MSE Pregnancy Club IV

angelfairy

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Bubba pushes against the band of my trousers! In my head he is still quite tiny but he is actually 46cm or so now...which is nearly full baby size :eek:

Bubs does that to me, but at about my belly button, seems to do it a lot if i am too close to my desk

AF - does it help if I tell you I should be at home now but I have 2 companies wanting dispute resolution this afternoon :mad: I feel like just shouting 'It's bl00dy christmas you idiots - season of peace and goodwill to all pregnant women...b00ger off and leave me and bubba alone'


Makes me feel better to type it though

oh MFD it doesn't make me feel better cause I dont want anyone stressed, but i get what you are saying play the pregnancy card, go on, but in your field i imagine you will get NO sympathy whatsoever :mad:

mollythewestie

Krystaltips wrote: »

I think parenting styles have pretty much everything to do with it... We're shaping them and their behaviour now and from watching the way other people and their children are I'm really glad with how Aimee's turning out. I know that if something is too much for her to cope with it means she needs an early night or something to eat, these are the main times she plays up... She rarely plays me up to get her own way because she knows if Mummy has said no then it means no, it doesn't mean 'whinge for 10mins and I'll give in' like some children of a friend of mine...

I agree, I have 3 sisters (there is 18 years between oldest and youngest) And we were all very well behaved children :A , people would comment to my parents how well mannered we were. I think that was down to the fact the ground rules were always there: no always meant no, we never said "I want this or that" always "I would like", always say please and thank you, we were never spoit - my parents couldn't afford to! If we had a "tantrum" we would go straight to bed with no tea - so once you did that you never had a tantrum again! If we were playing up mum gave us a glare, and if you get "the look" you knew you are pushing your luck!:rotfl:

angelfairy

any of you ladies with little girls in your families might be interested in this

http://www.grabitnow.com/ecamp/daily

MrsTinks

Well I DEFINITELY feel kicks now (18+5) but have had them uhmmm from about 17? I know I posted on here (well the old thread) the first time I thought I felt it and I can confirm that I'm now definitely sure that was what it was... maybe because I don't often have any tummy trouble etc? So any movement there was very definite to me. Bean has definitely been getting more active in the last week and a half - earlier today it kicked hard enough for me to go "oo!" in surprise! So either I have a sensitive tummy, Bean is very strong! or I'm just very lucky when i spoke to mum about it she did say that when baby kicked I'd have NO doubts about what it was... Both my brother and I were early kickers and very strong too... So far lots in this pregnancy seems to be following the same trends as mums which is nice as I have someone to talk to about it

As for behaviour etc - when we were younger I lived with my grandparents for a little while - I was VERY spoilt, not to the point of tantrums but I could be a stroppy little madam. When I moved back to my mums rules were much stricter! None of this "I don't like x y z" and refusing to eat it... If someone said no that meant no... and we knew to behave in public. One look from my mum could have silenced a room of kids...
I guess when I was really young I had my moments. Mum likes to tell me about a tantrum I had in a shop where I was on the ground screaming... so she left me (well she went round the corner where she could still see me but I could see her...) and tantrum instantly stopped and I ran after her and promised to be good - apparently I never had another public tantrum again hehehe

Sami_Bee

sorry ladies just disappeared. My little helper just decided to shut the microwave door when I was mid removal of bowl full of spaghetti n sausages :rolleyes: it went EVERYWHERE including all over my almost dry washing.

I agree with Krystal, molly its all about setting rules an sticking to them.
I like the veiw that I heard a psychologist describe recently; he said a family is like a pack of dogs, the younger ones know that if the dominant ones say jump, you jump!
My sister laughs at me because I treat Chris like I would if I was training a dog, he even comes when I whistle :whistle:

angelfairy

to all you lovely ladies with experience as a mum, what direction can you point me in regarding routine with babies? do they/should they have one?

i remember watching a documentrary about a few different styles of parenting. i recall NOT liking the one where you put bubs down at a certain time, woke him at a certain time, not a lot of nurturing but bubs slept through the night very early. I do not like that as i do not like the bit where you can't nuture your baby.

or is it that you just go with what 'feels' right for you and bubs?

Sami_Bee

angelfairy wrote: »

to all you lovely ladies with experience as a mum, what direction can you point me in regarding routine with babies? do they/should they have one?

i remember watching a documentrary about a few different styles of parenting. i recall NOT liking the one where you put bubs down at a certain time, woke him at a certain time, not a lot of nurturing but bubs slept through the night very early. I do not like that as i do not like the bit where you can't nuture your baby.

or is it that you just go with what 'feels' right for you and bubs?

IMHO routine isn't important until somewhere around 5-6 mths, (when they and you naturally find one) but is incredibly important once they are more active like crawling.
I don't follow anyones advice to the letter just use my instincts and use their views for ideas

feelinggood_2

AF - I think I watched the same program. I was discussing it with my Mum, and I mentioned how I really liked the contiuum concept, and was going to look into it if I ever had kids. I was suprised that my Mum followed that same 'regime'! I wonder if that is why it interested me.

Bit more about it here:
http://www.continuum-concept.org/cc_defined.html

Triggles

My nieces came to live with us when they were 6 & 7 yrs old, as I was their guardian for awhile (long story - my sister has not always been the most responsible mother). Sis was extremely inconsistent with discipline and such, and the first couple weeks they were at my house the older one threw tantrum after tantrum over every little thing. I just marched her into the bedroom and told her "if you want to scream, fine - but there's no reason we have to listen to it. you can come out when you're calmer." and then left her to it. Didn't usually last long - and finallyy she stopped the tantrums when she realised it wasn't working.

Very funny, but at one point she told me she was going to hold her breath until she got what she wanted. So I told her to go ahead. Then while she was holding her breath, laying on the floor, I just leaned over and said "you know, you'll just pass out and your body will take a breath and you'll be fine. the only thing you'll get from this is a rotten headache. but suit yourself." She stopped holding her breath and stomped off to her room to sulk for a bit. :rotfl: That's the only time I've had a kid threaten to hold their breath - but it was amusing at the time! Apparently it worked well with her mother. :rolleyes:

angelfairy

Sami_Bee wrote: »

IMHO routine isn't important until somewhere around 5-6 mths, (when they and you naturally find one) but is incredibly important once they are more active like crawling.
I don't follow anyones advice to the letter just use my instincts and use their views for ideas

Thanks Sami,

That was what i was lookin for - re routine at around 5 - 6 months, which will probably be the time i will be returning to work :mad:

feelinggood wrote: »

AF - I think I watched the same program. I was discussing it with my Mum, and I mentioned how I really liked the contiuum concept, and was going to look into it if I ever had kids. I was suprised that my Mum followed that same 'regime'! I wonder if that is why it interested me.

Bit more about it here:
http://www.continuum-concept.org/cc_defined.html

Thanks FG,

I will take a look at that link tonight when I am tucked up in bed