Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

ginvzt

FE, believe in yourslef!!!!! I hope your oh is right and you wonàt need to go through this again!!!!

Well, I am at in-laws and yesterday we wer to meet some friends and their baby. Who kindly let us know that another couple who got married in September are expecting a baby and she is her 3rd month! They even joked, that it must have happened on the day of the wedding or the day before!!!! I felt like I have swallowed the hedghog! I am happy for them but why can't people be polite and wait for their turn? (Sorry - just joking) Later in the afternoon we met another couple, who are also trying, and my oh told me that guy isn't happy either! they have been trying since summer and no luck to them either yet...

Well, at least we managed to BD last night, which would have been on CD11. Fingers crossed we might get there this month!

FairyElephant_2

Hi Ginvzt! Thanks - I am trying to find my PMA, but seem to have lost it - it's probably somewhere in the boxes of Xmas pressies yet to wrap, cards yet to write...or maybe hidden 'safely' with the 2 pressies I bought and can't now find at all!!! A few weeks ago I was so chuffed at having everything bought except 1 gift, and was going to be SO organised this year.....

Know how you feel - I just don't know what to say when people tell me that they (or others we know) are PG. I just kind of mumble something and hold it all in, then have a good cry when I am on my own or just with DH. I know that my best mate is trying for her 2nd, and she is actually worrying that she will succeed before we do, and I will be upset! Bless her...

Glad you managed to BD even at your inlaws - that was very brave! Hope you have a great Christmas and that the New Year makes all our dreams come true!

nottslass_2

Hello Ladies, ET is 11am tomorrow,please get your dancing shoes on,or send some "fertile thoughts" my way (I need all the help I can Get)

The clinic phoned yesterday with an update on the Embies.4 are doing what they should be,4 are abit slow & one didn't make it.
We haven't decided how many to put back in yet ,we'll decide when we know what grade they are.

Anyway,I've shaved my legs,waxed "my bits" and done a pedicure in preparation (I girl has to make an effort.lol.)

FE,Iam thinking of you and have everything crossed for a BFP (except my legs,as the DR may find things a little difficult)Like you,I have my good and bad days,goodness knows how I'm going to survive the 2WW !!!!

Lilo,My thoughts are with you,It must be so difficult,to go through all this treatment,which dominates your life,emotionally and financially, only to get a BFN,But where there's sperm and eggs there's hope !!!

Jasmine,Welcome to the thread,you'll find lots of support on here.I'm so sorry for your losses,fortunately,its not something I've ever experienced,but I can Imagine it hurts that bit more at this time of the year.Like you,I have 2 boys,aged 22 & 6 ( I like big age gaps.lol) but that doesn't take away the longing does it ?

Love and baby dust to you all

Nottslass x

jasmine36

Thank you everyone, you're all so sweet on here.
Well, have phoned the Doctors again and the Counsellor isn't going to be in now until the second week of the New Year. Ok, Ok, I appreciate people have to have a holiday but I don't think I can hold it together over Christmas. And it's not really the right time of year for bending friend's ears, is it. I'm getting through the days by eating ridiculous amounts of biscuits and just watching my other two play ... or fight, as they have been doing rather a lot of that lately, I'm sure they are picking up on the fact that I haven't got the energy to intervene.
My Aunt (uncle's second wife) has just had a little girl; she didn't tell anyone she was pregnant (apart from her husband of course) because she wanted to make sure everything was okay. Typically she's chosen a name that I would have wanted if I'd had a girl. I feel like such a cow, I just feel so angry that she's pinched a nice name and that I haven't got my babies. And then I've got my Mum phoning up going on about her niece and I just want to yell at her down the phone.
Goodness, where did all that anger come from? I feel slightly better now.

Nicki

nottslass wrote: »

Hello Ladies, ET is 11am tomorrow,please get your dancing shoes on,or send some "fertile thoughts" my way (I need all the help I can Get)


Nottslass x

Good luck Nottslass. I shall be ready at 11.00 to wing good thoughts your way (have the kids off school now so anything involving a phallic object might be hard to explain!)

Hopefully Christmas and New Year will prove enough of a distraction to make the 2ww go in a flash.

jasmine36

And i'm not sure OH understands. I can't wait until February to start trying again but he won't budge on that one. I know he wants me to take care of myself and make sure that I'm ready, physically and mentally, but I feel that, at 37, it's a race against time. If I wait until February, then it will be at least December before I have a little one to hold.
DS2 is being very very loving at the moment, it's almost as if he senses that Mummy needs extra cuddles, and he comes into our room in the morning for a cuddle when he wakes up now (usually he goes straight for the television)

nikkinoo_3

Despite everyone's difficulties you lot do manage to put a smile on my face - I've been feeling like I have the weight of the world's woes on my shoulders this weekend since AF started then I came down with ANOTHER stinking cold. It's good to know I'm not alone, and I hope 2009 brings us all much wanted BFPs to make all our troubles seem worth it.

