doesnt hurt.

And as soon as i heard my DD make the tiniest noise i didnt care anymore, i couldnt take my eyes of her, and nothing else even mattered or existed.

But you do need to talk to the anesthesiologist beforehand he is actually more qualified and extremely better paid than a surgeon and the anesthesiologist in a theatre is the boss, the surgeon does what the anesthesiologist tells him to do.

Please stop reading any info it does make things worse, you wont find any answers as its not you your reading about its someone else.

It is your choice whether you have a GA, which will make you very sleepy for 24 hours once you come round, plus it also makes your baby sleepy during delivery to and for some time afterwards. I personnaly wouldnt have one due to previous experiences. I would rather have a spinal as i so wanted to be there for the arrival.

Everyone is different and has their own preference, you have to do what is right for you and no one else.

It is your choice and they have to go with your decision, if you have a spinal and something happens which means they need to put you to sleep it takes them seconds and you wont even know they have done it till you come round later, so them telling you that you need to have a GA just in case is utter rubbish, i am surprised they have said this especially as it does make your baby sleepy and can lead to them having to intervene with babies breathing once he/she is born, they usually try and avoided a GA wherever possible and only use it as a last resort.

So 1st thing tomorrow i want you to take control and ring the hospital and make that appointment, once you have done that and got some control back over the situation i guarantee you will feel a lot better. Then start writing a list of all the questions you need answering, this will help loads as you are guaranteed to forget once you are there.

Sorry for the long reply, if you want to know anything else in more detail please feel free to pm me anytime. I understand how you feel and i am here to listen for as long as you want to talk.

cady

Thanks feelinggood!!! i think if i cant get one i will go private for my own peace of mind but since ive been bleeding and cramps im hoping they wanna check me out as im quite worried .... thanks for the site too ill have a look now!!!! and i never knew that about mc flurrys!!! thanks x

cazscoob

feelie if you make sure its on your notes as well then there should be no mix up, i think i had open to anything put on mine and thats where the problem was. as for bed no you dont need to get into bed they are open to all positions birthing balls etc etc.

oh i know rachel they think they can do anything without asking, dont think they quite like it when i kind of take a stand and say no lol! after Charlie i handed him to OH quite quick as i had terrible after pains and felt like someone had given me a good kick up the a*se lol! MW couldnt understand why i wasnt holding baby but i was in so much pain i honestly couldnt. i had to get up and move about before i could take him back.
well think im gonna head up my head is buzzing with what im going to ask MW tom lol! xxx

skintchick

shellsuit wrote: »

You really don't know whether you'll cope or not until the time comes Skinty.

There are thousands of women who don't want pain relief, but when it boils down to it, they have it because they just can't cope.

If it wasn;t there, I'm sure they could. It won't be there for me, so I will cope. I don;t want to sound like I'm judging others, but I cannot do anything that will be bad for my baby, and pethidine, etc., ARE bad for the baby, so I will not do them.

searching_me

well its up to every woman if they want drugs ... i say good on you that you can handle the pain when my sister had my niece she did it without drug and the had to cut her a little as she got stuck and pooed inside ... i'll never forget that blood kurdly scream they didnt even warn her ... hurts my ears just thinking about it x

Krystaltips

FG, you can labour any way you like, the room I had Aimee in had the bed and about 4 different chairs and a big carpeted area and the pool so there was plenty of choice... I spent my time kneeling on the bed the wrong way round leaning on a birthing ball... Until they let me get into the heavenly water...

Pelvis is killing me today... Can't work out whether it is because I spent a period of time yesterday sitting on the floor with my legs crossed... Or because hubby and I... You know... Flooded the baby with endorphins... I'm hoping it's the first one... I can stop doing that if needs be....