MSE Pregnancy Club IV

Sami_Bee

oh I'm against selection boxes - long story off to bed now, Really must start going to bed the day before I'm getting up!

elle_gee

In my MSE defence, they were BOGOF!

Night night xx

cazscoob

u 2 were up late:D should have stayed up as i never slept again ahhhh this is driving me crazy!!

have one of my friends and her girls coming round late afternoon, not seen her in ages and she has been to ireland for a few days so her accent has come back lol!! so this will be fun trying to keep up with her! x

HypnoNu

Morning girls,
I've having a bit of a flap today, Ive rather stupidly read up on the miscarriage odds online after that conversation with the stupid doctors secretary and I'm now terrified, I check for bleeding every time I go to the toilet, I want to go out and buy loads of preg tests so i can take one every day to prove to myself i'm still pregnant, time is going so slowly and 12 weeks is a lifetime away...how did you all cope in this early bit? I'm a mess....

Icklebeans

Morning all,

I had my first boob leakage last night in bed. Was reading and changed position and my right nipple area was all wet, it soaked my jamas and even got onto the bedsheet! I was well surprised, guess I have some catching up on my pregnancy reading book as I haven't read it for a few weeks!

MrsTinks

cope? I don't recall coping...
Firstly... even if you miscarry then the hormonws will remain in your system for about 4 weeks I think so stop thinking about buying lots of tests - Not very MSE
As for the first 12 weeks... Try not to worry too much I know it's easier said than done but really do try! Keep busy over Christmas and just stay away from things that you should avoid in early pregnancy like essential oils and blue cheeses etc...
I didn't stop worrying until we had our second scan btw (we had an early scan at about 6-7 weeks due to the severity of my vomiting...) - but once we saw that little mexican jumping bean on the screen I settled down - then the gap between the 12 week scan and the first proper kicks was getting tenser and tenser... But although we're now looking forward to the 20 week scan I'm no longer fretting because we're getting kicks I guess I'm very lucky as apparently Bean started kicking very early - yet there was NO mistaking that it was kicks But I think kicks after week 20 is more normal?
Just try and keep busy and not worry too much

MrsTinks

Ickle boobs leak this early?? :eek: oh !!!!!!!!!! I better read up on that then as I hate the thought of wet bits in bed!!!

My_Fathers_Daughter

Morning HypnoNu - think I am the only one around this morning so you get me to reassure you

Whatever the odds are, you are not going to change them either way by worrying about it. You need to concentrate on taking good care of yourself and making sure that you are not doing anything strenuous or risky.


There are ladies on here who did a number of pregnancy tests to reassure themselves. Personally I think it is a futile waste of money, energy and time (sorry ladies ) even if something has gone wrong then the pregnancy hormone stops in your body for a while so it tells you nothing, even if it is positive.

I think everyone will understand the constant checking for bleeding, we all do it. I wore only white knickers for a long time because it would show up any problems earlier, and they are still my preference now. In fact, I went out and bought extra pairs so I didn't have to wear black knickers.

It is worthwhile saying that even if you do bleed, it doesn't always mean the worst - we have several ladies who have bled on and off and are still carrying perfectly healthy, well developing babies.

It is a worrying time for everyone, but we all get through it somehow. Being careful and taking care of yourself is the best way to cope.
Hope this has helped a little.

Take care.

MFD xxx


Forgot to add - treasure every second of morning sickness or other horrible symptom that you have - it means that baby is sticking


Oops - morning Ickle and MrsT - you must have arrived whilst I was typing my epic!!

Hedgehog28

Hugs to you Hypno..
I can completely sympathise...this is my second pregnancy (after a miscarriage), so I spent the first few weeks constantly checking myself after having been to the toilet. It's very hard to do, but try not to get into a state...the receptionist had no right to say what she did to you, in my opinion...there is no circumstance in which it would have been a helpful thing to say to a pregnant lady.

I still do worry from time to time but I am telling myself now that there is no point...I might as well be happy now...because if a miscarriage does happen it honestly won't be any easier just because I've worried about it in advance.

Most pregnancies are absolutely fine and I'm sure that it's far more likely that yours will be fine than that it won't. I hope that this helps...I hesitated at mentioning my miscarriage to you at this point, but I am hoping that explaining my experiences might help put what I've said in context and be useful. I think that worrying a bit is only natural (especially if you are a worry wart like me!) but let's just try to enjoy our pregnancies and that wonderful feeling of knowing that there's a little baby growing inside us and being nurtured by us.

Sorry..this wasn't meant to be a lecture..hope that you are feeling calmer soon.
Hedgehog x

elle_gee

Caz - I'm up early too! (for me, anyway!)

Hypno - Unfortunately I think just about everyone worries about it. I've been there and through bitter experience I've been known to say that I personally think anyone who doesn't worry about it is rather naive! I'm on my second preg after a m/c in August this year. I was always aware it could happen and I think that's what helped me cope at the time - if it's going to happen, it's going to happen, there is not a lot you can do to stop it (so I've been told).

This time around, I've purposely made myself rather detached from thinking it's a baby.. it's the CHANCE of a baby - does that make sense? Although I've had one scan already and seen the heartbeat (4wks ago) I'm still not 100% convinced all will be fine (although I have no symptoms to cause me to doubt it - no bleeding, plenty of sickness and achey boobs). I won't be until the 12wk scan when the risks drop massively. You could have an early scan (not particularly MSE though at about £100 a go) but I'm not sure how much it would put your mind at rest. Mine was an NHS one to check it was in the right place as I had pains to one side; I wasn't expecting (or necessarily wanting) to find out the heartbeat was there (made it feel more real and in turn harder to detach myself from).

Sorry that turned into such a despressing rant! Point is, worrying won't help or prevent anything. Just read up on what you can and can't have - there are some simple lists about that you can just read the items on and not all the complicated reasons why as this might send your mind into overdrive! - then stick to them and chill out. Take the opportunity to put your feet up and get hubby doing the housework!

Also, if you do have any symptoms you're worried about, phone your doctors/midwife then get yourself on here - as you can see, there's always someone around.. even til gone 1am *ahem*!

Take care xx