A not so happy relationship

astonsmummy

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Do you know that 4 women in the UK die from domestic violence a week. Yeah your reading the advice but your not taking it just giving us lip service. Its your choice at the end of the day but more fool you and you deserve what you get now.

OMFG how bloody dare you!
I have no idea if you have ever been in an abusive relationship but if you hae surely you will know that it's not just that easy to walk away no matter what advice is given!
You are sick to suggest that she deserves what she gets, do those 4 women, some of who have had lots of advice, some of whom have left then gone back deserve to die?
I'm so shocked that someone can think like this I really am :mad:

astonsmummy

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Well to be honest I have a very clear understanding of domestic violence as my mum suffered it for years when i was a child and i was old enough to remember everything i've also had it happen to me so yeah i do have an understanding of it.

Everyone has give her advice here and she's going back for more now. He will never change and more fool her for thinking that he will. So yeah people who go back for more are clearly asking for it. end of!

Understanding my aris, what did your Mum deserve the abuse when she didnt do anything about it?
You are one sick individual :rolleyes:

Butterfliesarepretty

Staciep88 wrote: »

Hi,

I really need to talk to some1, most of you will know me from various posts..well its all took a turn for the worst now. Sorry if this turns out long:

Me and OH have been together 2.5years, living together for 2 years. When I met him, he was in debt (see sig) so I started to help him out by making sure the payments were made to the cards/loan so that he didnt occur any futhur charges. Now here's the first bit that I mucked up on - I took out 2 cards in my name for him to transfer some of the balance to (Mint and Virgin - again, see sig) I done this as they were 0% on balance transfers and he couldnt get the cards himself. Now please don't tell me how stupid I am, becoz there is no1 that knows that more than me, I just need advice...

We have always had quite a rocky relationship, had our ups and downs but everything normally sorts itself out in the end. Until now that is. My OH has become so possessive over me - to the point that he checks my phone all the time and even gets funny about me seeing my family. He says nasty things about my family also. He has made me feel so small - you wouldnt beleive.

For example: this morning: everything was fine whilst in bed, we were just about to get up and he wouldnt let me go and i was getting angry because we were going to be late for work. Anyway - I got up and went to the toilet and he followed me and I told him to go away and he hit me in the leg, so I pushed his head out the way and he went mental - he punched me 3 or 4 times in my legs. It wasnt hard hard but it was enough to bring a tear to my eye. Im not gunna say I'm completly innocent in this as when we argue I do tend to shout instead of calmly talking to him, which to a point I can understand how he reacts whilst he's got my in his face shouting. After that I walked off and he followed me shouting various things such as 'Look at you!!' and I asked what that was meant to mean, and asked if he was referring to me being overweight and he said yes. Ok yes I am overweight, but I am doing something about it but when he said that I really did feel so small and pathetic.

This is just one of the things that has happened between us. He has hit me quite a bit, he holds my head under the quilt until i beg him to let me out.

I know the obvious thing is to leave him, but with £1,500 of his debt in my name I cant see a way out at the minute. (He still makes the payments to these 2 cards - but they arent going to be clear for another year yet!)

I have recently started talking to a bloke that I used to go out with when I was a bit younger, nothings happened, but talking to him and then going home to my OH makes me think....

Been there done that. Leave him before he is more violent to you. My ex I was with for nine years and sporadic violence got worse. Then a few years a go he re-married and now is gettingdivorced due to guess what - violence to his wife.

Never mind the money just get out now.

Believe me its worth it for your sanity.;)

Uniscots97

Does anyone how Stacie is?

katiekittykat

Just looked at her profile - her last activity was today - i hope she is ok xxx

bundly

Me also been there done that.

One thing I can tell you - the abuse WILL get worse, the violence WILL get worse. All these men follow the same pattern. They get worse and worse, seeing how much you will take, trying you out with more. You could end up dead. GET AWAY FROM THIS MAN.