MSE Pregnancy Club IV

angelfairy

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

AF - tearing and stitches is terrifying me too. One of the things that I want to discuss with the MW is whether it is easier to stitch after an episiotomy (or whatever they are called) - basically is it better to be cut (although that relies on them catching you in time and before it is definite that you will tear).

I have also been reading about bubba staying on your chest whilst you are stitched - I reckon having your baby there may make it much easier.

oh i haven't read anything about bubs staying on your chest while they stitch, but i guess that makes sense.

i am happy to have bubs put on my chest before he his cleaned up and to let bubs try to breastfeed asap.

i'm not sure if hubby wants to cut the cord, in the cold light of day he doesn't i dont think, maybe that will change at the time. if not, i am wondering if i want to do it, i think i do. i would prefer it be one of use than the MW or doc.

oh and i dont want to a heap of people around when i am in labour either.

one thing that is bothering me and this is going to sound stupid is my feet getting hot. if i have hot feet i get really aggitated. i know they say you get hot during labour so iam worried about this too.

Sami_Bee

MFD: i was told that tears heal better than being cut, I have to say I dread being cut much more than tearing again, don't forget that a cut will be all the way through (4th degree) whereas a tear can be 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 4th degree, I think mine were just 1st or 2nd I really didn't find it that bad

angelfairy

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Don't worry AF on most sections of mine I've just put "to be discussed at the time" or "only if necessary" I think its a bit wrong to call it a plan coz its not something you can really plan for.
As far as I know you only have a local for stitches if they are deep tears :eek:
I didn't have an injection for my stitches, yes they were painful but I think it was mainly because they took me by surprise, MW told me to have a go on the gas again and then it was just a bit uncomfortable :A

see i knew i could count on the ladies on here to be honest with me.

still, i do not want to feel them stitching me...... and the tearing :eek: :eek:

Sami_Bee

AF: even though the labour/mat wards are incredibly hot, my feet were freezing and I had to put on some slipper socks, a lot of "what to put in your hosp bag" lists say warm socks coz this is apparently very common

ETA you won't feel the tearing at the time so try not to worry about that bit

SeptemberBaby_2

I had stitches due to an episiotomy as I had forceps delivery. I think my epidural was on its way out at that stage as they did hurt a little and I had gas and air. When Poppy was ready I asked for her to be given to her Daddy first. Still not sure why! :rotfl:. Think it was a combination of being absolutely shocked that it was all over and being on the loopy juice .

My stitches were fine though and healed really quickly. Not sure if this was due to having a consultant delivering my baby and also doing the needlework afterwards .

I didn't and don't have a birth plan - simply whats best for me and baby. Just as well really as I took everything that was on offer and was apparently 5mins away from an emergency C/S! :eek:

xx

My_Fathers_Daughter

AF - a hot water bottle filled with cold water should sort out your hot feet...and cold feet if you can get it filled up!!

Put it one your list (got one on mine!)

SeptemberBaby_2

Honestly, don't worry! . Its all a distant memory now and my bits obviously survived and are still in working order :rotfl:. And I'm ready (and kind of excited ) about doing it all again very soon! :cool:).

xx

Sami_Bee

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

AF - a hot water bottle filled with cold water should sort out your hot feet...and cold feet if you can get it filled up!!

Put it one your list (got one on mine!)

Or a latex glove will do the trick plenty of them on hand! thats what I had when I had to have iodine injected in my foot :eek: loong pregnancy related story that I shan't bother you with unless you want me to?

Krystaltips

You get an aneasthetic injection into the area for stitching. It's better to tear as it knits together and heals better than a cut will... The reason the stitching up hurt so much for me was because the tear went further up than the aneasthetic injection, plus it took them 3hrs before someone came and stitched me so I'd already swollen by the time they got going... My sister just said tonight actually how sorry she felt for me and it made her want to cry when I was going through it. (She was my birth partner)

Sami, sounds like my husband is as usefull as yours... I'm not looking forward to him being my voice... He's far to shy to put his foot down and demand things for me!

Feely, DD got into position about 20 weeks and never moved again apart from kicks, her head was down in my pelvis and her bum was under my ribs on the left side and she used to kick my ribs on the right... When my sister was pregnant you would see her whole bump contort as the baby swung from one side to the other... It was really gross!

I had an interesting day today... Got woken up at 10:50 by my lift to church... Was expecting my Mum to drop Aimee off at 10 so hadn't set an alarm and completely overslept! Probably the 1st and last time in a while to get such a great lie in... Ended up missing church which I didn't mind so much, I would of been in the creche so no service anyway and creche was quiet apparently so I wasn't missed... Gave me an opportunity to wrap my cousins birthday present and make him a card anyway. We also had some paint your own tree decorations which we did, was nice to do something creative all 3 of us... Then this afternoon my Uncle came and fetched us and we went to my cousins party, bit of a family get together... Was a bit disapointed that my Dad decided not to come but enjoyed chatting with everyone and watching DH lose out at table football...

Oh, and yesterday while we were in town I saw DD natural father (aka, the bloke who knocked me up) He was across the precinct but definitely saw us... Then carried on walking... Before DH that would of left me in bits but yesterday I just felt sorry for him... As far as Aimee's concerned DH is her Daddy and that's what she calls him... She probably wouldn't even recognise this man... And he stood yards away from his daughter and couldn't even bring himself to say hello... Wonder how he'll feel when we start adoption proceedings...

feelinggood_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

My birth plan basically says I want as little intervention as ness, b/f asap, baby born on to my stomach, MW to announce the gender, baby is having vit K injection, and haven't decided about cutting cord yet - I might do it but not sure. Also need to talk to my sis about her being at birth, she wanted to last time and would prob have been if he wasn't "early" I don't mind her being there but I'm not sure if its a good thing to witness a birth if you've not done it yourself
Feelie (I think you've been at a birth haven't you?) or anyone else have a feeling/opinion on it?
I don't want to scare her although she is a physio so has witnessed some gory things and played with cadavers

I was at a c-section, so still have no idea about normal births! I had no problem with being there - I don't have a problem with blood and stuff, and didn't mind holding a sticky baby! SILs culture is very open about these things, so she didn't see it as a big deal to have someone there - I was the nearest female relative who could stay in with her. Didn't put me off at all, but then again, might be different for a normal birth.

Ideally I want: no pain relief unless absolutely nessercary (including gas & air). Want to be completely mobile - standing up or on all fours (depends what SPD is like). I'll sit down once I've had the baby, and want skin-to-skin straight away. OH will cut the cord if he is there (I'm convinced he'll be smoking in the car park when I give birth!).