Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

toniq

Fe, awwwww what a mess at work xxx Let it all go over ur head! Ur pregnant! and thats how it is, like others have said u will cope we always do, i gave up work a few years ago as my occupation was too dangerous for me as a pregnant woman at the time ( i lost those twins) i was a special needs tutor xx We manage fine and if anything life is smoother for us as i run the house well, please dont stress it too much as u have a lil baby growing who needs a calm mumsy xxxxxxxxxxx hang in there xxxxxxxx

MadMac_2

snugglepants wrote: »

Hello :wave: Just popping over from "Trying For a Baby II" to show you this article I just read..........

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1198132/Ethical-storm-flares-British-scientists-create-artificial-sperm-human-stem-cells.html

Question is......would you?

Most definitely, I would to! x

toniq

For us all xx
xxxxx

FairyElephant_2

snugglepants wrote: »

Hello :wave: Just popping over from "Trying For a Baby II" to show you this article I just read..........

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1198132/Ethical-storm-flares-British-scientists-create-artificial-sperm-human-stem-cells.html

Question is......would you?

If this was our problem - definitely - I would jump at the chance. I have met a few couples at the support meetings who have to use donor sperm, and having spoken to them I know how hard it was, especially for the men, to accept that the child would not be biologically both of theirs, so I am sure they would agree!

FairyElephant_2

Hi All! Thanks again for your support - you are a lovely bunch of people you know that?!

Still feeling annoyed at work today, but colleague & I have decided that we're not going without a fight! I have nothing to lose in objecting to every reason they give for getting rid of me and even going to tribunal if I can/have to. I would find it hard to get another job at the mo' in the current climate, and certainly if an employer knew I was PG, and even if I did get one, I wouldn't get maternity leave, so I've got nothing to lose! The longer I can delay the situation, the longer I am getting paid! Then I will get 6 months of JSA, so if I time it OK then maybe I can move straight on to maternity benefit! Not what I had in mind - have never been on benefits before - but what the heck eh!?! Refusing to let it get me over-stressed..I must stay calm and not let the b***ards drag me down!

Saw the GP this morning - as expected she was not a lot of help, but at least my records are now up to date and she sent me off to the 'community booking nurse' to arrange Midwife appts. My first is booked in for Aug 10 - when I will be 10 wks.

Here's a tip which may help some of you ladies in the future....Because I stressed my age and previous problems to the nurse, and told her I was very worried about another ectopic or miscarriage, I said I wanted to see someone before 10 wks if poss.....so I have been referred to the Early Pregnancy Clinic which is at another health centre (not the EPU at the hospital which I have such nightmares about, thank goodness!). This will be on 17th July. Apparantly there is a team of midwives there who can answer questions and give advice, and can also book me in for an early NHS scan if they think it appropriate - Of course I will push for this, even though I have my scan at the fertility clinic on 16th! As far as I'm concerned the NHS has given me next-to-nothing while I've been TTC, so I want all the help/support I can get!!!!

Am I a bolshy girl today or what?!?!?!?!

Actually, all this work stuff has given me a kind of confidence that THIS PG is going to happen! My life always seems to operate on a kind of 'S*ds law' basis - so it seems very likely that I would have a successful pregnancy just when I get made redundant, just to complicate things. My life is perverse like that!!!!

Have a good day everyone,

(((HUGS)))

FE

liloandstitch

Great to hear you being more positive FE. And I think you are right about s*ds law.............

Lilo - Oh and I would too if I needed to,XX

snoopygirl

FairyElephant wrote: »

Hi All! Thanks again for your support - you are a lovely bunch of people you know that?!

Still feeling annoyed at work today, but colleague & I have decided that we're not going without a fight! I have nothing to lose in objecting to every reason they give for getting rid of me and even going to tribunal if I can/have to. I would find it hard to get another job at the mo' in the current climate, and certainly if an employer knew I was PG, and even if I did get one, I wouldn't get maternity leave, so I've got nothing to lose! The longer I can delay the situation, the longer I am getting paid! Then I will get 6 months of JSA, so if I time it OK then maybe I can move straight on to maternity benefit! Not what I had in mind - have never been on benefits before - but what the heck eh!?! Refusing to let it get me over-stressed..I must stay calm and not let the b***ards drag me down!

Saw the GP this morning - as expected she was not a lot of help, but at least my records are now up to date and she sent me off to the 'community booking nurse' to arrange Midwife appts. My first is booked in for Aug 10 - when I will be 10 wks.

