Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

FairyElephant_2

shelly wrote: »

Were told on Friday that the the precious girl we have had for nearly 15 years has cancer and there is nothing we can do for her (due to her age) without making her suffer. We don't want her last weeks/months with us to be spent in pain so we have taken the decision to keep a close eye on her lumps and let her go when the time comes. I know to some she "is only a cat" but we have had her nearly 15 years and I'm still trying to get my head around it.

Oh Shelly, Big (((HUGS))) to you. I too have had my current 'furry baby' about 15 years, since she was found as a teeny kitten tied up to a dustbin (how can people be so cruel to helpless animals - I will never understand).
I have had several cats come & go over the years, but she is my special 'baby' and I know I will be devatstated when she leaves us. As she is becoming an old lady now I try to make special time for extra snuggles with her - she is so affectionate and loves her 'lap time'!
I hope that your precious girl has as much time as poss. left with you.

FE

FairyElephant_2

In true Victor Meldrew style "I don't belieeeeeeve it!".
I have been so careful to avoid people who are ill at the moment, as there are so many bugs about I do not want to be ill over Xmas and for our holiday (especially knowing that I may not be able to take much medication if I do get ill).....Then last evening I started to feel very hot....then my throat got a bit tickly, then sore....and I started to sniffle....So now after a horrible disturbed night I def. am 'going down with something'. My head feels like it is stuffed with cotton-wool, throat lined with barbed wire, and the glands in my neck are swollen. AAARRRGGGHHHHH!

On a more positive note, I went to Sainsbury's last nite (not my usual shop, but had to collect some pressies for my mother who is housebound at the moment) and bought my test kits. Clearblue were £11+ each test :eek: ...but then I saw First Response (which claims you can test 6 days early! Wow!) which were the same price for a pack of 2...so you can guess which ones I bought! I am going to test tomorrow - which will actually be 2 days early. Anyone used First Response before? Last time when I got my BFP I had tried a couple of the tests with 'lines' and couldn't be sure, so I ended up shelling out loads of dosh for a digital test which actually said the word 'pregnant' so I could be sure!!!!!!!

GOOD LUCK for 11.00am Nottslass, will be thinking of you and as long as the engineers are not in the office I'll be doing the Fertility Dance! (not sure if having a tissue clamped to my nose will improve the picture.......)

FE

Nicki

shelly wrote: »

I know how you feel and I try my best to congratulate the women who manage it in their first month of trying but the women I do have trouble congratulating is the women who post for the very first time on either thread saying "I haven't posted before but have been reading for X months, well this week I got a BFP!"
I feel its quite insensitive. They have never posted before so we don't know them from Jack but they have to post just to tell us they got a BFP. Its almost like rubbing our noses in it.
Personally if all I did was read both the TTC threads but didn't post I wouldn't then post just to tell you all I had cracked it.

The last time this happened on the other thread, I had just discovered that our IUI had failed and I'm afraid I posted quite a snotty post to the offender, saying just that. They deleted it within 5 minutes of the original post!

I am with you Shelly in thinking that these posts are the height of rudeness, though I'm not sure that my way of dealing with it last time round is quite polite. Perhaps though if everyone refrained from posting congrats to these newbie posters, it might encourage them to take their announcements over to the pregnancy thread where they belong.

JoJo77

Hi All

Notslass - hope all went well at 11, I was thinking of you

Shelly - so sorry about your cat. We lost ours 2 months ago and I was totally hysterical. It also seems harder as so many people think they're just an animal and you therefore aren't justified in being so upset. Hope she doesn't suffer too much.

Jasmine - I had hypnotherapy about 9 months ago after my little sister fell pregnant and I didn't feel I could cope. It all sounds very melodramatic but I did actually start to feel suicidal. I cried for months and I couldn't talk to anyone about babies or see anyone pregnant without actually becoming hysterical on the spot. I even got so stressed my periods stoppped leading to numerous tests and brain scans as they thought I must have a brain tumour. Anyway, wittering aside, I saw this man for 5 sessions (£70 a time I should state) and he was fantastic. He just reframed how I felt, and made me feel more positive about the future. I still do have the odd time when I feel sad, and I have reached the point where I'm happy to have needles poked in me if it means I can have a baby, but I don't feel desperate in the way that I did. My sister now stays over the night regularly with my nephew who is 7 months now and I don't feel sad or jealous. I am able to enjoy him which I know I couldn't have done without the hypnotherapy - in fact I'm not sure I would actually be here. I'm still wittering, but I would recommend trying it as I felt immediatley better after the first session, and it didn't rely on going over and over feelings which you are going over and over in your head already.

