Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

Nicki

AnnieM wrote: »

I'm sorry if anything I said made you feel like you had put anyone's nose out of joint, cos I'm sure you won't have done.

For me, it's only the people who post on a ttc thread for the very first time, specifically to announce a first month BFP that make me angry. They should take it to the pg thread, because it's one thing for someone to join the thread and then get lucky first month, it's quite another to never post before and suddenly turn up to basically say 'Wow, I'm up the duff just by sneezing, and I'm posting on the ttc thread to point out to you losers that I didn't bother to join your thread at all cos it was so easy I didn't have to try!':rotfl:

Anyone who joins the thread and falls pg first month is to be envied for their luck, but still congratulated, I feel! It would be churlish not to! Similarly, I can totally appreciate why you still read/post in here, although I wish you all the very best for your pregnancy, and hope you'll soon feel totally at home on the pg thread!

Best Wishes,

AnnieM x

Speaking as one of the curmudgeonly ones, I agree completely with Annie! Well done on your BFP triggles and I hope all goes well for the coming months

jiblets1

Hi all.

Had a bit of a surprise on boxing day, as one of OH's queue jumping friends decided to announce he and his OH are expecting. They are getting married in two weeks and look as happy as could be and I'm obviously very pleased for them. However. You can tell they've not been trying for long (they haven't), as if they had they would have thought to give us a bit of heads up. As soon as they said "we've got a bit of an announcement" I knew what was coming. My OH is his best man at the wedding and the groom knows all about how long we've been trying and I just think if he'd taken the time to think about it he would have thought not to announce it to us in front of everyone else... But luckily I was feeling quite sane at the time (probably well placed in the cycle, no AF or PMT to upset me) and managed not to get upset. However another pair of our friends are trying (unbeknownst to the others) and I had to find a minute to speak to the lady of the pair, as I could see she was upset.

This is the third of my friends to announce becoming pregnant since we've started trying and I've come to terms with my demons as far as it's concerned, and I have accepted that I can be genuinely pleased for them at the same time as being green with envy. I tried to explain this to our other ttc friends and I hope that it helped her. Isn't it just so hard watching everyone else's dreams come true? Sometimes I just feel I'm going to run out of patience at some point...

AnnieM_3

jiblets1 wrote: »

Hi all.

Had a bit of a surprise on boxing day, as one of OH's queue jumping friends decided to announce he and his OH are expecting. They are getting married in two weeks and look as happy as could be and I'm obviously very pleased for them. However. You can tell they've not been trying for long (they haven't), as if they had they would have thought to give us a bit of heads up. As soon as they said "we've got a bit of an announcement" I knew what was coming. My OH is his best man at the wedding and the groom knows all about how long we've been trying and I just think if he'd taken the time to think about it he would have thought not to announce it to us in front of everyone else... But luckily I was feeling quite sane at the time (probably well placed in the cycle, no AF or PMT to upset me) and managed not to get upset. However another pair of our friends are trying (unbeknownst to the others) and I had to find a minute to speak to the lady of the pair, as I could see she was upset.

This is the third of my friends to announce becoming pregnant since we've started trying and I've come to terms with my demons as far as it's concerned, and I have accepted that I can be genuinely pleased for them at the same time as being green with envy. I tried to explain this to our other ttc friends and I hope that it helped her. Isn't it just so hard watching everyone else's dreams come true? Sometimes I just feel I'm going to run out of patience at some point...

*hug* I know people shouldn't have to feel like they should apologise for being pregnant when other people haven't yet managed it, but it's still so difficult to hear someone else have the pleasure of making that announcement, no matter how happy you are for them.

liloandstitch

I second that AnnieM - more hugs from me jiblet1 - when my DIL announced their 2nd pregnancy she also added how hard they had found it to fall pregnant this time - about 8 months i think - I nearly choked on my coffee!!!

Lilo

PIXIEBUM

hello all

i am new to this so please dont shout if this doesnt come out the right way i only mean well by what i say in a minute.

i posted a thread about adopting but someone directed me to this page please take the time to read this and please dont judge me i am not the sterotype all young mums get.

thank you and happy reading.

hello

i had a child when i was 16 and got diagnoised with PCOS when i was 17.

i have been in a steady relationship with my partner all this time and have been trying to have a baby since i turned 19 but without much luck.

i know i am young still but these past years have felt like forever and seeing the subfertility clinic for the past two years with nothing is waring me away.

i love my son to bit he is my angel but with my group of friends (there is 10 of us, ranging from me the baby to 27) i am the only one to not have another child and the monthly wait to find out if it could be the day are getting me down.

i have the most supportive bf family and friends but i still feel like this will never happen.

when i was diganoised with pcos the first thing the doctor said was your lucky to have your son but he is the reason you have this and he is probably going to be your only one.

how am i meant to handle this?

because it is getting to the point where i cant take this added stress of everyone being pregnant and all these lovely babies i am refusing to bond with because it just feels so raw that everyone but me it feels is being given these blessings.

i just wish my son had a little sibling to play with and share precious moments with.

is adopting the way or is there another way at all because this is all i want. (very selfish i know and probaly will come across like this too but i promise i am not some stupid child i have thought about this everyday since i was told i may not have anymore child and seeing the clinic every three months to be told we shall see you in 3 months is not doing anything but making me feel more down.)

please help

and thank you for reading this.

myaccount08

PIXIEBUM wrote: »

hello all

i posted a thread about adopting but someone directed me to this page please take the time to read this and please dont judge me i am not the sterotype all young mums get.

hello

i had a child when i was 16 and got diagnoised with PCOS when i was 17.

i have been in a steady relationship with my partner all this time and have been trying to have a baby since i turned 19 but without much luck.

i know i am young still but these past years have felt like forever and seeing the subfertility clinic for the past two years with nothing is waring me away.

i have the most supportive bf family and friends but i still feel like this will never happen.

when i was diganoised with pcos the first thing the doctor said was your lucky to have your son but he is the reason you have this and he is probably going to be your only one.

how am i meant to handle this?

is adopting the way or is there another way at all because this is all i want. (very selfish i know and probaly will come across like this too but i promise i am not some stupid child i have thought about this everyday since i was told i may not have anymore child and seeing the clinic every three months to be told we shall see you in 3 months is not doing anything but making me feel more down.)

please help

and thank you for reading this.

