Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

nottslass_2

FairyElephant wrote: »

WooHoo - 10 eggs & 9 fertilised! - That's great Nottslass! And good to know that your DH's swimmers made it on their own!!!

How many can you have transferred? At our clinic it is max 2. Will you freeze any 'spare'? I know they are less keen on freezing blastocysts at ours, which is why we went for Emby transfer instead in the hope that we get some for the freezer. We did have assisted hatching on on the 2 put back though.

Hope you are feeling Ok and the after-effects are not too bad. Sit down and put your feet up with a cuppa, and let your DH run around after you for a bit!

Have a great weekend,

FE

I can have two transfered - but if the quality of the blasto's is good,we'll just go for single emby transfer,but we'll take advise from the embryologist re the decision-we obviously want to give ourselves the best chance -but the thought of twins brings me out in a cold sweat !!!lol.
As Blasto's don't defrost too well,it worries me a bit,but to be honest,I don't think I could do this again anyway !!!!

I'm feeling ok,just bloated - it hurt to roll over in bed last night !!! OH has been looking after me well,he went Xmas shopping today,so I hope that he thinks I deserve an extra special pressie this year !!!!!

Anyway,Hows you ? I bet you're counting down the days ,minutes and seconds,until test day !!! In the clinic yesterday,I was reading a leaflet about "surviving the 2WW" It mentions everything you must be going through - symptom spotting,being convinced its failed/succeeded,one Minuit,only to change your mind later,reading your stars (even if you don't believe or usually do it)to "reading into the significance of dates- "it must of failed/worked,because transfer was 3 years and 2 days since the goldfish died"etc.

Take care

Nottslass X

nikkinoo_3

Good luck for your 2ww Nottslass. xx

VK-2008

finking of u all

hope we all have a fabby 09

well im goign to try and get some more bd'in done before end of year should be ov at some point this week, roundabout xmas time so hey maybe mrs claus will provide oh with a wee bit of fun

lol

on a serious note tho we were having a discussion the other nite and we have found ttc to put a bit of a strain on our sex life. does any1 else feel like this i mean im not old but nearly 4 years we have been together and it used to be like everyday sometimes twice but now he's lucky if he gets it twice a week. i mean we do it more round about ov'in time but he get a bit grumpy saying i dont do enough. he doesnt mean it in a nasty way and we have talked about it. but i wondered if any1 else was the same

we have talked about it a few times and he knows where i stand and we do still get on great everywhere else in relationship. i just dunno. when we went to fertilty clinic one of the first leafet they gave us was on couselling they said they give it to evryone to see if they want to chat. i thought that was really helpful. we did talk about doing that if we felt we were unable to cope, or being stressed. i duno if i am making sense - i no what i am trying to say just cannot get the words our.

oh why does life have to be so complicated, we have got stuff on our mind, i am starting a new job and he looks to be changing his soon due to redundancies at work we are planing and saving for wedding and also ttc probs. i no things will be fine, its jst trying to find time to be with each other. u no that way where u get in a rut and u come home, get dinner telly and bed. u sometimes dont want cuddling or bd'in, any1 got some mse tips to bring back the romance to our lives and not make sex only about ttc.

we dont want to keep going out for meals or pics to have a rom nite. normally at weekend we chill and watch dvd but i work a sat so im dead groggy.

if any1 has any ideas or anyfind pls let me no - i would sooooooooo appreciate it. i would love to go home and have a wee cuddle without it being a ttc snuggle lol

thanks in advance

babydust to all

x x x x x x

ginvzt

Well, have brilliant Christmas and New Year all!!!! i am off in 15 min to the airport for our break at in-laws!!!!

nottslass_2

ginvzt wrote: »

Well, have brilliant Christmas and New Year all!!!! i am off in 15 min to the airport for our break at in-laws!!!!

Staying with the in-laws will put a stop to any BDing !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Have a great time & Merry Christmas

liloandstitch

Thats brilliant nottslass, I hope it all works out ok for you - the results are brilliant, my fingers are crossed for you and FE for the whole of the next 2 weeks, which is going to make cooking the turkey a little difficult!!!!! Of course I am going to be obscenely jealous if either of you get a BFP ................................

Lilo

JoJo77

Hi everyone!

Haven't posted for a while...

Congratulations Meltrix, another BFP and I've only been on the site for two months.

Fingers crossed for you FairyElephant and for you Nottslass - hopefully the best xmas present ever!

Welcome gymfiend.