Here's a tip which may help some of you ladies in the future....Because I stressed my age and previous problems to the nurse, and told her I was very worried about another ectopic or miscarriage, I said I wanted to see someone before 10 wks if poss.....so I have been referred to the Early Pregnancy Clinic which is at another health centre (not the EPU at the hospital which I have such nightmares about, thank goodness!). This will be on 17th July. Apparantly there is a team of midwives there who can answer questions and give advice, and can also book me in for an early NHS scan if they think it appropriate - Of course I will push for this, even though I have my scan at the fertility clinic on 16th! As far as I'm concerned the NHS has given me next-to-nothing while I've been TTC, so I want all the help/support I can get!!!!

Am I a bolshy girl today or what?!?!?!?!

Actually, all this work stuff has given me a kind of confidence that THIS PG is going to happen! My life always seems to operate on a kind of 'S*ds law' basis - so it seems very likely that I would have a successful pregnancy just when I get made redundant, just to complicate things. My life is perverse like that!!!!

Have a good day everyone,

(((HUGS)))

FE

Hi - I am new here - OH and I have been trying for nearly two years and getting no-where, I am the first to admit that we are both overweight, and need to take that seriously before we get anywhere, it can be heartbreaking any yet hopeful all at the same time, some of your posts have had me in tears, and I ave been watching the thread for ages, trying to be brave enough to join in! Finally the thing that has made me comment for the first time is my job,

FE I am a HR/Payroll professional, and I wanted to let you know a few things, if a Thursday is your day off - you are absoloutely not obliged to attend on that date, lets say for example you had (sorry if this is incensitive knowing the reason for this group) childcare arrangements to put in place - you should not be expected to change your plans at short notice, and to your own cost - send them an email to say you would be grateful for either a) more notice if they wish for you to attend on a non-work day, and that you would then need another day off in lieu, or b) insist that they do it on a normal working day. I would like to bet that if it is a redundancy thing that they want you in on a non work day so that you are less likely to show other staff members how upset you are - or cause a scene!

My second thing that I want you to know is that although early days if you have worked for the company for 26 weeks at the time that you are 15 weeks, even if you do get made redundant you HAVE to be paid Mat pay by your employer, this can work two ways, either by paying you your redun money, and keeping you on the payroll after until your stat mat pay runs out (or occupational mat pay if your company pays it) or they could include all of your Mat pay within your Redundancy pay!!!

I would suggest the first option, as whilst you are still on the payroll, you will still be building up Holiday entitlement, and as such will have to be paid the Holiday Pay Money!!!

I hope that all makes sense!!

Ps - where can I get a list of what all the abreviations mean?

x x

jiblets1

Welcome snoopygirl - I'm glad you've felt brave enough to post! (bet you'll be glad you did). Sounds like some good information for FE there.

Here's some abbreviations.

shelly

At last I have something positive to report. Before you all get excited, sadly it's not a test result :rotfl:

Hubby and I had a kind of semi serious chat at tea time and threw about a couple of ideas.
I asked him what he thought about going abroad for IVF and he said he had been thinking about it himself recently and its definately something he wants us to do some research on. He wants us to try a free UK cycle first though before we shell money out.
I only thought about going abroad today after seeing a news story about a couple who live not too far away from us.
The story... http://www.peterboroughtoday.co.uk/news/Quadruplets-Four-times-the-fun.5440175.jp


That brought us to the topic of me losing weight (not sure if they are as strict about a womans BMI abroad, I have to find out)
I need to see my GP about a mole I have so whilst I am there I am going to ask him about weight loss pills.
That will mean me going on the pill for the 6 months I am on the pills but we aren't really worried about that because its not happening naturally so 6 months on the pill won't make any difference.
Doc has told me before when we spoke about the pills that they are appetite suppressants but I'm not at all sure they will work for me because in all honesty I don't have to be hungry to eat
I can just sit there in the evening and fancy something so I go eat it. If only will power came as a pill
So I don't think they will be suitable for me but I'll ask him and see what he thinks.


Hope everyone is ok

shelly

becs

Ah Shelly that's really brave! IVF abroad, wow.
Good luck with the weightloss I know what you mean about willpower sometimes. I've really struggles with my weight and have tried loads of things including slimming pills (not the appetite suppressant ones though) in the last couple of years to no avail. I haven't however really tried since my hormones are back to normal now with the medication for the tumour. A friend at work said yesterday how her weight had crept on and she said if you just gain 1/2lb a week that is 2 stone in a year. The minute she said that I instantly thought blimey that means if I can lose just 1lb a week that's 4 stone in a year! Until now I'd always looked at the total I have to lose rather than a small target each week. It got me thinking I really can achieve 1lb a week and not be disappointed that the scales don't show 7lb loss ewach week! So I signed up for tesco diets again and am starting on the GI diet. I figured I can try this 1lb a week and this time next year be 4 stone lighter or I can bury my head in the sand and be 2 stone heavier this time next year!