Hi pixiebum, i too have PCOS. That does NOT mean you definitely cannot have kids. It is also not your sons "fault", hormones can go wonky for any reason. Secondary infertility is not uncommon and should be taken seriously. I don't know the specifics of your case, but i'm SHOCKED that a fertility clinic would tell you that PCOS prevents pregnancy. That is appauling :mad: Have you not done any reading on it? As many as 1 in 6 women have PCOS, it's fairly common. Infact it often runs in families, i.e. grandmothers, mothers and then our generation. That in itself proves that we can have kids!

Are you ovulating at all? What are your cycles like? What are your blood results saying?

The most common forms of treatment are with Metformin (for those with insulin and often weight issues [which in itself can cause subfertility) and Clomid (which stimulates ovulation). They can also prescribe you meds to induce a period and get your cycles going if this is a problem. Later they may try drugs like Femera, trigger shots etc combined with IUI or ultimately IVF (dependent on other issues).

There are a number of lifestyle changes you can make yourself, and alternative treatments - all of which can have a significant effect on regulating your hormones and ultimately conceiving. In the first 10 months of 2008 i only ovulated 2x, then i started weekly reflexolgy through November and December and have ovulated 2 months in a row!! :T

I think there are a few of us with PCOS on here. I know how hard it is, i have most of the PCOS symptoms (hair loss, excess body hair, acne, carb cravings, wacky hormones etc etc) and rarely ovulate. I know couples who have had as many as 3 children in the time we have been TTC, so i know how heartbreaking it is. Infertility/subfertility is one of the worst things a woman can go through and i'm sorry you are struggling too. If you can give us more info on your cycles we'll do our best to help

shelly

AnnieM wrote: »

I'm sorry if anything I said made you feel like you had put anyone's nose out of joint, cos I'm sure you won't have done.

For me, it's only the people who post on a ttc thread for the very first time, specifically to announce a first month BFP that make me angry. They should take it to the pg thread, because it's one thing for someone to join the thread and then get lucky first month, it's quite another to never post before and suddenly turn up to basically say 'Wow, I'm up the duff just by sneezing, and I'm posting on the ttc thread to point out to you losers that I didn't bother to join your thread at all cos it was so easy I didn't have to try!':rotfl:

Anyone who joins the thread and falls pg first month is to be envied for their luck, but still congratulated, I feel! It would be churlish not to! Similarly, I can totally appreciate why you still read/post in here, although I wish you all the very best for your pregnancy, and hope you'll soon feel totally at home on the pg thread!

Best Wishes,

AnnieM x

Annie. Thanks for this post, its exactly what I wanted to say to Triggles yesterday but my words all typed wrong so I deleted it and didn't post!

Nicki

Pixiebum

I had PCOS too when I was trying to conceive first time round. Mine was so bad that I had no menstrual cycle at all, and none of the drugs made any difference. I had one of my ovaries drilled and started ovulating almost immediately. I still needed fertility treatment to conceive my first child but my second was conceived naturally. I'm having problems with number 3 but not linked to PCOS anymore. It is treatable so if your existing clinic isn't being helpful perhaps you could be referred for a second opinion somewhere else?

jasmine36

Hi guys, hope you all had a great Christmas.

Well the countdown till we start TTC has officially started (again!) in this house. I am making the most of NOT TTC at the moment by blitzing the whole house, somehow I seem to have lost my way with the house this year and there is STUFF everywhere. So, as hubby wants to wait until February, that gives me approx. 5 more weeks of getting ruthless.

Was supposed to go visit a friend and her new baby today, wasn't sure how I was going to feel about it but she had to cancel at the last minute anyway. I long to be pregnant again and I just hope that i will be blessed with another baby.

In the meantime, I have blown all my savings on two holidays for this year. I might as well cheer myself up somehow, and the tin of Quality Street doesn't seem to have hit the spot ... although I'm sure it's hit my thighs!

The Counsellor called me on Christmas Eve and I'm booked in to see her for my first session on 8th Jan; thing is, it seems SO long ago since I lost little one (well, it was the 5th December but that seems like an age) that I'm not sure what my feelings are anymore. I'm hoping it's a worthwhile experience and I'm not just going to cry for an hour.

shelly

Hi everyone.

I don't want to go on and on about my cat as I know this is a TTC thread but a good few of you sent your good wishes for her so I just wanted to let you know that we lost her this evening.

I really thought we would have a couple more months with her but this evening she was really struggling. After calling a dozen or more vets we eventually found one that was willing to come out to us and she died peacefully and quietly in my arms.....well if you call me sobbing hysterically going peacefully


I feel strangely calm now she has gone as I know we did our absolute best for her this evening, she is at peace and not struggling anymore.