MSE Pregnancy Club IV

Sami_Bee

Krystal: that's what worries me! I suppose if I sit her down maybe with my mum and explain how upsetting it can be to watch someone do it then she can make up her mind. My mum said she just hated seeing her baby in pain :A but knew it was all for a good reason and prob looked worse than it was.
Can I ask will you have to get permission from the sperm donor for hubby to adopt her?

Sami_Bee

Feelie: thanks for that, I reckon sis would be great at a section but seeing me "in distress" I think is very different
I was on all fours up until about 15 mins before pushing, I was digging my fingers into the bed/pillows and squeezing through contractions but stopped coz at that point the pressure felt worse being in that position

Krystaltips

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Can I ask will you have to get permission from the sperm donor for hubby to adopt her?

Officially no because he's not on the birth certificate (Had legged it by the time I was 10w pg) But the adoption process information says they try to speak to all natural parents regardless... I'm hoping he's not vindictive enough to put a spanner in the works (and it'll save him paying CSA) but then I never thought he would walk away when I was pregnant and then abandon his daughter... So who knows

SeptemberBaby_2

We're allowed 2 birth partners but I only wanted DH. I couldn't stand anyone asking if I was ok every 2mins, which is what my Mum or sisters would be like, and preferred the whole thing to be a private matter just between us.

DH got a migraine during the early stages of me being induced so I told him to go home, have a sleep and make sure the dog was ok! :rolleyes:. The MW kept asking me if she could call someone for me but I just wanted to be on my own .

xx

Sami_Bee

I suppose you can't say you don't know where he is if he's paying CSA, I hope he lets it go through smoothly at least do one good thing for her.
I'm so maternal I've never been able to understand how someone can walk away, hubby says that he hopes we never split up (I should hope so!) coz he couldn't stand to not live with Chris or bump

Krystaltips

I'm the same SB, I contemplated just popping to the hospital on my own and telling everyone after but when it came to it I was just too scared lol.. My sister was ideal as she'd had 1 baby (and was pg with no2) so she just sat quietly reading magazines most of the time... She did try and talk to me through contraptions for a while but apparently that was my fault for being too quiet with them... She also made a point of reminding them I wanted to go into the water and once I had the gas and air she stood next to me holding a cup of water for me to sip...

Sami_Bee

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

We're allowed 2 birth partners but I only wanted DH. I couldn't stand anyone asking if I was ok every 2mins, which is what my Mum or sisters would be like, and preferred the whole thing to be a private matter just between us.

DH got a migraine during the early stages of me being induced so I told him to go home, have a sleep and make sure the dog was ok! :rolleyes:. The MW kept asking me if she could call someone for me but I just wanted to be on my own .

xx

Oh hubby knows that you NEVER ask a labouring woman if she is ok!
I will be giving any instructions and he is not to touch me unless I tell him to plus if I want him to stop "get off" will suffice I'll go back to being polite and chatty once baby has arrived :rotfl:
My mum was great at the birth except when I wanted a drink she was giving me little sips and I wanted to down it so I snatched the cup off her and chucked he water all over myself :laugh:

Krystaltips

I don't know where he is, the CSA had to go through inland revenue and his employer to find him... They won't tell me where he lives but they might tell a court appointed social worker... And I can't understand it either... The only person in the whole world who should love her as much as I do has walked away again and again... I never stopped him seeing her, I welcomed his parents in and they did the same as him... Came with lots of empty promises then disapeared over the horizon...

cazscoob

krystal she is better off with your DH my dad was my step dad and he brought me up from i was 7 i would not have had it any other way and i would phone him for help before i would even phone my mum:D good luck with the adoption:D

wow SB your brave being alone, i only had OH there and wouldnt really want anyone else as its one of those things?? i remember laughing at the girls down the hall screaming thinking OMG is it really that bad and then wishing they would shut up! i kept asking OH if i was that loud and he said i was quiet! birthing plans i plan to have her at home in front of the fire in the living room, have been given a letter from the physio which states how far apart my legs must not go etc! and apart from that if its neccessary do it otherwise leave me alone type thing.

have got MW app tom so will prob go through it then.
anyway am off to bed as we have had visitors since 6 and its been hectic lol! night ladies xx

Krystaltips

My brother and sister were bought up by my Dad and he even walked my sister down the aisle she thought that much of him... I just worry that DH will love the new baby more because it's his... But there's nothing I can do about that... He keeps assuring me he couldn't love her any more if he'd made her himself but I suppose it's one of those things.... Good night!