We had our first hospital appointment this week. The consultant was really happy with DH's sperm results so is looking at me as the issue (which was a bit of a shock as DH is 52 and I'd pretty much assumed that his age was the problem). Had blood tests and a cervical swab but need to have a HyCoSy in January, Am a bit worried as the consultant seemed to suggest that it would be painful but they don't give any anaesthetic. Could anyone reassure me (or tell me how many painkillers I should take beforehand).

Wishing you all a fabulous Christmas and lots of BFPs for the New Year

Js_Other_Half

JoJo77 wrote: »

Had blood tests and a cervical swab but need to have a HyCoSy in January, Am a bit worried as the consultant seemed to suggest that it would be painful but they don't give any anaesthetic. Could anyone reassure me (or tell me how many painkillers I should take beforehand).

At least you've been told beforehand - I wasn't...:eek:

Anyway, don't expect to be driving yourself home. They don't allow partners in our NHS dept for this procedure unless they are needed to interpret.

Everyone is different - I couldn't say how you'll feel during it, but if I had to go through it again I'd probably break out the codeine I'd left from my section...;) Failing that, a couple of nurofen will probably help.

jasmine36

Mind if I join in?
I have also posted on the other TTC thread, Shelly kindly pointed out this one too.
I'm blessed with two boys, 6 and 4, but I've lost two babies this year and am absolutely desperate to hold another one in my arms. It's all I can think about. I'm having counselling which should be starting in a couple of weeks time; till then it's taking all the willpower I've got to keep myself out of Mothercare.
Anyway, a Merry Christmas to you all. We're not going to start trying again until February (husband's request) which makes it even harder, I think if I was trying again now (lost little one a fortnight ago) then at least I'd feel as if something good was coming out of all of this.
I know I can't replace the two little angels I've lost but nothing else seems to be able to touch the emptiness that I feel inside.
And I know, I am very very grateful for the two beautiful children I already have and I'm sure I will be blessed again soon; it's just nice to be able to post on here.

Love to you all xx

FairyElephant_2

Hi All,

Not such good news in the FE camp today - none of the 5 embies were suitable for freezing. DH was trying to put a positive spin on it, pointing out that we 'saved' ourselves the freezing and storage fees, and he is sure that this cycle has worked and I am PG already anyhow, so we wouldn't have needed them anyway.....but I am still very disappointed. I'll be asking serious questions when I see the clinic next year - I am still convinced that if they had let us go another day before EC we would have got more and some would have made it to the freezer, as they did last time.
I'm having a 'down' day today I'm afraid - and have been most of the weekend. Was busy all weekend, and although it was lovely seeing my godson, and having quite a few people around on Sat eve, I still don't feel very festive. I'm normally the 'life & soul' and our parties are known for going on to the wee small hours, but by midnight I just wanted everyone to go home so I could go to bed and have a cry...

And, can you believe it? - I went shopping on Friday evening, and the only thing on my list that I forgot to buy...PG tests! Means I have to 'brave' the festive shoppers today or tomorrow to get them - gggrrrrr! Still, at least it removes any temptaton to test at the moment - not that I really tempted at the moment, I'm feeling like I don't want to know, as I think it is going to be bad news....NOTTSLASS - I haven't read that leaflet but I think it sounds dead right!

Hi LILO - OK, just so you can cook your turkey easier I'll test on Xmas eve and let you know, but just for you mind!!!! Thanks for your thoughts & good wishes, and any PMA you can spare would be great....

Glad you got through your first appt JOJO - at least now the ball is rolling! Can't help you on the HyCoSy I'm sorry, but I'm sure someone will be along soon knows.

Hi Jasmine. So sorry to hear about your losses. This time of year seems to make it so much harder to bear doesn't it? I was holding a friend's 2month old baby on Sat, and it near broke my heart to think that that mine should have been almost 4 months by now... but I have to cling to hope that I will get there someday. Have a lovely christmas with your OH and 2 little ones and rest, relax and be good to yourself. Hope the counselling will help.

VK2008 - I know where you are coming from - TTC has had a detrimental effect on our sex-life too. When we were first together about 6 years ago, we were 'at it' all the time! Then when we decided TTC we still did it quite a lot, of course! then when we still thought it would happen 'naturally' I got a bit obsessed about timing it right - I would text DH with a smiley face when the OV predictor was positive, and we'd be at it like bunnies for a few days, then have a break in between....as we've progressed through various treatments I have to say that we have sex a lot less often, but we do still cuddle and snuggle a lot. Most of this last year it has seemed that one of us is always too tired, or whatever meds I am on have killed my sex-drive, and we've had lots of stressfull stuff going on too. Not really got any tips on bringing back the romance, but just wanted to let you know you are alone!