Take care eveyone, and lots of babydust to you all!

jasmine36

FairyElephant wrote: »

Hi Jasmine. So sorry to hear about your losses. This time of year seems to make it so much harder to bear doesn't it? I was holding a friend's 2month old baby on Sat, and it near broke my heart to think that that mine should have been almost 4 months by now... but I have to cling to hope that I will get there someday. Have a lovely christmas with your OH and 2 little ones and rest, relax and be good to yourself. Hope the counselling will help.

Thanks Fairy Elephant, and I have got my fingers crossed for you tomorrow!
I think I've reached the stage now where, if Christmas happens, it happens. I think it's harder because no-one knew about little one #2 so I can't really confide in anyone, I wanted to wait until scans, etc., after last time, and they were slow off the mark at 14 weeks. Lots of love to you all xx

ClareEmily

Hi there everyone

Thought I would share my story.

I have been trying unsuccessfully for a baby for the last 5 years plus I have Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and am just about to turn 31, my hubby will be 40 next year. The NHS in West Sussex treated me with clomid which had no effect and I was poked and prodded then told I they didn't have the funds to treat me anymore (with IUI) as I actually live nearer Hampshire who will not do anything for me until I am 35.

We had a chat with a private consultant a year ago, but at the time saving for our wedding.

Sooooo next year need to get at least 4 grand together for a go at IVF (I do know once I go down that route though I will become totally desparate for a child), or look into adoption which my hubby isn't keen on....

My body clock is going TICK TOCK and I hate the pressure and insensitive comments from people (including my mum, which is very upsetting).

Ok got that off my chest feeling better now lol

Clare xx

jasmine36

nottslass wrote: »

Jasmine,Welcome to the thread,you'll find lots of support on here.I'm so sorry for your losses,fortunately,its not something I've ever experienced,but I can Imagine it hurts that bit more at this time of the year.Like you,I have 2 boys,aged 22 & 6 ( I like big age gaps.lol) but that doesn't take away the longing does it ?

Notslass, thank you, welcome is indeed how I feel on this thread. I am trying to enjoy my two little ones today but they have been FIGHTING all day. I am going to run them (and no doubt myself!!) ragged down the park in a minute; it worked yesterday. It's like having two red setters at the moment!! Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day and I'll feel like being a half-decent Mum. Oh well, at least I've started taking my folic acid again (I feel like I've been on it constantly for four years now) and I can enjoy a glass or two of Cava this Christmas. Love to you all xxx

jasmine36

nikkinoo wrote: »

Jasmine - keep thinking positive and remember that we're here. The support these girls (and the occasional boy) give is invaluable.

Thanks Nikkinoo, I do feel very well supported here, you guys are SO friendly and inspirational in the support you give to everyone else. Love to you all xxx

jasmine36

liloandstitch wrote: »

Jasmine 36 - I too have had 2 miscarriages recently, and so have a couple of others on here, so if you need to let off steam to get through it, post on here, or pm me - always ready for a helping hand!! Take care

Thanks Lilo, your kind words are much appreciated and, no fear, I SHALL be letting off steam on this thread!!! Love to all xxx

jasmine36

JoJo77 wrote: »

Jasmine - I had hypnotherapy about 9 months ago after my little sister fell pregnant and I didn't feel I could cope. It all sounds very melodramatic but I did actually start to feel suicidal. I cried for months and I couldn't talk to anyone about babies or see anyone pregnant without actually becoming hysterical on the spot. I even got so stressed my periods stoppped leading to numerous tests and brain scans as they thought I must have a brain tumour. Anyway, wittering aside, I saw this man for 5 sessions (£70 a time I should state) and he was fantastic. He just reframed how I felt, and made me feel more positive about the future. I still do have the odd time when I feel sad, and I have reached the point where I'm happy to have needles poked in me if it means I can have a baby, but I don't feel desperate in the way that I did. My sister now stays over the night regularly with my nephew who is 7 months now and I don't feel sad or jealous. I am able to enjoy him which I know I couldn't have done without the hypnotherapy - in fact I'm not sure I would actually be here. I'm still wittering, but I would recommend trying it as I felt immediatley better after the first session, and it didn't rely on going over and over feelings which you are going over and over in your head already.

Thanks JoJo, I had never thought about Hydnotherapy before. I suppose it would help not going over feelings which I feel I've done to death already. I just wish I could wave a magic wand for all of you, when I see some of the AWFUL people about with children; one woman was literally laying into her son in the middle of Woolies the other day, DS2 got REALLY upset, and you never know what kind of response you're going to get if you tell someone to stop hitting their child over the head just because they've pulled a toy off the shelf. Luckily her Mum (I presume it was her Mum) took the words out of my mouth.

Love to you all xxx