christmas family nightmares

ClareEmily

cazxx1 wrote: »

Clare im really sorry, I didnt sorry I didnt mean to make you feel bad...jelly I will have a good time I have a husband.. I love to bits....All of you have a lovely time your all lovely people xxx

You only made me feel bad cos I hadn't even thought about people who don't have any family, and so it made me think how selfish I was sounding.

Hope you have a lovely Crimbo xxx

Zazen999

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

Still think you'd end up facing the same storms that you ducked out of this year though I don't think the fact that you enjoyed it would really hold much water with Mum and she would know you were lying and you would know you were lying which is really much worse than getting hassle for telling the truth since you KNOW you are guilty.

When you say 'you ' do you mean me? I don't have the problem, as soon as I got with my OH and his DD I told my family we would be at home and that was that - no trauma, arguing etc...we visit Boxing day and have a fab time all round.

I'm just trying to give the OP some different angles, as the fireworks commence...

Morty_007

stay home, lock the door, phone off the hook and be your own family. Start as you mean to go on. Theres a new baby in town and things have got to change by the sounds of it! Good luck whatever you decide

belfastgirl23

Zazen999 wrote: »

When you say 'you ' do you mean me? I don't have the problem, as soon as I got with my OH and his DD I told my family we would be at home and that was that - no trauma, arguing etc...we visit Boxing day and have a fab time all round.

I'm just trying to give the OP some different angles, as the fireworks commence...

Sorry no I meant the OP. It's just I know when I tell an outright lie like this my cheeks flame up and it's written all over my face. and mums have a sixth sense for something like this!

Seriously though this feels a bit mean to me, to let her look forward to Xmas and everything, then pull the rug at the last minute, not only depriving her of what she wants but also her knowing that she's being lied to. Or maybe I'm just seeing what it would be in my own situation! But I know I'd feel an awful lot worse about lying than about having the fight. Then again I'm lucky, my mum would never lay a guilt trip like this on me, mainly cos it's exactly what her own mum did!