I'm off to the inlaws with DH on Christmas Eve. Seperate single beds (same room), both with squeaky springs, squeaky floorboards and paper thin walls don't lend themselves easily to bding, but needs must!! DH's task is to ply his parents with just enough alcohol to make sure they sleep soundly! It's hard trying not to make anything squeak while holding in the giggles AND trying to inject an ounce or two of romance

Nottslass - I'll squeeze in a fertility dance tomorrow morning for you... best of luck.

Jasmine - keep thinking positive and remember that we're here. The support these girls (and the occasional boy) give is invaluable.

I wish everyone a very Merry Christmas and happy, healthy and above all POSITIVE New Year.
xxx

AnnieM_3

ginvzt wrote: »

Well, I am at in-laws and yesterday we wer to meet some friends and their baby. Who kindly let us know that another couple who got married in September are expecting a baby and she is her 3rd month! They even joked, that it must have happened on the day of the wedding or the day before!!!! I felt like I have swallowed the hedghog! I am happy for them but why can't people be polite and wait for their turn? (Sorry - just joking) Later in the afternoon we met another couple, who are also trying, and my oh told me that guy isn't happy either! they have been trying since summer and no luck to them either yet...

I know exactly how you feel. We've had a few first month ttc bfp's on the other thread recently, and I do honestly feel happy for them, but it's difficult to be as enthusiastic as I am for the 'long-termers' when they get bfp's because I feel almost like saying 'Oy! There's a queue!'. :rotfl: I thought when we started that this December might bring our baby's first yule, and I feel rather aggrieved that it hasn't. I'm just trying to forget about it all for now, and enjoy spending time with my family, and have a nice break until New Year!

Wishing everyone sparkly sticky babydust!

AnnieM x

liloandstitch

Hi everyone, sorry to have been quiet for a day or two - you know what it is like at this time of year - I dont know about counselling for infertility, I might need Alcoholics Anonymous!!!!!!!!! - only joking, Ive only had about 2 each night, but I dont drink much now, and thats enough to give me hangovers. Personally I am on DIY again this month, and have just started the 2WW but I actually had a bit of EWCM this month - dunno where that came from!?!

Thanks for the happy thoughts FE and nottslass, I am sending big fat vibes to FE (you know the tummy ones!) and I am ready with the fertility dance for you notslass, but I am taking my mil shopping in the morning, and I am just not sure how to explain it- especially as she doesnt think that we should have any more children as we wont have enough time for her¬!!!

Still waiting for the results of the cervical smear - they should be due any day now, they said 2 - 4 weeks, and it is 4 weeks today. Hopefully if all is well we will do another ivF cycle next month.

Jasmine 36 - I too have had 2 miscarriages recently, and so have a couple of others on here, so if you need to let off steam to get through it, post on here, or pm me - always ready for a helping hand!! Take care

Take care everyone!!! lilo

shelly

Evening all. Nothing to report, just wanted to add a few comments....

FairyElephant wrote: »

Know how you feel - I just don't know what to say when people tell me that they (or others we know) are PG. I just kind of mumble something and hold it all in, then have a good cry when I am on my own or just with DH. I know that my best mate is trying for her 2nd, and she is actually worrying that she will succeed before we do, and I will be upset! Bless her...

2 months ago I got a phone call from a close cousin of mine who told me she is expecting her 5th. She had been putting off telling me as this baby is her second pg since we have been TTC ourselves and she feels really bad for that.
I feel awkward (and a little bit cross) that someone has to work themselves up and get upset before they can tell me their news.
I am over the moon for her as she is a fantastic mum and my problems aren't her fault....which I keep telling her :rolleyes:

AnnieM wrote: »

I know exactly how you feel. We've had a few first month ttc bfp's on the other thread recently, and I do honestly feel happy for them, but it's difficult to be as enthusiastic as I am for the 'long-termers' when they get bfp's because I feel almost like saying 'Oy! There's a queue!'. :rotfl:

I know how you feel and I try my best to congratulate the women who manage it in their first month of trying but the women I do have trouble congratulating is the women who post for the very first time on either thread saying "I haven't posted before but have been reading for X months, well this week I got a BFP!"
I feel its quite insensitive. They have never posted before so we don't know them from Jack but they have to post just to tell us they got a BFP. Its almost like rubbing our noses in it.
Personally if all I did was read both the TTC threads but didn't post I wouldn't then post just to tell you all I had cracked it.



Maybe I'm just being too sensitive right now but I feel its a kind of kick in the teeth for those of us who have been trying for ages.

Edited to add~ I am not apologising for this but I know I am a little sensitive right now (referring to above comment I made) Were told on Friday that the the precious girl we have had for nearly 15 years has cancer and there is nothing we can do for her (due to her age) without making her suffer. We don't want her last weeks/months with us to be spent in pain so we have taken the decision to keep a close eye on her lumps and let her go when the time comes. I know to some she "is only a cat" but we have had her nearly 15 years and I'm still trying to get my head around it.